How to talk to Fiancée about enemas

I am really into enemas before anal sex, I feel its far more hygenic, but I don't know how to talk to him about them. Any suggestions.

Just for some background info, there is 17 years between us, he is almost 39, I am 21. I am a submissve to him, he is my Master.

He hates the thought of them, but I really like them before sex. Gets me really horny and wet.

He doesn't think anal play is dirty or anything, he's very happy for a finger to wander there.

I rwally want him to try a good enema and the make me hold it while I recive a spanking, think it would be good punishment! 😁

Ya know, I just can't imagine a problem! When my present partner casually asked me to play with her butt I couldn't believe my good fortune. I suppose there are some guy's out there with silly religious/societal hang-ups, but, personaly I would a happy guy if... Okay, how 'bout, will be a happy guy when my wife gets into enema play. She will give me a spanking from time to time...

I have found that during intercourse that touching the anal area gently will create a sensation and then a glass or two of wine and the discussion can be opened more easily

Wine would be great, but I can't drink alcohol. Last time I drank a glass of white wine, I had a seizure! 😮

Spent the night in hospital. Doc says I must have some intolerance to the alcohol.

Ok you can't have it but what about your future hubby? That could make all the difference in broaching the topic with him.

OMG...a dream girl...He has to be into it as much as we are here!!

I agree the wine is a good starter and when she or he get relaxed talk openly about your desires its all about communication. after the wine take a shower together and let the fun begin

Get him relaxed and make your case openly and honestly. I'm sure you compromise with him and vice versa, and while it may never be a thing for him hopefully he'll enjoy the fact that you derive pleasure from it.

My lady wouldn't even let me touch her anus until one time, having sex with her seated on me, without a word I reached around and rimmed her with my finger. She tried to brush my hand away, but she came so instantly and so hard, that it was open season (pardon the pun) all after that. Your partner may be of a similar mindset, perhaps with the fixed idea that a great silver hand or a bolt of lightning may come crashing through the ceiling. I make so bold as to predict that time, eagerness and orgasm will prevail.

Sometimes you just have to play hardball with someone who cares less about your pleasures.You will not be happy with a man who thinks it his way or the nothing.Robecca,sweethart,you know what you want,if your man gives you a hard time,well,he is not for you.You need someone who will forefill your needs,anything less will not do,you will not be happy with this man unless he can satisfy you needs.

You must take control and insist that he do what pleases you or you will find someone who will.Robecca,there are hundreds of men who would be willing to please you in every way.Please don't get hung up on someone who will not make your life a happy one.Let the good time flow.w/m72yrs/Western Ma

Whoa. If you're unhappy about this one aspect of your relationship, why are you thinking marriage? For me, at least, it would be important to be on the same wavelength about thinkgs like this before saying "I do".

Rebecca,

Since you are submissive to him, perhaps he would key into the dominant roll of a doctor "forcing" you to have an unpleasant medical treatment. Having an enema in a medical setting is perhaps one of the most submissive situations that exist.

You could tell him what a wonderful fantasy this would be and you would like to show him how to properly perform an enema (for safety purposes). If you can sell him on this, this is your opportunity to perform the most sensual enema experience you could conjure up.

I would keep the volume fairly low for comfort, and make sure there is pleasant anal and prostate stimulation as you lube him and insert the nozzle. For me, oral sex to orgasm during the enema would probably close the deal...

When I met my wife, I wasn't "into" enemas but she was. She started a conversation about all of the health benefits of colon cleansing, and finally convinced me to let her try it on me. I begrudging agreed. One night before dinner, she fed me a large Martini and then announced she was going to give me an enema. Gritting my teeth, I walked up the stairs to the bedroom and walked into a candlelit room with a bulging enema bag hanging from a hook over the bed. On a towel on the bed was a large nozzle, and a tube of lubricant. It was strangely erotic. She had me get in the knee-chest position and after stroking my balls and crack, began lubricating and massaging my anus until I almost came. Then came the nozzle and the warm water. While the water was going in, she reached between my legs with a slippery hand and worked me until I came. I still remember the feeling of the water just flooding into me after the orgasm and running to the toilet.

When I came out, she was grinning and asked "if everything came out okay?" She praised me for being so open-minded and doing such a good thing for my body. I was bewildered by all of the competing sensations - but I did enjoy it on a bunch of levels. She repeated this scenario on the following weekend and I was hooked. Later she taught me the ins and outs of the fine art of enema giving and we have been enjoying this now for over 15 years of marriage.

Hope this helps. Feel free to email/ backend@allmail.net

Len

First of all find out what it is about enemas that may turn him off. You may be surprised for the reason. Read him some stories about enema submission and then put your own fantasy on the paper. It could be in the form of a story or as a script for a play.

Your "selling" job must be about the sizzle, not the steak, describing what rewards await him if he complies with your wishes.

Just be open about it. I casually brought up the subject after one of her friends had to get a colonoscopy. She said she might be into it. I think I like where this is going... We'll see if she actually follows through. I don't think she'll bring the subject up again but then again, who knows.

Hi Rebecca,

This is something important to you (as with us all)and even though you feel submissive to him, his pleasure can't be all about him. The right kind of "master" would be one which wants you to be happy. Most of the people here have mates who are not like minded. I know I didn't share my enema interests with my wife before marriage. It would have been better and would have saved some rough spots in the road had I been up front from the beginning. This is experience talking. Be honest about your needs and desires. Find someone to be happy with, if him, great. If not, keep looking.

Whats wrong with telling it like it is, Becki? You put it very well to us, here, i thought. Honesty up front in a relationship is really important, and with this interest, could be VERY rewarding.

WOW! How many of us wish we had talked with our fiancee` before we got married about our love of enemas!!! Mine may have been so turned off by them that it may have been a deal breaker and I might have gone on to someone who would really love them. OR, I might have never gotten the nerve to be that open before the marriage. Who knows? I just think that now days it would be easier than it was 38+ years ago. Good Luck!

Oh dang! This guy is such a lucky one. Just be open and up front with him. If I found someone like you, my wishes would be reality.

I don't agree wih the wine thing. I do agree with a calm relaxed atmosphere in which to tell the person but alcohol will, yes open them up to new topics BUT, once it wears off no telling what the person night think afterwards. And yes I realize we're not talking about getting the person hammered.