Enemas given by Parents

I would be in the living room doing whatever and my mother would come to the door of the bathroom and ask me to come in. I would go there not suspecting anything and there would be my father and an enema bag ready to go. She would ask me when I had had my last bm and of course I would not know--what child keeps track of that sort of thing. She would say that she thought that I needed an enema. I wold have to take my clothes off and lie down on the towel on the floor. She would put the enema nozzle (not the douche nozzle) in and let the water flow. It was very uncomfortable and embarrassing and I did not like it at all. When the bag was empty (I suppose it was a 2 quart) she would tell me to hold it for what seemed like a long time and not to leak. Finally she would let me get on the toilet and expel. I was not to flush because she wanted to see if I had produced enough. If i had not, she would have done it again, but that never happened.

In all, it was a miserable experience and I wonder why I have come to like them, even need them, today when I do a 4 quart high enema when I get the chance.

hankb

I had an aunt that loved to give enemas and suppositories.

I was never given an enema as a child.

As I've posted before, my sister and I got regular weekly enemas growing up. We were done together in Mom's bathroom, kneeling with our chests over the side of her big clawfoot tub. Sometimes, my aunt would bring her two girls and all four would get clean outs consisting of at least two Ivory soapsuds enemas and a plain rinse, and we would also go to her house for our enemas. We were required to hold for 10 minutes, which increased as we got older until we were holding for thirty minutes. Our released enemas were checked by Mom or our aunt, and several times one or more of us got more than two soapy ones. By the time we were early teens, all four of us were klismos, and played with enemas anytime Mom was not home or Aunt Rachel was not home at her house. I do not recall any of us ever protesting our enemas, or suppositories, for that matter. We were unanimous in our hatred of the occasional doses of castor oil, however.

I'd pretend to be constipated for 3 days as a teenager ,that meant instant enema from Mom

Enemas were our "cure all" as young children. We only went to the doctor for serious ailments ( i.e, appendicitus, tonsilitus, etc), or our annual shots. Baring that, we received home remediies, and Ivory SSE's were just one of them for whatever ailed us.

My daughter was raised with frequent enemas as needed but would get one at least every two weeks.

I was only given a couple when I was a kid by my mom

It seemed like my dad was obsessed with making sure I had didn't need to use the toilet. I was given a liquid oral laxative every night. If I didn't go before bed I was given a suppository. If one didn't work I was given two.

I got an enema once a week (usually Saturday). Very soapy and painful. I believe it was done with one of those bulbs (around 7 ounces) when he was first started when I was 7. But he quickly moved up the amount I was made to hold. I was taking a full quart by the time I was eleven. He insisted it was good for my health. I've met other people whose parents believed "the more it hurts the better it works" My brother got the same treatment (i never watched or anything but I knew) I took over doing it when I got old enough to. But if he even thought you skipped a day of treatment you got a spanking and a spoonful of castor oil. To be fair he was just as weird about his own health and still is.

Anyone else have to deal with this crap?

Sorry to read this @Lostleaf ,It sounds like abuse of you and your brother to me.

Peace,

Caz

@Caz yes it did seem like abuse from time to time but he always claimed it was for medical reasons. I don't remember ever hearing a doctor saying I needed it. This went on for almost 8 years. When I went to go live with a family friend I had stomach trouble for a bit and needed the occasional laxative but it went away after a while and my bathroom trips were normal. That really made me wonder if all the treatments I got as a kid were needed.

My Opinion ONLY: I apologize if this has been brought up in another thread but the more stories I read about our parent's bowel obsession and enema abuse (either too many enemas too often or them being too large or too painful), I believe the parent or relative who did this might have had klismaphlia and satisfied that need, want and desire through their children! And by having to endure their parents own needs, what better way to screw their child up psychologically! Even to the point of their child needing and wanting the same punishment as their parents submitted them to. (I'm included in that!) I never gave my children enemas and that's because of my own Mom and my own klismaphlia.

Enema use, and possibly abuse, were likely learned behaviors that were supported by many doctors and other so-called experts prior to the mid 70's. They had been advocated for a wide variety of circumstances including toilet training. Those treatments were passed from one generation to another.

