Your age the last time a parent was with you for an exam

@medfetperson uh…your mom sounds like a pervert

@medfetperson uh…your mom sounds like a pervert

I tend to agree. There is something quite wrong with this picture. I hope it is not a true story

I don't see anything particularly strange here. Probably a lot depends on the country. At the age of 10-11, I underwent rectal examinations for intestinal polyps, including anoscopy and rectoscopy. And it was not my mother who drove me, but an adult sister. Inspection was carried out only in her presence. Although she was not required to look, she was required to be in the office. My sister is clearly interested in me. She wasn't a pervert, more like satisfying her curiosity. There was no Internet then, and erotic magazines were banned in our country. It was forbidden to search children under 14 without adult supervision, especially where it was necessary to remove panties from a child.

Until the age of 12, when they took me to the pediatrician, she always demanded to strip me down to my underpants. The exception is when I have had a fever, flu or cold. The genitals were not always looked at. Usually she pulled back the elastic of her panties and quickly felt the testicles and looked at the cock. Mom didn't see much. Buttocks looked the same with the elastic band pulled up. At the age of 10, when polyps were suspected, the anus was examined for the first time. Of course, I knew that doctors do a lot, but I still thought that this does not happen. They took off my panties and forced me into very humiliating positions. With support on the knees and shoulders and lying on the back with legs apart. I sat several times, and the nurse lifted my legs bent at the knees, spreading them apart. These check-ups were always attended by my sister or another nurse if she was in the hospital. Despite the fact that I felt a strong sense of shame, I never demanded privacy or refused to be examined. I didn't even think it was possible to refuse at all.

17.

At 18, my mother said “you’re an adult now.” It was a relief her not being there but the exam was still so embarrassing.

Can't remember either parent accompanying me to a medical. I don't think we were as obsessed with medicals in school as some other countries seem to have been. In primary school we had the cursory head check for lice and a quick peek down your skivvies to make sure your bits looked ok. Other than that, we never had medicals at school after that. The only time you would visit a Doctor was if you had a problem.

I do vaguely remember the doc visiting us at home and checking myself and my two siblings during the flu epidemic in London in the early fifties. From what I remember he only took our temps (oral) and checked our chests with a stethoscope. He had to be brought in again when I got really bad.

Other than that. The next medical I had was when I joined the navy. No medicals in grammar(high) school.

@medfetperson no matter how overwhelmed a person is, it doesn’t give them the right to behave inappropriately, especially with their family members. Her behavior is gross. Reverse the roles. Imagine if this was a father telling his teen daughter he enjoyed seeing her in her birthday suit, telling her she “had a nice look” as he stared at her breasts. It’s disgusting and I’m sorry you had to deal with that.

@agracier typical boomer response. And stop calling women “females” and just say women.

@Kendz

typical boomer response. And stop calling women “females” and just say women.

As I noted and which many people of my generation undoubtedly know and experience, the times are becoming more prudish by the year and knowing which correct words to use is becoming an almost unsolvable conundrum.

Btw: my understanding of the word 'boomer' means a ballistic missile submarine. I guess i picked it up from reading too many Tom Clancy novels and growing up during the Cold War.

Btw: my understanding of the word 'boomer' means a ballistic missile submarine. I guess i picked it up from reading too many Tom Clancy novels and growing up during the Cold War.

Baby “boomers” came before the Cold War “boomer submarines” that were constantly in holding patterns off our coast waiting for the launch order. BTW, I think they’re still there today, just quieter than diesel or nuclear subs but noisier than Clancy’s fictional worm drive!

@medfetperson uh…your mom sounds like a pervert

I agree. This person’s mother sounds mentally unwell. Many of his posts include talking about how his mother sexualized him and his brother. Hopefully they are fictional tales.

@agracier Boomer comes from the term “baby boomer” and is used as reference to the the post WWII generation. I’d say current times are actually less prudish and more welcoming of alternative lifestyles. Also, both women and men currently seem to be more empowered in standing up for themselves and speaking out against sexual abuse when it happens thanks to the #metoo movement.

@DoctorPP and @Kendz . My mother was ill,no question it caused her a lot of pain. But she was my mother and a human being. Judge not lest you be judged

Boomer comes from the term “baby boomer” and is used as reference to the the post WWII generation.

Oh, I know and find it a derogative and slightly insulting term when applied to a person. We didn't seem to have special names for the generations preceding ours back when I was young.

Classifying people by generation and thinking up cute names was not something we were brought up to do when I was growing up. It is a means of sowing discord between generations and accentuating inconsequential differences in ages into cultural divides. This is not something that fosters unity and understanding.

We are straying into an aside issue, but one which is worth some explanation.

