Bear down

I've heard that the instruction to "bear down" is common (or at least not unusual) in rectal or prostate exams, I've never been told that in any of the 3-4 of those I've had. I think I've seen it in a couple of videos posted on the internet, too.

When I am bent over the exam table I am

Just waiting for her to come behind me and spread my butt and spread the lubricant on my anus and then have her tell me to bear down.. Then I know the finger is next..:-)

I love to push when being examined

"Bear down" seems to be the standard instruction. I have experienced an alternative. The doctor will tell me to "take a deep breath and hold it", while he puts his fingertip against my anus. As he starts to push in he tells me to exhale, an act which makes it impossible to squeeze my sphincter against his finger. The suddeness of penetration this way is an exquisite feeling.

"if you notice a difference between "bearing down" and not bearing down... Also how do you feel when you hear those two words? "

I've only had a couple of prostate exams. Same doc both times. The first time I got the bear down request, the second time I was told "a little resistance will make it more comfortable for you."

Hearing that does get my interest but what really gets me is the way she has me get ready. She has me stand up and then asks to take my lap sheet and have me turn around and lean over the table.

"If you're ready I'll just take hold of this.." seated in front of me takes hold of both corners of the sheet "and you stand up and turn and lean over the table." First time I did this I leaned on my elbows and was admonished "you'll need to lean down further...all the way..."