Mother/Daughter same doctor?

The first real pelvic exam I had, I was either 17 or 18, and the purpose was to get birth control. I didn't discuss my sex life with my mother, so no, I didn't discuss going to the doctor. I went to Planned Parenthood the first time.

The first real pelvic exam I had, I was either 17 or 18, and the purpose was to get birth control. I didn't discuss my sex life with my mother, so no, I didn't discuss going to the doctor. I went to Planned Parenthood the first time.

At the time back then were they operating as free clinics? They have fascinating history, the first clinic was shut down in a matter of days and pretty sure clinic founder was charged or at least arrested for some trumped up law at the time.

This was in the late 80's, @Countrydr, and I believe the fee was on a sliding scale but it wasn't free.

This was in the late 80's, @Countrydr, and I believe the fee was on a sliding scale but it wasn't free.

Thanks. Im glad the service was available to you.

Sisters seeing the same gynec…if that counts here

My sister experienced a very painful period once. So she saw the same gynec that I go to. I have period issues much more often.

The pelvic exam is pretty much the same. Mine is longer and more thorough…atleast I feel so.

Her diagnosis was yeast infection. Her pelvic exam was quick than mine but she had speculum check too that I didn't have till then…about 2 years back

We have the same doctor

@jill2doctor did you think about the fact that the Doctor had examined your mother intimately and was about to do the same to you, that from his perspective that might be very arousing for a red blooded male?

Gotta be hot to be able to see both the mother's and her daughter's pussies

My wife and her Mom saw the same gyno for many years. They even went together for annual appointments.

Mother/daughter: same doctor. Heard this from lady friend who went to U Calif Med Center, SF. She delivered baby girl who was sick. Pediatrics professor, after seeing baby stopped in to tell mother how baby was. He added, “I checked your chart. I delivered YOU, when I was an intern here.”

@bratwurst Funny similar coincidence. My dad was on a plane chatting with the woman next to him and found out his dad delivered her.

The only drawback I see in this would be the physician not maintaining proper privacy between the patients, especially giving private medical information about the younger patient to the older relative.

I never saw the same docs as my Mom while growing up. I moved away after college, so it hasn't happened as an adult, either.

My daughter currently sees a pediatrician, and I'm a little old for that. In another year, when she transitions to adult care, she wants to see the same internist that Dev and I see, so that will change.

We also have different Gyns, largely because she preferred to see a female and my current Gyn is male.

My mothers doctor is a male. My sisters is female. She said she would never see a male doctor for that kind of thing under any circumstances. At the same time my mom feels it’s awkward to have a female OB/GYN so they both have their preferences. They never have shared the same doctor for that type of thing. I know because I was present at my sisters first exam when she was pregnant which was also her first ever gynecologist exam so she had to give history and she didn’t have any lol.

What I have wondered is for the women who do share a doctor if they have ever had like a joint exam where they both are there and one gets examined then one right after the other? To me that would make more sense than trying to go to separate appointments especially if it’s the first time for one of them. I know they will do those types of things for kids so I don’t see why not for adults.

My mothers doctor is a male. My sisters is female. She said she would never see a male doctor for that kind of thing under any circumstances. At the same time my mom feels it’s awkward to have a female OB/GYN so they both have their preferences. They never have shared the same doctor for that type of thing. I know because I was present at my sisters first exam when she was pregnant which was also her first ever gynecologist exam so she had to give history and she didn’t have any lol.

What I have wondered is for the women who do share a doctor if they have ever had like a joint exam where they both are there and one gets examined then one right after the other? To me that would make more sense than trying to go to separate appointments especially if it’s the first time for one of them. I know they will do those types of things for kids so I don’t see why not for adults.

@AutoMechanic This is where you should indicate to both of them that you would like to be present during their exams to get a better understanding of where this conflict lies. Since they have both expressed an opposition to the gender of their choice, you as a neutral party and as the opposite gender, want to get a better understanding of why 2 people blood related to you have dramatically opposite preferences.

Following my advice makes or breaks your medfet, your understanding of the situation, and more.

Should you follow through, and either balks and doesn't go along with it, at least you have the peace of mind to know you did your part in trying.

Well seeing how I grew up in a small town where at the time there was one doctor who did everything my answer is yes. She delivered almost everyone in the town. When I wanted to get on the pill my sister set it up and went with me so she did my first pelvic. Then I moved down here for college and I am seeing another doctor who is just like the one in my hometown. She does it all. But she is also a lot younger and very pretty.