Nothing to do with submarines....

https://www.khanacademy.org/humanities/us-history/postwarera/postwar-era/a/the-baby-boom#:~:text=This%20generation%20of%20%22baby%20boomers,group%2C%20from%20toys%20to%20records.

When I was 15 and the doctor told her that he needs to do a genital examination and will advise if anything is a concern

I think @medfetperson ’s Mother, whatever her mental state, was humiliating and debasing her male children. Sadly, the doctor was unaware or looked the other way. It has NOTHING to do with being prudish!

@agracier Boomer comes from the term “baby boomer” and is used as reference to the the post WWII generation.

“Boomer” has a long heritage long before submarines and babies! It can be an adult kangaroo, a red squirrel, or a transient worker among other things!

I think @medfetperson ’s Mother, whatever her mental state, was humiliating and debasing her male children. Sadly, the doctor was unaware or looked the other way. It has NOTHING to do with being prudish!

I was called a 'typical boomer' ... and that is shorthand for being considered having different and less restrictive moral norms than (younger?) people do at present. There is now a steady evolution that society in general, is becoming less and less tolerant and more prudish as times go by. People from my generation are deemed to be too tolerant and accepting. We use the wrong words and apparently have the wrong set of moral references that are thought to be the norm at present.

That is what I meant by things becoming prudish.

I was 17 and was sick and my mom took me in to the dr. Got a couple shots, next day was no better and was admitted to hospital.

I got T-boned on a motorcycle when I was 19, spent a month in a hospital ward (yes, that was lots of fun), and afterwards, until I was cleared to drive again (car) my mother would take me to my appointments with the orthopedic surgeon. I remember her telling him that I was doing "too much" in her opinion (walking and working on my car) and the doctor told her, "He will know when to stop." She asked "How?" He replied, "Because it will hurt..." with a big smile.

I did get cleared to drive that day and that was the last time....long LONG time ago

Elaine (who still has some residuals from that little life experience, but still rode a motorcycle again)

My mom came in with me until I was 17.

I was nine years old, the exam was the last one by the pediatrician after being hospitalized for nearly a year and then bedridden for months after with Sydenham's chorea, a disease that affects muscle control. Dopctor's office was in a turn of the century 2 story house with two sets of steps leading up to the porch.

Mom started to get my wheelchair out of the back of the car, but I told I was going to walk all the way up, something I wasn't sure I could do, but, hey, I was stubborn. Apparently one of the nurses or clerks or whomever told Dr. Snow I was walking (something he'd said I probably would not be able to do) and he met me outside the front door. With tears in his eyes.

More than 60 years later that walk is still crystal clear in my memory banks, but I'll be damned if I can recall anything about the exam.

17. And it was still strip to undies, breast exam, and panties to ankles for a privates check.

15 , at the pediatrician office they require a parent to be present at the visit.

My mom accompanies me all the time even at my tender age of 37. She always has to tag along to see how healthy I am, thats how Mexican moms are... very over protective of thier children...

Must have been around 15 or 16, I think, but I don’t have super clear memories of it, weirdly.

@agracier

I was called a 'typical boomer' ... and that is shorthand for being considered having different and less restrictive moral norms than (younger?) people do at present. There is now a steady evolution that society in general, is becoming less and less tolerant and more prudish as times go by. People from my generation are deemed to be too tolerant and accepting. We use the wrong words and apparently have the wrong set of moral references that are thought to be the norm at present.

That is what I meant by things becoming prudish.

With all due respect I must disagree. A desire for dominance over other family members can be an indication of misogyny and narcissistic personality traits. These kind of unexcusable behaviors are a red flag for serious mental disorders.

With all due respect I must disagree. A desire for dominance over other family members can be an indication of misogyny and narcissistic personality traits. These kind of unexcusable behaviors are a red flag for serious mental disorders.

I wrote that my experience is that young people nowadays, find us 'baby boomers' (I term I dislike) to have been too tolerant and too permissive and too open. You seem to ascribe exactly the opposite character traits.

How you get from BBs being too tolerant and open to us then being supposedly misogynistic and having mental disorders is a mystery. There is no logic to that reasoning.

13/14….I believe

14 was the last time at 15 the doctor had my mom wait outside

I wrote that my experience is that young people nowadays, find us 'baby boomers' (I term I dislike) to have been too tolerant and too permissive and too open. You seem to ascribe exactly the opposite character traits.

How you get from BBs being too tolerant and open to us then being supposedly misogynistic and having mental disorders is a mystery. There is no logic to that reasoning.

@agracier. Sorry. My mistake. I entered the wrong post. I meant to respond to post #450. My comments have nothing to do with baby boomers at all

Sorry. My mistake. I entered the wrong post. I meant to respond to post #450. My comments have nothing to do with baby boomers at all

OK. No big deal. Can happen to anyone.