Women having sex with Gay Men.

I was at a Party Saturday Night with a bunch of old Kinky Friends of mine. Allan one of of longtime club members is very Gay Man and very open about it. Good guy and a lot of fun at the different events we have.

Sara another long time member of the same group was having a drink and talking with me at the Bar. She looked over at Allan and said something to me, that got my little Elf Brain churning. Her statement was, I wonder if F##king Allan would be any different than F##king a Straight Guy?

Has anyone ever crossed that bridge and tried to have sex with a Gay Member of the other sex?

Can't say as I ever have, interesting question though. I'd love to hear from some of the other ladies on the forum to see if they have ever "broken the barrier". I've met one or two gay guys that I would have happily made a Faustian deal to sleep with, but that's as far as it went.

Play On!

LadyDoc

Funny I know of Ladies over the years that thought if they had sex with the Gay Men it might cure them of their Gay Ways. 😎

I did once a few years after college when we were both in our early twenties. I was a close friend of a gay guy since high school, who after repeated talks with mutual friends of ours thought if I did, it might have him, as Jerry Seinfeld said in one of his shows, "change teams." Well, not only did it NOT accomplish that at all, he was the only guy I have ever been with who couldn't get it up with me and the event destroyed our relationship.

It was a very bad idea and one that I deeply regret.

Ya know, that's the way I always thought it worked. A steer can get on the back of another, but it can't get "it" up! Just how DO you have sex with a "gay" man? ??? Not something I can imagine.Remember,the ol'cock is connected to the brain.If (s)he is brain dead,sexually,it's not going to work.

Red2qt, obviously gay men can have sex with women.

I mean gay men do have children, so they can certainly have sex with women.

However, if they are not getting aroused with a woman, they aren't going to have successful intercourse with them.

Very good point, can a Truly Gay Man even get the old hardware to work with a Lady Partner. I have read many times that a lot of Gay Men are married and do have children with their wives.

Susie has reminded me of a situation that I think of from time to time. A very good Lady friend of mine from University, we were the best of friends for years. It all came appart the first time we had a few too many drinks and ended up in bed together. Our relationship never was the same after.

I cant say i had sex with a gay man but our gay friend when he was alive had me strip naked and had me lay on his bed while my boyfriend watched as he licked my clit for an hour . while my partner was helping him find the clit .

he was a bit rough but it felt good, when he found the clit.

Not all its made out to be, having been married to a gay man (unbeknown to me at the time).

See, that's what I'm talking about. You can lead a "gay"man to a clit,but then he's sort of lost.LOL 😁

A friend of mine was in denial in school so he kept trying and coming up short everytime, there were women that even asked.

I don't think labels like gay and straight are very helpful. We are all on a continuum between the two, and we are all different. What works with one guy will be totally impossible with another, depending on where their brain is at that precise moment.

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I don't think labels like gay and straight are very helpful. We are all on a continuum between the two, and we are all different. What works with one guy will be totally impossible with another, depending on where their brain is at that precise moment.[/quote]

I think the labels from gay to straight are VERY helpful. You could say we are all on a continuum and you would be correct, but those who say they are straight and those who say they are gay are on the absolute ends of the spectrum and I DON'T think people, especially men who call themselves "straight" will switch back and forth depending on "where their brain is at the precise moment." My husband is completely straight, and while he will engage in sexual activity in a group and do S&M activities in front of a mixed group, he won't do anything involving sexually touching another man (a three-way with another woman would be OK, but not with another man). On the other hand, I might avail myself of a good time with another woman if I find her spectacular in some regard (Madonna, Suze Orman, Tammy Lynn Michaels, Eleanor Roosevelt, I know, she's dead) even though I prefer to have sex with men.

So, the continuum goes something like this:

Straight/Heterosexual--will have sex only with the opposite sex

Bi-curious--essentially hetero but has interest in the same sex, but has never acted upon it

Heteroflexible--prefers the opposite sex, but will have sex with the same sex if the opportunity arises

Bisexual--enjoys sex with both sexes equally

Homoflexible--prefers the same sex, but will have sex with the opposite sex if the opportunity arises

Gay/Lesbian--will only have sex with the same sex

There might be further divisions, but I am not aware of any.

I have to re-iterate, it isn't a good idea to have sex with a gay person in the attempt to switch them to hetero.

Ladies, have you thought of asking a man about any of this? If you find one who will be honest with you, you might find it very enlighting. Some may think I am Weird because I like both. But a true "Gay Guy" ( I use that term for the porpuse of this note) has a hard time finding Sexual Interest in a Female. The ones I know that don't have relations with Females is because they just are not interested and because of that they have a hard time "preforming". Some will not ever take the role of the "Man" in a relationship thats is Sexual, nor will they stay with one who asks them to take that role once in a while. If however you can find a Gay Guy who will preform oral sex on a female he needs to be taught how just like the rest of us males do. Buy again tread softly because a true Gay might find it offencive for a female to ask him to have sexual contact. But hey we are all on our own journey and should not judge others who are on their own path.

If anybody is a fan or fan-to-be of the comic strip 9 Chickweed Lane, the strip is dealing with this very issue at the moment. The character Seth, a gay man, has just become sexually involved with his beautiful female dance partner, and his female roommate is jealous.

Diane

I am assuming we are talking about TOTAL gay guys and not BI?

