Encouraging words

Ladies, what does your doctor tell you to help you get through the more uncomfortable or embarrassing parts of your exam? One of my "patients" told me that the most exciting thing to leave a doctor's mouth are the words "Good girl", but I don't think that would go down so well in a real life setting.

What a great topic! When I had to have a few stitches near my vaginal walls, the female Gyn said that I could say, shout or scream anything that I wanted and that she had heard it all! I am sure that she had heard plenty from ladies in labor.

But, she stated that the one thing that I had to promise her was not to move. So, I took hold of the nurse's hand and the needle went in and it hurt like the devil until the drugs did their job.

I have have my male dentist, who is a sweet senior citizen, tell me, "Good Girl!" and pat me lightly on the shoulder while doing a root canal or two. I thought that it was smoothing and nice of him.

Lady Nurse Teddy, now accepting patients

My doctor, who is retiring, has treated me for almost 4 years now. Not very long in the overall scheme of things, but during that time I have had several major crises and setbacks that could have easily ended my life. He has truly been a lifesaver on more than one occasion.

Anyway, on what I think will be our last visit together (last week) he told me, "You are one of the toughest ladies I've ever had the privilege to treat". The fact that he joined tough, lady and privilege in one sentence touched me deeply. So I told him that the medical profession is losing one of the last great southern gentlemen. I meant every word of it, they're not making any more like him!

Too damn stubborn to die!

LadyDoc

Ladydoc, we are all grateful on this site for your stubbornness.

Dear LadyDoc, I agree with Lucam. You are much too precious to all of us to leave us. I sincerely hope that your new Doctor is wonderful as well. 🌹 🌹 🌹

Lady Teddy, Pacific Northwest, USA

Hmmmm i've had "relax you're very tense" ...this was at the point i was sooo tense that the speculum wouldnt go in lol

had good girl a couple times when i was younger from gp during pelvic...had good girl from the dentist when i was 21 lol i think he thought i was a minor as i only got charged the child prices too haha!

My wife's dr told her to just relax and this should not hurt it maybe a little uncomfortable but if it hurt let me know please

dr62bob

"Now now just relax"

"Just relax and don't hesitate to let me know if there's any pain or discomfort" and then as the speculum was inserted "I know this part isn't the most comfortable. But if you need to stop for a moment or for me to adjust it, let me know"

First time I ever had a doc say anything like that to me as most of the doctors I've had haven't had the best bedside manner.

But in a play exam, I love hearing "good girl"

My gyn said to me at the last gyn exam "just a little pressure now" before he inserted his fingers in me.

I wonder why people like "good girl"... i do too....not sure why..

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my gyn said to me at the last gyn exam "just a little pressure now" before he inserted his fingers in me.

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Too bad he didn't say, "just a little PLEASURE now.", hehehe. That's every med fet girls dream isn't it? Mmmmm !!!

Lol @ mashie..... behave!

I love hearing "Good girl" or, since I'm still young (20 in June!) I love being called "Kiddo". So if a play doctor said something like "Open wide, kiddo. It's time for your oral exam." I'd probably get butterflies and giggle a lot. haha I'm not sure why, but I love being called "Kiddo".

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I love hearing "Good girl" or, since I'm still young (20 in June!) I love being called "Kiddo". So if a play doctor said something like "Open wide, kiddo. It's time for your oral exam." I'd probably get butterflies and giggle a lot. haha I'm not sure why, but I love being called "Kiddo".

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ooo another 20ish yr old. Nice to meet you! im 21!!

😃

xx

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I love hearing "Good girl" or, since I'm still young (20 in June!) I love being called "Kiddo". So if a play doctor said something like "Open wide, kiddo. It's time for your oral exam." I'd probably get butterflies and giggle a lot. haha I'm not sure why, but I love being called "Kiddo".

