Does age matter to members in a swingers club?

I'm a member of a swingers club and am wondering, are any of you girls likely to stick to your own age group or does age matter whom you have sex with ?

My husband and I used to swing after we were married (ALWAYS WITH A CONDOM) and until about a year before I became pregnant with our first daughter. We were in our early and mid 20's and ALL the men wanted to fuck me because I was young and a lot of women wanted to fuck my husband because he could do it over and over.

The age didn't really matter much to me at the time, although neither my husband nor myself were into people over about the age of 45 or so at the time. Now that we are the ripe old age of 41, we have a new outlook and IF we were swinging now, we would accept anyone of legal age probably up to about 60---or about a twenty year age difference from us. Now we have twice the opportunity to swing with somebody acceptable to us!

In reality, we won't start swinging again until our children are well on their own and completely self sufficient. We really have a strong desire to remain fluid bonded to each other and to prevent any possibility we could become infected with HIV while we are responsible for the welfare of our children--and that is why we stopped swinging a year before I became pregnant the first time--we both wanted to be tested to make sure we were HIV negative. Having an HIV positive child would have been a disaster, ruined our lives and been totally irresponsible.

Now, as far as OTHER couples are concerned, if age matters to one person in the couple or potential couple, it matters to the long term success of the couple as a whole.

Really speaks the truth here and is very responsible .

if when swinging use a extra strong condom .

which is what i make guys use when going with me or my partner .

Very good thoughts and the same thought went through my mind back about Eleven years ago. I was adopting my Daughter from China and the Chinese required that all adopting Parents be checked for HIV and had full Medical Work Ups. Contrary to my Catholic upbringing I have always used a condom for disease protection. Not being married since the loss of my wife to Cancer many years ago, I became pretty much a slut for any kind of eroticism {thinking of you Susie}.

As for sex with older people your in for a surprise. I will leave it at that because we are all inching our way there. 60 next year for me.

I personally prefer those older than myself, but it can get interesting when you go outside your own age group

My friend this weekend is 36 years of age and she keeps teasing me that she will be gentle with me. She is kidding of coarse, she tells me it could be deadly for a man of my advanced years to have sex with a young athletic girl such as she is.

Dam where did I put that vitamin E ? ???

I don't think age matters at all. I've always loved older men (and nooo it was not because I was looking for a father complex!) My husband and I are 27 years apart. There are a few draw backs though...for one our difference in libido. I'm 21 and in my sexual prime...where he is 48 and his libido comes and goes. (I know not all men in their 40's are like this, though.) We have also run into a problem with E.D.

So pretty much it all depends on the person. You just got to know what you are getting into. Two people can make it work!

Age doesn't really matter to me

It does to me,I once had a friend of my daughter want to take me out, keeping in mind he was 19 years younger than me I told my daughter he was so young he still smelled like pee LOL I think it matters more to women than men however I could be wrong I don't want to explain to a guy what an eight track player was, or that Paul McCartney was in a band other than Wings!

Petalsoft I was married to a man 33 years my senior, and in the beginning it didn't, but trust me one day it does. With either his insane jealousy or my need to still have some of the child left in me I'm sorry to say but if your in it for fun it's one thing, a life time commitment? I would never do that again and thats not to say he wasn't a great man, he was, but he being much older should have been the wiser one as well.

Just my thoughts

Hi, Irme: I have heard your sentiments from more than a couple of ladies. I'm sorry you had to go through what you did. I agree with you in that I would not marry someone 33 years my senior, especially since I'm now 47. And I'm waaaay past childbearing years, so my biological clock has finished ticking.

I do also have to say that ANY man/partner no matter their age can become insanely jealous or prevent you from being the carefree, happy and beautiful woman (or child) you want to be. Age has nothing to do with that, in my opinion.

I was just responding to the actual post, which was does your partner's age matter when having sex.

Irme, may your life be filled with happiness, joy and much love. 😁

My wife and I are less than a year apart so age was never an issue for us. When we started swinging in our mid/late 30s we had sex with people of all ages. It was before AIDS and other STDs were a concern and it was an exciting time. We eventually fell in with a group of about 5 couples who were all 10-15 years older than us. They were a great bunch of people and it just seemed to evolve to where we all just partied with each other, especially when the STDs became an issue. As we got older the parties were less frequent but we still all would get together for summer cook outs, restaurant outings and other social gatherings. We haven't had sex with any of them in years, a couple have passed away but the others remain close and dear friends. So age didn't matter at all to us or them but we were friends and lovers, not mates.