I know there are some who do not believe there is such a thing as BI men.

All I know is my own experience. I like sex with men better than with women. However, I can perform with a woman and have. I am assuming that I would not be considered a "true" gay man. Very interesting topic. I hope more men will respond. I would be interested in their opinions.

What I liked about the forum when signing up were the categories of 'heteroflexible' and 'homoflexible' ... which I assume are far more applicable to people than the terms hetero / homo.

I really and truly doubt anyone is 100% hetero or homo. Both terms are too far off to the extremes of a bell curve to be realistic.

What I liked about the forum when signing up were the categories of 'heteroflexible' and 'homoflexible' ... which I assume are far more applicable to people than the terms hetero / homo. I really and truly doubt anyone is 100% hetero or homo. Both terms are too far off to the extremes of a bell curve to be realistic.

I can assure you there are 100% hetero and homo males and females.

My husband is 100% completely straight, and while he will engage in sexual activity in a group and do S&M activities in front of a mixed group, he won't do anything involving sexually touching another man (a three-way with another woman is OK, but not with another man). On the other hand, I might avail myself of a good time with another woman if I find her spectacular in some regard like Madonna, Suze Orman, Tammy Lynn Michaels, Eleanor Roosevelt (I know, she's dead) even though I prefer to have sex with men.

I have many gay friends in my working life. While I would not consider having a sexual relationship with a gay male or a female, I and my husband enjoy their company .

I agree with Susan. Based on my experience there are 100% gay peoplle .

A

I had sex many times with a very good friend of mine from college, who is *absolutely* a gay guy. It was a matter of curiosity on both our parts. To the best of my knowledge, I am the only woman he has ever been intimate with. We're still great friends, but we're past the experimental stage of life at this point in time. We have fond memories of some fun times that we both cherish. Oooo like the time he and I and this bi fellow went at it ... dear lord that was a fun one! To this day I prefer gay male porn over ANY other form of pornography! Plus, he introduced me to some awesome lesbian and bi gals, and I still consider myself bisexual even though I rarely get a chance to play anymore.

Is 100% something only what the person acts out / talks about or also what he thinks and feels, maybe even unaware of it?

I strongly agree with the continuum - the classification of the continuum is merely a way to simplify it.

How would you btw classify transsexual people who are into transsexual and/or bi and/or straight people???? And how do you classify a person who is into transsexuals (ftm, mtf, pre-op, post-op...)? 😉

I think most women have a fantasy of turning gay men straight for the night. I know I do lol.

Mariespank, you can work on this bi-guy anytime! >😄

Skybear

Years ago during a long, dry period, I had sex twice with a gay friend for comfort. He held and stroked me all night. I felt so safe and contented.

As a gay man who was once married to a woman for 13 years, and fathered 4 children, most women don't realize how curious most men are. When discussing sexuality with some of my friends, we all agreed: there is NO "straight" man who can't be had by a gay man. Their desire for attention and sexual gratification is so strong that all they need is an assurance that no one will ever find out. Get real, girls, if you think your man will NEVER touch another man, you've got a lot to learn.

Wouldnt it be great if everybody was bi. you would be surprised at how many "str8" guys i know who want to try sucking cock.

YES! A few years ago I fucked one of my close gay friends. He's super sexy and after a few drinks one night, I kissed him. He kissed me back and yeah I fucked him. He fucked both my pussy and ass, although finally came while fucking my ass!!!!

My sister was married to a gay guy for less than a year. I told her she wouldn't be able to change him, but she KNEW different. Well, less than a year they were divorced, she bitter, and he went on to find a guy to be with.

Ladies, give it up as far as wanting to 'change' a guy. It would be the same mentality as saying a hot guy with a big cock could easily 'change' a lesbian. IT AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN.

Well, if male/male sex and female/female is "more natural", your words Jay, not mine, then I guess that spells the end of the human race as we know it.

By the way, not all women want to be wined and dined, or financially coerced (although a burger every now and then would be nice). Not all of us are flirting drama queens. In fact, most of us don't have the time or energy for that. I don't know where your misogynistic mindset stems from but some of us are perfectly able to fend for ourselves, we just happen to prefer sex with men.

Gay sex is far more easy to find than straight sex. Women demand to be wined and dined, be "spoiled" financially and otherwise. They flirt and flirt and flit and if a guy is lucky, he *may* be able to get lucky with her before the start of the next millennium. But another guy knows what h wants, and if he finds the partner he wants, partner wanting sex, sex can occur within a matter of minutes. And often, it is more intense than M/F sex. n fact, the BEST blowjob I EVER had was by another guy,I once fell deeply in love with my best male friend - who had been straight - but one day he told me he loved me and kissed me right on the lips. He was handsome, and if he had not become religious, or consumed with guilt, we might have been a couple to this day. Today, I'm of the opinion that while heterosexuality is certainly a good thing, the more natural sex is that between female and female and between male and male. After all, each sex knows better what they other needs and how the other feels during sex.

You are dead wrong about our flirting and if a guy is lucky he may be able to get into our pants before the next millennium. If we spend a lot of time flirting with you without letting you know we want you in our pants, it's because we just want to be taken to dinner! If you don't get lucky quickly, it's because we really don't want you mingling with our DNA. Believe me, if we really want to fuck someone we can easily manage it, and we don't need to be wined and dined.