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Haha, my OB calls me kiddo all the time! I don't really mind it. I just wonder if there is a cut off age for being called kiddo! Though I do have to admit. When he calls me that..I get all warm and fuzzy!....Or is that warm and drippy? Hmmmm

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I love hearing "Good girl" or, since I'm still young (20 in June!) I love being called "Kiddo". So if a play doctor said something like "Open wide, kiddo. It's time for your oral exam." I'd probably get butterflies and giggle a lot. haha I'm not sure why, but I love being called "Kiddo".

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I'll be 20 in June as well! Not sure I like the word "kiddo" but whatever floats your boat 😄

That being said, it's really nice to see that there are more people in my age group

How about "I know it's a little uncomfortable" or "Only a little while longer now" when you are lying there wondering how much longer the exam is going to go on for?

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How about "I know it's a little uncomfortable" or "Only a little while longer now" when you are lying there wondering how much longer the exam is going to go on for?

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excellent reallY! I also like to say something like " Please tell me if you feel any disconfort or pain...I know this part of the exam may be a liitle uconfortable but I really must examine you thoroughly..."

"Relax and it will be over in a snap" (no pun intended)

I love it when my gynecologist says "Now just relax, I'm going to enter you."

I do like praise - ok 'good girl' isn't very original but it's OK - however I do love it when the doctor says things like 'that's really good', 'excellent!' or 'you're doing really well' etc. Actually I had a dentist who used to be wonderful at giving praise and encouragement along the lines I've just mentioned and it used to make me feel horny.......(possibly tmi and rather embarrassing but hey ho!)

I always make a point of using encouraging words when I am treating a patient. Its all part of the scenario and many are turned on by "well done young lady" and "that's excellent" etc.

I believe a good examiner should keep a constant conversation going with the patient throughout the exam. By continued chatter during the exam, the patient tends to be distracted from the procedure at hand, in particular those where they are unable to see the doctor. I will use the patient's name often, in some cases a pet name if it is appropriate, to ensure that they feel they are recognized as themselves and not just another patient. From the time we start the exam to the finish, the patient and I normally never stop talking. I explain each step as I perform it and take the opportunity to discuss history further as we proceed. In the few rare instances where the conversation does stop for a moment, I have had patients ask if everything is okay since they become so accustomed to the chatter. I also try to use a bit of humor if it is appropriate, comments such as "Don't worry, I do this all the time and haven't lost anyone recently" usually breaks a smile for most patients.

Always enjoy the classic "Just relax now....." 😃 I've think every doctor who's given me a pelvic has said that at some point in my exam.

A previous gyno would say "You'll feel some pressure now as I place the speculum in your vagina and open it".

And "I know this is uncomfortable and no one likes it, but it's important" in reference to the recto-vaginal exam I was about to receive during the first exam I had with my current gyneclogist.

When I have had painful procedures the Gyn has told me to relax. She will also keep asking "are you doing OK"

I have always thought the lines "Just relax" to be contradictory when used before something painful is going to happen. Possibly at the outset of the exam, or at the completion, it would be appropriate to say something like "Try to Relax". Otherwise it is very deceptive to say to someone "Relax, I'm going to hurt you".

If something is going to hurt the doctor should be honest and supportive, rather than deceptive. I prefer to say "I'll try my best not to hurt too badly. Try not to tense up if it does hurt, I'll be as quick as possible."

The whole point is that it is contradictory. Of course patients can't help being tense about a pelvic exam, for example.

I think that willingly submitting to something psychologically or physically uncomfortable is exactly what turns many people on about med fet. Saying "Just relax" heightens this tension between what the patients instincts tell her to do, which is basically run away as fast as she can, and what she knows she is supposed to do, which is to submit to the whole process and pretend that she is not even a little apprehensive about it.

There is also the implicit suggestion, especially when said in a certain tone of voice, that by not being relaxed enough, the patient is somehow being childish or not cooperative enough and is making her own plight worse.

Gee I think it would be really hard to relax when you know where that big cold metal thing is headed

Dr Bob

Honesty given in a supportive, compassionate manner that is in sync with the patient and the physcician is definitely optimal to have given between physician and patient. Allows for patient to aid in their ability to have increased confidence in the physician and their own ability to do what they can to allow their body to aid in helping the procedure to be easier on them and the physician.