Masturbation when not in the mood for sex

Just wondering how many folks out there masturbate their spouse or SO when your not interested in sex at the time ? I know at times my wife isn't interested but will apply a little KY to me and take matters in her hands.

Quite regularly here too. I've always liked a good hand job since I was 16 and a girlfriend delighted in watching me spurt. My wife likes them to give me relief when she isn't in the mood and has further improved her technique by adding simultaneous prostate massage if she really wants to drain me.

She will give me a handjob, or oral, if she isnt in the mood. Or end up alone with the lotion LOL!!!

My wife will give me a blow job and/or a hand job if I ask, but, if she's not into it i would rather just do it myself which is most of the time lately due to the menopause thing going on.

Their are times when one of us is a bit too tired or distracted to perform or be willing.

It happens from time to time, especially when your life is busy at the moment.

I will start masturbating and she will reach over to caress my testicles or lower to help me along.

She complains about me taking so long though

Masturbation by someone who does not wish to participate seems selfish on the part of the receiver. Why not take matters into your own hand(s) or some other means?

Occasionally, when the urge is there, but your partner is not, and won't be available for several hours, there's not problem with going solo. In fact, occasional "solo flights" are refreshing. And if the solo is not completely satisfying, you still have the opportunity when your partner is available to be the twosome. And another benefit of going solo is maybe trying something just to see how it feels ... such as a new device or new way to touch. I love occasional solos ... and I would be foolish to think my hubby does not go solo occasionally. Now that would be the ultimate selfish.

Ex-wife was more than willing to take matters in hand if she was not in the mood, on the few occassions when she was ill or away I could always take care of myself.

Jhenry said:

. . . . I will start masturbating and she will reach over to caress my testicles or lower to help my alone. She complains about me taking so long though

Your wife should count her lucky stars you don't cum in a hurry.

Women don't like a man who shoots his load in a minute. At least no women I know.

Sometimes when my ladyfriend is not in the mood for sex I will reach over and lift her nightie and begin feeling for her and just ask her if she would like me to masturbate her. Often she will just lie back and let me bring her to orgasam. Then I let her sleep! GUYS ! Do this! The results on other nights will be awesome 😃

I have no issue giving the hubby a hand (or mouth) when he's in the mood and i am not. Sometimes that's a great way to get in the mood for me. As for the other way around well, just put on something sexy while he's 'occupied watching some sporting event on the television' and bring your favorite toy out and see how long it takes him to 'get in the mood'.

Works for me!

Sometimes we prefer to rub the other out than have full blown intercourse. My sex drive has always been stronger than my wife's and it caused friction until she would just finish me off or at least touch my testicles and lick my ears while I was touching myself

Of Course ! Sometimes we masturbate ourselves while the other is just touching, sucking or rubbing other parts to enhance the feeling and have a great orgasam without having full intercourse.

I have doctor's orders to masturbate each day to help improve my erectile issues brought on by diabetes.

Speed

When she's not in the mood, we have a way of handling that. I'll just masturbate in bed next to her. Sometimes playing with her breasts. The big thing is that we'll just talk and watch tv while I go. When I cum it's a turn on to have her there watching me like it's no big deal, because for us it isn't.

My wife has had a partial vulvectomy due to cancer. During the recovery period after surgery and throughout chemo and radiation, we learned to cuddle a lot. She u.derstood my needs and she would give me a hand job. I started to assist her to show her how I liked it and she ended up getti.g enjoyment watching me masturbate. Four weeks after surgery sge had me touch her clot to see if the feelings had returned. She had the most intense orgasm that she had had in years. One year post diagnosis, she still enjoys rubbing my bag while I masturbate.

I have my lady partners or myself, they have themselves or me, it all depends on the circumstance at any given time or another. Generally though, I am ok with it.

G.N.

Variety is all important. So masturbating yourself or your partner does provide sexual release and stisfaction.

Me and my other half will masturbate each other when we really don't want to have sex, feeling his fingers in me feel great and he loves when I use my mouth!!

Masturbation can for me and my other half be even better then sex at times! Of course sex is great but you can be so much more creative while without penetration. We love finding things around the house and trying new ways to get off. One thing my other half likes is I will lay on the bottom and he while be on top wedging his penis in my hands " which by the way are extremely wet with ky" and he will just go. Or just using cucumbers and the ends of wooden chairs!

This may be a rationalization, but I think of solo masturbation as a different kind of sex. When I masturbate I do things that my wife wouldn't dream of doing. I can live out some of my fantasies which makes sex with her more enjoyable. Masturbation with a partner is intercourse without penetration and an enjoyable alternative.

The first couple days of my period I usually didn't feel like having sex. I did masturbate or give oral to my SO at these times though.

As I need/desire sex more often than my wife, she masturbates me to orgasm regularly. While I would not want that as a substitute for intercourse all the time, I have to admit some of the most wonderful orgasms I have are brought about by her verbalizing my erotic fantasies while she masturbates me. Sometimes, I just have to feel my penis inside her and need to ejaculate deep in her.

If one of us isn't interest in sex then we either masturbate one another or just go solo. If I'm in the mood I need my fix!

I masturbate almost everyday and when my gfriend does't wanna have sex, it's ok. It happened like twice in 4 years, if it'd happen more often, then, it'd be a problem...

I do it sometimes