Meeting a woman's needs

I'm 69 years old and my husband is 70. While Walter has reached the point where even Viagra will not help; I am not yet ready for the grave.

I have noticed that a lot of the women who are members of this form list their ages as under 40. So, I assume that these women have an active sex life. However, even at such a young age; I am sure that they have discovered that men just don't understand an woman's need for sustained preparation before engaging in satisfying sexual relations.

For those female members over 40, who no longer think in terms of having children; you have been freed up to enjoy sex. Also, by this time, you should have pretty well trained your husband in what you needs are.

Well, I have been through both of those stages. But from the time I was a young woman; I have had my trusty bag. Early on, I trained Walter on how to give enemas. Sp, I took control of the love making. Walter knew from early on that if I had a candle light dinner set that before he went to sleep, he was going to " get lucky."

A little wine with dinner, my enema, a little cuddling and I was ready to be on top. Walter never complained about how I controlled our love making.

Well, those days are gone; but I still have a mind to fantasize and I can still go solo on my enemas. So, I continue to live a happy and satisfied life.

Happy Returns,

Joan T.

You go girl!! Nothing wrong about a woman controlling a Mans life(sometimes).

How wonderful! I'm not into dom/sub, but if my wife would only loosen up enough to allow me to include enemas in our repertoire, we'd have a 1000% better sex life, even though she's 71, and I'm 77. She likes sex her way,(vanilla) and I sometimes feel used, when it's her way or no way. There's no doubt that sex requires preparation, especially as you get older, and I see a huge gap between those of us that enjoy enemas and all the rest of the population. Oh how I wish I could get her past her prudery and into at least some degree of acceptance of enemas as a legitimate form of sex play!

Nice story Joan. I think open discussion about what each partner wants (sexually and otherwise) in a relationship is key to that relationship succeeding. It gets around the problem of men not understanding womens' needs for extended preparation, for example - I'm sure a lot of men just don't think about it but would be happy to accommodate women if it was brought up. But that's just my thinking.

Personally I think American society (assuming most of you are from the US?) is so sexually repressed that it's difficult for many people to talk openly about their sexual needs, even to long-term partners. Especially for things out of the ordinary, like enemas! If our culture didn't stigmatize sex, so many people would be more open-minded and enjoy themselves more, and people would have a much easier time bringing up what they wanted out of sex.

I think that is wonderful that you continue to enjoy sex and especially your enemas. I wish my wife was an enema lover as I am.

I am 70 and sometimes have difficulty maintaining an erection. I take Levitra but need a little extra help occssionally. Check with MD about a device called Erecaid. Also, if libido is an issue, I use what seems to be effective, Libido-Max, available at local Rite Aid. Above all, my giving my very attractive wife oral sex is a turnon to both of us.My wife isn't into enemas..I do myself for pleasure and health maintenance purposes. Good Luck

At 68 I still can get an erection but I am really starting to slow down.I don't use any sex enhancing medication but I can use an enema fantasy as a stimulate. Just imaging a women telling me she needs an enema is sometimes enough, Or remembering a women telling her enema experiences really helps.

Men really dont get it about some things...it is good to hear you have asked for what you want. i have had prostate cancer and it takes an injection, but if a woman is understanding then i certainly can be😃

Wise is the man who remembers that the largest sex organ is the BRAIN! ESPECIALLY for women!

At 72yrs young,I am not slowing down,in fact,Iam speeding up, allways willing to pleases any woman at age with the most sensitive feeling for their pleasure.I can truly appreciate a woman who stands by her man and does everything to please him.Let the good times flow.w/m72yrs/Western Ma

Dear madeline

being 61 male with E-D i love the foreplay (lots of it)

love touching and tasting

i run into trouble i get them so hot they demand intercourse

they either get pissed or just laugh at me

so i just stay alone fantasize and do my E,s

[quote author=twobagger link=topic=4112.msg44771#msg44771 date=1220670105]

I can truly appreciate a woman who stands by her man and does everything to please him[/quote]

Hi Twobagger, I want to compliment you on this sentence because many times when a woman does everything to please her man, she is taken for granted without any appreciation! So you deserve a karma for thinking this way.

Dear joan

i can relate to that as well as a man i can tell you for certain there are alot of ladies out there who are the same way as your hubby

even worse

hang in there hun i know i am

The brain is the key.

Hi Joan,

You sound fantastic! I wish you lived near me!

Respectfully,

Mark

I'm 51. My ex is now 49 and never had any ED issues, but since I became single and started dating, I now believe that many men in their 50s and up have some degree of ED. The good news is that it's no longer a taboo subject and many guys are pretty open about it. Males go through a type of male menopause where their testosterone level drops significantly. It's just a fact of life. Then there are cardiovascular issues, etc.

I've also noticed there are two types of guys. There are those who really want to please their partner and aside from taking Levitra or a similar drug, they aim to learn what you enjoy and then try to please you. These are the guys that you, as a female, naturally want to please as well. You have a healthy relationship and a mutual understanding.

The other type of guy is just interested in himself. They've decided "he" doesn't work most of the time and if there's no enjoyment for him, then what the heck, who cares. There was a guy I was dating that had ED and didn't take medication for it. He could, however, orgasm if he got oral sex. Well fine...but he usually didn't reciprocate. I found this trait undesirable and dumped him. Regardless of all the other positive things about him...and there were many, a stingy/lousy lover is not something I wish to accept.

Arianna

When I was younger, all I cared about was getting off!! I have lived and learned a lot in the last 20 yrs. It is my goal to give the women her orgasm first. It is almost an orgasm for me to see her go first. You ladies should get a medal for putting up with us because when we are young most of us think with the wrong head!!!!!!

We are called "Old and Wise" for a reason.

So very true. I learned early on that the best way to have great sex was to listen and learn. Knowing and doing what turns a lady on will lead to the most wonderful sex you ever had.

If a man doesn't reciprocate, passionately and enthusiatically (and slowly), then he is not emotionally involved (on an equal basis). That's what I believe, anyway.

Why oh why can't my spouse see that? 😳 >😢 :-\

I read this and wonder what is wrong with a lot of men out there. Sounds like they don't love the person they are with anymore. Being around my GF who is over 50 and I am almost there hasn't changed my feelings for her. I know what it takes to get her motor running which gets my motor running too. I know what it takes to get her going to the point that she can't control what her body does and is under my control. Sounds like to me that men need to do more exploring as to what turns there partners on.

Intrepid-the spouse in question has to have the desire first before he can get any motor running!And he won't go get his testorone checked to see if that is an issue why he has a low libido.I think he thinks that I'm just trying to get him to go to the doctor just so I can have more sex for myself.Obviously,I'm not worth the effort to try and make things happen!If he really was concerned about wanting to be more intimate,he would beat a path to a doctor like most normal men!I've rarely seen any guy NOT want to get that fixed!He takes a pill to make the mechanics work but only once a month or less.The side effects are bothersome so he only takes half a pill which works good but it don't make the brain desire it more often.It's very frustrating for me-he knows it's an issue but doesn't seem too concerned to go any further and is satisfied as things are I guess.I'm his third wife and I guess I get what's leftover!

Nice to hear that one dosen't get tired of enemas even in the golden age and that it still gives pleasure!! live long and prosper

I prefer Cialis over Viagra. I buy 20 mg Cialis from overseas. The overseas Cialis is just as good and probably less than 10% of the drugstore price. A half a tablet of Cialis keeps me going for several days. Try it, you will like it.