Relaxation Before an Enema

How important is relaxation to you before an enema ?

I was just thinking about how my 70's college gf used to have a chamomile (or other relaxing herb) tea and ask me to use the rest of the tea in the her enema water.

I also heard how a London based enema Mistress used to offer a relaxing hot beverage to her clients before an enema. In addition, I have an old 80's movie featuring a woman who massages oil all over her lady friends bottom before giving her an enema. So relaxation, apparently, is brought about by various means and appears to be often associated with a good enema.

Do you do anything in particular to relax ( or to relax your partner, if such is the case) ?

Is relaxation an important part of your enema ?

Relaxation is the most important part of an enema both before and during. If you are not relaxed going into it you will cramp more and be more tense.

"The best of times, and the worst of times." "I have to give you an enema. I'll be doing that in about 20 minutes." How in the heck does a person who enjoys an enema RELAX? LOL. Anticipation. YUMMY. Walt

Soothing relaxation does a lot for the mental and physical stimulation as well, both before and during a good enema.

Personally, since I am not all that big of an enema lover, if I am going to take one, which consequently are almost always for medical reasons, I have to be ready.

Being ready to me means that I have to be warm, relaxed, feel safe, and be with either the man that I love watching over me, or totally alone and without a fear of intrusions.

I'm with Mash on this(relaxed, comfortable, and warm). Except I had some type of reading material to help take my mind off of what was going on.

You know, Mashie and MissStress, if you would have a different attitude, and view the enema as something very pleasurable and satisfying, instead of something that makes you a submissive, you could enjoy enemas like the rest of us. 😁 😁

I am trying to like them Susie, honest I am. I am more keen on the idea these days meaning over the past few years than I was before.

I think you are right though, a lot of it is a mind-set thing. Slow and steady wins the race so they say, so I'm working on it, lol. Fact is, I still find myself quite embarrassed when I get them believe it or not. I'm not sure how to over come that embarrassment. Any ideas?

The more relaxed I am, the easier it is to take a good series of Enemas and to hold long enough to get good results. I also find the Enema itself to be very relaxing.

Dan

I do not relax before an enema session. However, I do prepare myself mentally hours before by slowly moving my enema stuff from the bathroom to the bedroom in a sort of ritual way. After my evening meal and the kitchen is cleaned, the rest of the night is mine. My wife knows ahead of time because she is a very observant person. She knows the upstairs bath will be used that night. My relaxation starts when the tube is inserted, and thereafter for the next five hours.

Let the good times FLOW

A lot of very interesting points of view.

Random thoughts:

Since I find the idea erotic, I am going to try what I saw in one of my 80's erotic enema movies: I am gong to give a nice warm oil ass massage before a warm mildly salted water or milk enema.

I find it interesting that the women in most of my enema flics prefer soft talk and relaxation before and during an enema.

On the other hand, with an inevitable enema, say in a hospital setting, that includes dread, potential embarrassment and lack of privacy, there is a kind of excitement that is stimulating in a different way. In that case, one is obliged to relax. No choice...or endure cramps and potential disaster (premature expulsion). In other words, another has been given the rights to decide how much water will fill your bowels and also the nature of the solution. Soap, in most hospitals, seems to be discretionary and is included in some enema kits. As the enema progresses and the feeling of fullness relentlessly increases, you are obliged, forced to relax. By experience I have found that even the most congenial of nurses can seem uncompromising and unswayable during those particularly trying moments when you have the most imperious desire to void your overfilled bowels of the warm soapy waters. Well that was the 70's and maybe current day nurses are more flexible.

On another note, I found it very erotic to give a long slow enema to my college gf after she had relaxed with a herb tea. Using the soothing relaxing tea to give her an enema was, in my mind, very erotic. It rendered her all the more submissive ( by choice) and receptive to receiving a larger than usual enema given with an enema nozzle that was more challenging than the simple drug store fare.

Rock,

Just my two cents worth here, not that you really care or need to know lol, but as a nurse myself I can tell you that putting soap into an enema is absolutely not at our discretion. We have to have a doctors order to do that, or to even give an enema, whether it be a fleet or a bag, and if it's a bag the doc has to write the order spelling out "bag enema".

And yes, we are at best congenial when doing such procedures because we hate that we have to do them to our patients, as most of our patients find them uncomfortable and embarrassing at best, so we just want to get in, get out, and be done with it. Besides that, they are very time consuming for us, and require a lot of documentation which is also very time consuming, time we usually don't have even on the best of days. We usually are uncompromising and unswayable because we have a job to do, we don't have a choice in the matter, the docs are ordering us to do it, so we just put our noses to the grindstone and proceed forward, lol.

Boy, for me, relaxed is the last thing I want before an enema. Usually I have at least a "firm-on" like now in anticipation of the enema to come. I like to feel the tension build ahead of time, especially just as the nozzle is about to be inserted.

