My girlfriend's fantasy

My girlfriend and I have been dating about a year. She introduced me to enemas. She loves to give men enemas. At first, I was very reluctant and I took a lot of convincing. She pushed and pushed until I finally gave in.

I found the the first one extremely embarassing which I discovered is what really turns her on about the whole thing - the embarassment of the guy getting the enema.

For a while, this worked out fine. For a good six months I found the whole thing embarassing - especially her being there for the evacuation which of course she insists on. The smells and sounds embarassed me a lot - also because I am always naked and she is fully dressed during these sessions.

But now that I am adjusted, I don't get too embarassed any more. I mean she's given me like 100 enemas.

What I get out of this is how turned on she gets and at first, I got the best sex of my life after she gave me an enema. But, since my embarassment is what turned her on so much, she isn't as turned on now that I am over the embarassment.

Her ultimate fantasy is to have another person watch or help her give me an enema. She knows I am a very modest person and that I would be totally embarassed by having anyone else there while I am getting an enema. This would turn her on big time, I know.

And I would get the awesome sex afterwards. I am very nervous though and not sure I can do it. She of course, keeps pushing and pushing like she did about the first enema.

I am wondering what others think. Would it be too degrading to have an audience? Are there limits i should get her to agree to? Should I do it if I am not comfortable just to get hot sex later? Has anyone else ever had an audience? My most important question though is this: Am I in an abusive relationship? Is my girlfriend disturbed?

I don't think you should involve other people to just watch unless you have been in a sexual relationship with them in ther past. Bringing in third parties have been disastrous to some people.

DON'T DO IT.

I agree with what Susie said, I wouldn't do it if I were in your shoes.

It's not for us to judge whether the relationship is abusive or if your lady is disturbed. But since you're asking yourself (and us) that question, it might be a good idea to take a mental step back and have a look at the whole picture. What's the rest of your relationship like? Do the two of you have a lot in common, do you enjoy the same kind of things, have mutual friends? How do you feel overall about your girlfriend? Is she the love of your life or maybe not quite so much? I guess there is one thing I can say definitively; if the only time that sex occurs is when you've been made to feel embarrassed, if that's the only way she derives pleasure, then I would have some serious second thoughts about this relationship.

I'm putting my Dr. Ruth cloak away and going back to being,

LadyDoc

PS. Welcome to the forum, by the way!

If you're not comfortable then don't do it. The one suggestion I might give you to help bring some of the embarassment back would be to do something that takes you out of your comfort zone with just her involved( say an enema in your back yard(as long as your neighbors aren't too close or able to see)). Though you just never know what one may happen to see though. 😉 Maybe introducing something like that instead of another person.

What ladydoc says is very good questions to ask yourself. Good luck.

As long as you are enjoying the enemas and the sex, I would not "lose" her, but long term, she has no potential, unless your goal in life is to find "new" embarassing situations that will constantly feed her need as you describe it. I don't think that is possible nor do I think it fits in with your desires based on your post. Find someone else that makes you happy!

If the "guests" are over the age of 21 and in the lifestyle then there is probably more upside than downside. Do insist on "turning the tables" on your GF - perhaps an enema or two for her with the same guests watching, her wearing a diaper while she does you, and so on.

If she refuses, then see all advice above!

Here the answer of an old man , with a galactic imagination and some experience of the common life .

Be logic , trying "something" for the first time can be positive , neutral or negative , and this for any thing .

If you are exercising for the 100 time the same thing your judgement and appreciation will be very different from the first times .

You are a man , and a happy one because your girlfriend have evoluated in the same way as you , lot of ladies are staying all her life on the same positions and choices , so enjoy your luck .

LIMITS , there are NO RULES and NO LIMITS , but you have to respect your health and your couple , and a three some can be nice but jealousy can born ,

Health they are extreme games if you die , that was your last game , not so nice !!!

Never refuse a trial , but play and love safe . Refusing is going backward , and only stopping is allready becoming late or the latest , did she enjoy the fact to be loved in the same way during many years ? refusing the evolution is running to the past .

NOT accepting a game is not a problem , but if it is usual the result will be that the partner will think :

Why will I propose a fantasy ? for receiving a negative reaction , and so tired from negative experiences , there will be no more funny proposals .

Akid must taste the food before to may say I don't like this , an adult is only an old kid .

Arthur

Wow-i dunno-i found that third parties are exactly THAT-if someone you really trust could be brought in-but i guess it comes down to whether you wish to be emabarassed or not. what happend anyway? good luck

Your future in this relationship is limited. Susie and Ladydoc are right!

Give the enema to her

Well my girlfriend prevailed over all of the advice which I got on this board and last night she had a guest over to help give me an enema. My girlfriend is like a steam roller and when she wants something she pushes and pushes until she gets it. I was no match for her.

What made this even odder was that the person she found was a guy. He was 40ish and into domination. She found him on a sex chat room. He was married and not gay, but somewhat bi as he agreed to this.

What really surprised me was that I was not AS uncomfortable as I thought I would be until the very end when I expelled. He didn't touch me really. He handed her things and held the bag etc.... He made a lot of humiliating and degrading comments and then she would laugh.

I could tell she was VERY turned on during the whole thing and in spite of myself, I got turned on too. Me being totally naked and them both fully dressed added to the excitement/nervousness. The guy kept pointing it out and reminding me that it represented my submissive position. I really kind of enjoyed it a bit which makes me worry if I may have latent bi-sexual tendancies. I think it was more just the degradation that got to me. I was erect for a lot of the time. I was also feeding into my girlfriend's obvious arousal and I knew that fantastic sex was going to happen when the guy left.

And it was THE BEST sex we ever had. I do want future helpers to be female though.

Why don't you bring another woman to watch her give you an enema and then watch you give your G.F an enema. What do you think she would do?

Dwyern has not indicated that the gf(?) takes enemas from him. I have the feeling that this is a one way street and that there is no turn one for her getting an enema.

Prehaps if you both agreed on a person beforehand, maybe search the same chatroom as a couple rather than your girlfriend looking alone?

If you got to know a few people you could maybe have more than one the next time.

Or maybe incorporate enemas into other kinks you both have, eg BDSM, bondage etc?

I agree with Susie. Your relationship with your girlfriend and the other person you bring in (assuming you both know them) could be awkward or total disaster. Maybe role play your embarassment.

I would tell her that if she brings in an other girl, your pick, she would be fair game for you. a stranger would be the best. let me know how it goes.

Extra folks can be disastrous unless you plan it out well.

Sounds like she is a natural Dominant, and that is what works for her. I have found my lady likes to to watch and have an audiance. And yes our sex after any form of play is always awesome! Think about it and maybe try it once, with negotiated limits as others said. Example is the otehr girl can not be present during the evacation.

Your GF is a freak. Get far away. Give her my address.

My girlfriend loves to give enemas, as well as receive.

Give your girlfriend an enema.Also do not allow the 3rd party.

I would suggest that you expand your experiance and tell your GF that it is your turn to give. You might also want to use a Y connector and take one together, that can lead to some very good sex.

As to a third party being there, you shouldn't allow it unless you like it, or bouth of you are ready for a three some. All giving and recieving.

I would love to have another lady there, perhaps an older lady or her sister to watch or even help. This would have to be someone that both of you completely trust and there is definitely the potential for problems with a third person, but I do know other people that do this...