@JTMac i actually have been to both of their exams. One each. I don’t want to say one reason why my mom prefers a male doctor as it may not go well here if I say it. But one reason she told me just whenever this type of discussion comes up is she feels a male is less judgmental of a female body because she feels someone of the same gender would be shaming for something like looks or body hair or something like that just as an example. Something that the other person wouldn’t have so therefore the person would feel superior or less superior than the other. That is the best way I can describe it. Also she says she feels a male would be more thorough and gentle. Sort of makes sense to me and sort of doesn’t as you would think another female would know you need to be gentle and probably would know from personal experience that a guy would not have too. But she also says where the male is attracted to the female body naturally that that helps because it tells the mind it needs to be gentle and less judgmental as it’s what they like naturally. Kind of interesting for me hearing that.

Haven’t discussed it with my sister but she seems like the type who would only be comfortable around the same gender for something like that. I guess because she feels more secure that way too. And probably where she is younger she probably feels more venerable than someone older that would be my guesses anyway.

As for difference in their exams only a few things really that I noticed anyway and mainly because one was a pregnancy gyno exam the other was just regular gyno exam. Neither doctor seemed rough or careless or anything like that. I didn’t hear any judgemental remarks or anything from either one either. We did get a lot of weird looks at both for me being there though from doctors, nurses, patients etc. My mom does see a different male doctor now as hers passed away a couple years ago I haven’t been with her since the old doctor so not sure if that’s changed anything or not.

It would be interesting though to know more especially from my sisters side. But now that I’m older than I was during both of those exams they probably wouldn’t let me go. I was a teen when I went with both of them.

@AutoMechanic I totally get where your mom is coming from, especially because I have heard all angles of this sentiment mentioned before.

As for your sister, the generational differences have contributed to changes in perspective, and both of them can have very varying viewpoints as to which gender would make for a more appropriate choice. I have to say I do like the way your mom thinks though, perhaps because i am closer to her in age.

If you rrrrrreally wanted to be there for further exams, you'd have to develop a plausible enough interest where it would make sense to have you be there.

@JTMac yeah haha. My mom would probably let me go with her again as long as I ask when my dad is not around as he would have a freak attack over something like that. I say that because we are pretty close and she still gets my help with stuff when she needs it. I got to go the first time because of her surgery and she needed assistance with things. And she would have to schedule it when my dad would not be home either like he wasn’t when I went the first time. My sisters husband would definitely probably not be ok with me being in her exam for any circumstances. He doesn’t even know I went to her first one. I got to go to that one because my mom wanted me to learn more about pregnancy but she didn’t know since my sister had never had that type of exam that would make her get one on the spot. She figured it would just be talking like what a normal first exam is. She could of had me leave them room but chose to let me stay so I could see how it varied from her regular exam. Plus my sister said she felt comfortable with me in the room as well as it was two people she knew vs one doctor she didn’t know.

I have a different doctor than my mother. But she was always there in the beginning.

@FlauscheBall for the first time what made you choose a different dr from the one your mother was using?

@Countrydr

I don't know, it just came from a good friend.

@Countrydr

I don't know, it just came from a good friend.

Guess mom or friend as long as came reccommend normally safe bet.

Did your mom have male or female, did that sway opinion at all.

@Countrydr

I never really wanted to see a male gynecologist, but my girlfriend said I should make an appointment because she was happy with this doctor.

I have few patients where members of family all see me for PCP.. Mother/Daughter, Husband/Wife.. All are older than 18..

During pelvic exam, they always step out..

@ automechanic

But she also says where the male is attracted to the female body naturally that that helps because it tells the mind it needs to be gentle and less judgmental as it’s what they like naturally. Kind of interesting for me hearing that.

What a charitable and nice way of saying this. A nice change from the otherwise socially expected antagonism between the sexes in which it seems taken for granted that a male will always take advantage of a female if given half the chance.

I have few patients where members of family all see me for PCP.. Mother/Daughter, Husband/Wife.. All are older than 18..

During pelvic exam, they always step out..

@RealDr4Play Do they step out because you suggest it to them, ask them to, or is it more something they just don't want to be around for / want to be respectful to the patient being examined (whether it's wife / mother / daughter)

Just prior to pelvic/examination i always ask if patient wants family members to be present.. 99% of the time family / Next of kin go to waiting area..

Only one time i asked where husband was asked to leave ( with security) when i saw the wife in bruise and many other signs of abuse. Social services/worker were able to help immediately for safety of patient.

Just prior to pelvic/examination i always ask if patient wants family members to be present.. 99% of the time family / Next of kin go to waiting area..

@RealDr4Play So does that mean the patient asks them to leave, or does asking the patient make them want to leave?

The first obgyn I saw was someone my mom and I both knew personally prior to her becoming my doctor. My mom had never seen her as a patient but did see doctors in that group (including the one who delivered me!) When I got home from my exam my mom and I talked about it, nothing super specific about the actual exam but about her taking her time to talk with me about everything and answering my question. I will always remember my mom making a comment about hating feeling like you’re being herded in and out like cattle, and vowing to myself that if I ever got that feeling I would change doctors!