This is a topic I have been looking at over and over again over the past few years.
When we first met over 4 years ago, I brought up spanking to him for the first time, giving and receiving, and was given an answer of, and I quote, "that's a hard limit for me hon. I was taught never to hit a woman." Then I had to explain to him that there is a difference between hitting and spanking, I wanted to be spanked, and I wanted to spank him too, which again he associated being spanked with probably negative thoughts of his childhood.
Well, about one day, 6 months into our relationship, I told him to get naked and stand in the middle of the room. I went to the bathroom, dressed in all black leather, knee high boots, riding crop, you get the idea, way different than my all white nursing whites he had been used to seeing me in, and long story short, I started spanking his ass with the crop, and my hands, hard enough that it broke blood vessels in my palms of my hands. Needless to say, whether he wanted it or not, his penis sure did react, stood at attention with a quickness and was very drippy. From that reactions, I assumed that what I was doing was exciting him. Well, from that time on, he's begged me ever since to spank him more and more.
It took him a bit longer to get out of the mind set that he was hitting me, but rather spanking, and that IS what I wanted from him. When he first started, it was light little love taps, now he's stronger, physically and mentally and wants to spank me the way I want and need to be spanked by him.
However, this pussy and clit spanking thing, yes, this also very much interest me.........a lot. The other thing that interest me about being pussy smacked or spanked is that I would have to be put on my back and he would have to tell me to spread my legs open, that will be embarrassing for me, which I also love. So, I will have to talk to him about going there someday soon., if he's ready and willing.
Time will tell.
Any suggestions on how to get him to do that to me?