It seems to me age makes less of a difference if the woman is younger. I wouldn't have wanted to be, say, 55 and have to worry about keeping a 30/35 year old woman sexually satisfied. But a younger man can keep that 55 year old woman feeling younger far longer than the other way around.

My partner is 10+ years older than I am and I find that since I have attained that "certain age", playing with someone somewhat older or younger is not an issue for me at all. I have to confess that my physical relationship has never been better than it is now. I think that's because we both know where everything is, and we both know what we want and how to get there.

I do have a hard limit about age, and this is just a "me" thing. I won't play with and I am reluctant to chat with anyone under the age of 25. I have a daughter that age, and even though she's married and has children of her own, I would be greatly distressed if I knew she was chatting with a man that is my age. I can only imagine how a parent of an admittedly adult child would feel if they knew their son was having erotic conversations with a 50-some year old woman. As I say, it's just a personal preference but it is where I draw the line. There are one or two exceptions (and you know who you are!).

Play On!

LadyDoc

Like us Ladydoc , but the huge difference between your couple and ours is that you have both a interest and motivation for sexuality issuing from your love , we I am alone to have interests and motivation for passions .

It is different to live with some one who is rarely motivated . I am scared to imagine what will be her behaviour in ten years .

At my age, the age of the other doesn't matter (as long as it is legal), willingness does! :-)

My partner and I have recently joined a swingers club. My first experience will be next month- he has experience with swinging already- my partner is 20 years older than me so I am not sure what ages will be a good match?

I can't see age being a problem with the right person. Most of the Partners I have as of late are a fair bit younger than I am. Actually as of late most people I meet are younger than I am. They all have made the same comments about sex with an older man, we are not in any hurry. They say the younger men they have had relationships with are always in such a hurry. I cherish the long leisurely afternoon screwing, with no agenda or limits on time. Heck I even cater them too, nothing like a nosh and a bit of wine while your screwing each others brains out.

I am 56 and have a pair of lesbian "wives" who are each 32. Things work out well most of the time but they want it a bit more than I do but we seem to get along just fine.

I think age only matters when one of the partners has an inflated view of themselves... there are some things that come with age and if both partners aren't willing to accept that then I guess age in sex does matter....

I love women of all ages and have partners considerably older than me, and considerably younger...yes, condoms are a must for penetrative activities.

I only want to play with those over 45 (like Me) because we share a mindset that is not available in the young'uns. I have limited play-time available so I want it to be the best for Me.

I guess I have a couple years to wait then. I am 42 was just getting ready to send you message when I saw your posting here. Hopefully you are still practicing when I am 45.

Mike

Mike, you probably have a lot more years. I have a friend in his eighties that can put me in the shade four or five times a week and I'm only seventy eight. Two or three is about my limit most of the time.

Wow that is awesome. I have looked for people of older age to play with but haven't had any luck yet.

mike

Viva la difference

Would it be rude to refuse intimacy just based on age? There are younger interested in older and vice versa just for the experience.

Greg

I don't think it would be rude to "refuse intimacy" based on age.

You wouldn't be face to face with a person you might have sex with unless you knew their approximate age beforehand and unless you didn't do your homework on that person. Even ads for swingers generally state their ages and in speaking with others before swinging, you would likely know their age so you could make a decision.

Basically, you wouldn't realistically be in a situation where this could happen.

At parties or club functions, usually folks of like age, mindset, size and kink mingle together. If we did not click with the couple we just said we already had plans. That was years ago, but it seems to be about the same today. Interesting note, I have been invited to attend local SLS as Dr.Feelgood with my personalized white coat and E-stim equipment. Never had a complaint about my age, I just turn up the power----Ur-- Charm

Cheers

Skybear

Switchable and Sky,

very good points, thanks.

Greg

Being jealous at any age is not good so maybe age slows that down . I agree with Petal on this . When it comes to swinging it is what you want in this fun . You only live once so if you want to say yes or no , do what you want!

For me its not age but size. I prefer the larger woman. As to age. Ive had women all over the age scale. Ive been with women twenty years my senior and women ten years my youth