My ideal enema fantasy would be to get an enema from a woman in a massage parlor. The tension would build from the moment I laid down on the table, until I blew a wad or six. Followed by a relaxed expulsion afterwards.

Mash,

Thank you very much for the update on administrative protocol relative to enemas. Btw, soap was quite frequently used in the 60's and 70's. Your description of the necessity to perform the ordinance (enema) as rapidly as possible explains why, for some patients, an enema is submitting their intimate parts to what they percieve as the merciless efficiency of a nurse.

From a male patient's point of view, things are a bit different:

In order to better understand the premice that potentially creates a fetish or kink, let me elaborate for a moment on a male patient's perspective. My first "bag enemas" started in my teens. At that age my hormones spoke louder than the voice of reason and I had to make an effort to hide my vulnerability relative to sexual arrousal. Simply stated, I was horny most of the time. So, I was filled with dread and the fear of embarrassment: not to mention the idea of having to expose my private parts to a stranger.

As I soon discovered, the feeling of fullness in my belly and bowels seemed to stimulate the genital region and sexual feelings added another dimension to the experience. This served to complicate things even further. And now there is the embarrasement of becoming sexually arroused against one's will. Producing, as we like to call it.. a "stiffie" also known as, in more scientific terms, an erection. After the enema the sexual arousal naturally lingers thereby creating the desire to have sex or mastubate. So added to the mix of anticipation and embarrassment are the sexual feelings. This explains the kinky response some of us develop because we associate being made to take an enema with strong sexual arousal and excitement.

I suspect women who enjoy enemas also have their reasons. Generally speaking, it seems that relaxation is a cornerstone for their enema experience to be gratifying and pleasurable.

Once again, Mash, thank you for your feedback. And I hope my narrative regarding the genesis of my intense enema fetish has in no way offended you.

Be well,

Rock

I have tried enemas for "fun" a couple of times. I've taken over 50 plus for medical purposes. Maybe that is why I am not finding the enjoyment in enemas. I've had to take too many of them. They made my belly tight, crampy, and full. That is not a feeling I find sexually attractive. But I will not give up on the thought that maybe someday, my sub will be able to give his Miss an enema and she will find some enjoyment in taking. Until that time, I will continue to put the hose up him. 😁

As usual Rock I find your posts from a mans perspective both educational and enlightening. Thank you, and no, I wasn't offended. Not in the least bit, lol.

Mash,

I appreciate your kind words. Thank you.

Dr Dean Ornish, the famous heart surgeon, once said he thought that erotic energy and healing energy are different forms of the same thing. I believe this hypothesis is well founded.

For this reason, and because of the pressure on the prostate ( arguably the male "g-spot") and genital areas produced by enemas, I believe that they may be potentially more healing to men than to women.

Another reason to relax and go with the flow.

Be well,

Rock

PS: "erotic energy and healing energy may be different forms of the same thing." Hourah Dr Ornish !

PPS: "I will continue to put the hose up him" MissStress.... Well it seems we know a little about how to get a pulse going here !!! Yes !

When giving an enema, I like to have my partner relaxed and for her experience to be enjoyable. Preparations include subduing the lighting, often with candlelight, playing appropriate relaxing music, and lighting incense. I offer a partial or full massage with oil before the enema begins. While it's retained, I remain with her as she wishes, attentive to needs and suggestions, offering a continued gentle massage, if desired.

I most often use the same preparations for my own enemas (sans massage, of course).

In my experience, hospital enemas have always been unpleasant experiences, due to lack of privacy, the affair being rushed, and because the nurses themselves generally dislike giving them.

At every place I've been to for a colonic, the therapist plays a CD of soothing music and dims the lights dimmed,even some times offering a bit of lavender oil to inhale. Of course it would be good for the client to come in already relaxed, but anticipation of the treatment may work against that.

With enemas, I find it more relaxing afterward, rather than before.

I really enjoy colonics, especially closed system ones. I have to say one thing I hate is the phony relaxed atmosphere with the mindless new age music playing in the background. Give me some good music--classical, rock, even some jazz is OK, but the mindless new age music for relaxation really annoys me.

Mashie, Is it possible for someone to give you a full body massage just before your enema? I'll just bet that you would be very relaxed and your enema experiance would be greatly enhanced.

A massage works well sometime--with or without the orgasm.

Relaxation is critical. I would say it is the most important way you can help yourself.

One of the reasons I always get into position a few minutes before inserting the applicator, and wait a few minutes after, before opening the valve is just that, I need the time to relax. It affects not only the amount you can take, but how long you can retain it. Proper retention is crucial to success.

I always wait a few minutes as you describe, LisaK, to become fully relaxed and put everything else from my mind except for anticipating the flow that's about to begin . . . and when it does, I mentally welcome it to enter and fill me for a beneficial cleanse, fully confident that I can manage to take it all in.

Accustomed to being in control, admittedly I experience more difficulty when receiving an enema from a partner, unless and until my full trust is developed.