Odd behaviour of a family friend GP

(As told to my wife yesterday by our teenage dog sitter)

Our dog sitter's Dad is a local Kidney Specialist. Like the kids of most Doctors, she has not had a physical for as long as she can remember. Now that she's a teen, her Dad figured she should have one so he made an appointment with this GP who goes to their church. She has known this old guy for years and was not looking forward to it. As it turns out, he's semi-retired, and he did the physical at his house where he has a small room with an examination table. He did not give her an exam robe and the examination was extremely thorough. Evidently she was too embarrased to tell her Dad anything about it. She wanted to know my wife's opinion.

Do you think this doctor took advantage of the situation? The girl is a really cute, blonde 15 or 16 year old

Wow.. I would say yes..... So she told your wife this and your wife told you?

She should at least try and tell her mother. Do you think he did take advantage? You would have a better idea since you personally know the situation. What does your wife think? It's too bad they couldn't find someone she didn't personally know.

I know I would feel strange if someone I knew personally was my doctor. I think it makes it very uncomfortable for people. My best friend's doctor is her uncle. That's who her parents sent her and all her siblings too growing up. She still goes to see him. She's 26 and he's never done a pelvic or breast exam or even recommended that she goes to the gyno to have them done. I think its just too awkward for the both of them. Which is too bad because that's not doing my friend any favors.

Doesnt sound the right thing to me....

Definitely something dodgy going on there. I'm all for sexual fantasy; but in real life anybody who takes advantage of a young girl like that is a scumbag of the highest order, who deserves to be locked up.

Sounds like more than just hidden desire, sounds like there was probabaly a hidden camera somewhere in the room. That is the only explanation for there being no exam robe. Unfortunatly, dear old dad may have been a party to the abuse as well. She needs to speak to her mother who needs to confront the father,in my opinion as the father of a daughter.

Strictly unprofessional..........

Yes, you never do that at home. And i don't understand why her dad send her to a retired friend

It is very awkward situation. We cannot guess what has happened. However, if the girl said it was strange, you better take some action.

I have to agree, that sounds totally weird. I think if the girls father thought it was time for his daughter to have an examination, he would have recommended a reputable doctor, and one that had an office, and at least let her mother make the arrangements. I can not imagine what the girl went through being examined by someone she knew, and not even having a robe. Being examined in his home and not a doctors office must have felt weird. I wonder if a chaperon was even available? Being that the girl told your wife about it, means she was concerned, and ashamed to tell her mother. I know it sounds sick, but as suggested, the girls father may have been in on it. I think your wife should say something to the girls mother about it, there is a possibility she may not even know. The girl may even need to some counseling to deal with this. I think the doctor was very unprofessional to do this, and from what you have said, it appears he took advantage of her as well. If the girl feels that she was molested, she should report it.

Whether or not something occured is certainly in question. Perhaps this semi retired doctor was an old school no nonsense kind of doctor with little to no regard concerning patient modesty. I think there was a serious error on judgement on the part of the parents by sending her to a doctor they know just because they know the doctor...Qualifications first and foremost.

This is why in opposite gender situations there is a third party. While the exam may have been professional it's an extremely risky situation. I can't imagine the doctor, of any age, wouldn't see this as a potential problem.

I hope the patient can find the strength to report anything that happened to a trusted party.

Indeed that's exactly why one must have a chaperone. To protect the patient and the doctor. I would never do an intimate exam without one. I'm not in the position of having the luxury of knowing my patients in advance.