While I believe my mom and grandma didn't intend for an enema to be abusive, I certainly viewed them that way at times. They were certainly obsessed with bowel issues and believed a daily BM was essential. Our pediatrician certainly supported that premise.

While I don't know about Klismaphilia being a factor, I suspect my mom didn't find getting or giving enemas a sex act per se. I do believe my mom found enemas to be effective, relaxing, and curative of various ailments. Whether there were underlying sexual connotations, I'll never know.

Like MomsEgirl perspective, my children weren't subjected due to my own experiences.

@Moms_Egirl I agree. It is abuse. However, I do think a parent who gives their child an enema for a real medical reason for the children's health is different and not negative.

My mom gave me one fleet at 6. I never had the bag. I do believe though that was why I kept doing fleets and found the bag on my own and discovered rectal temps on my own not only because they were the most accurate, but felt nice. The more fleets started in puberty so they were my feelings there. My mom never wanted to do the enema, but for my health she had no other choice, but to go with what the doctor ordered for my own health. I know some bowel experts think young ones need like colonics and all that. That just weirds me out. Anyone ever heard of prune juice?

HUGS, Megan

I never got a bag enema as a kid. It was always the store bought disposable variety when I was constipated, or a suppository.

Anyone ever heard of prune juice?

Prune juice is great. Any time I've ever been seriously constipated (one time for five days), prune juice did the trick.

@bbw4doc It has grown on me and helpful, but yeah it was kind of a jab/sarcasm.? But, yes in all seriousness. It is the best stuff. There's also those natural fiber powders. I blame the Western processed foods for a lot of people's constipation kids and adults so exercise and lots of fiber for the win.

Prune juice is great. Any time I've ever been seriously constipated (one time for five days), prune juice did the trick.

Didn't mind eating prunes, thought they tasted pretty good, the prune juice I was not a fan of. Don't think it ever helped to get things moving, maybe just helped prevent the constipation.

I don't know why prunes have a bad reputation. They are dried plums.

Prunes work as a laxative because they have a high sorbitol content.

Raisins are dried grapes and they don't have a bad reputation.

Many other fruits are commonly eaten as a dried fruit like apricots and figs.

My wife has mild but chronic constipation. Her doctor recommended prune juice over laxatives - so she drinks a about 8 ounces every day to stay regular. Works like a charm!

I drank it a lot when I was on oxycontin, otherwise I would (and did a few times) have a hell of a time getting things out.

@SwitchableSusie That being said I'd rather eat plums than drink prune juice or dried plums. They aren't as tasty as apricots so I could see why people don't like them as much as the other fruits.

Apricots way better!!!

@efun42 Yeah, but maybe not for fiber. One summer, I ate so much watermelon that it really helped me go and I researched watermelon has a slight laxative effect unless I'm wrong.

Coconut water works too.

I tried prune juice and dried prunes for constipation, when I was pregnant. They did nothing but cause smelly gas. My sub banned them from my diet after that.

Oops!! I made a mistake coconut milk from a coconut is what I meant too say. Just wanted to say?? They may be the same but not sure??

My sister had to drink prune juice I tried it and could never choke it down. I like plums though and most dried fruit?? guess it works better on different people.

I find it goes down easier if it's really, really cold.

eMom said:

My Opinion ONLY: I apologize if this has been brought up in another thread but the more stories I read about our parent's bowel obsession and enema abuse (either too many enemas too often or them being too large or too painful), I believe the parent or relative who did this might have had klismaphlia and satisfied that need, want and desire through their children! And by having to endure their parents own needs, what better way to screw their child up psychologically! Even to the point of their child needing and wanting the same punishment as their parents submitted them to. (I'm included in that!) I never gave my children enemas and that's because of my own Mom and my own klismaphlia.

Also my opinion but I agree with this 100%. We never gave our children enemas well first because they never really needed it but second I didn't want them to end up here. My wife also never got any from mom so our 3 kids were pretty safe and it never came up at the doctors. Good diet probably helped although my 2 sons hated veggies and still do to this day.

On another note we always had prune juice chilled in the fridge. I learned not to drink too much but used to take a small glass just because I liked the taste. Add some Stoli and I could probably market to the retirement community. BrownRock pale Ale. Hmmm.