What age is would you say is the best to lose a girls virginity?

I lost my virginity when I was 13 from a rape, I think that was too young to happen that way. 😢

Any age is too young for that to happen, period!! Rapists, especially those who violate a youngster, should be severely punished!! Mike.

Kid,

I am so very sorry to hear that. It is never ok for anyone to do that to someone ever. I have suffered sexual abuse at a very young age that was very traumatic and I decided later in life to seek counseling. You may have but, if you haven't it's something to consider. Everyone deserves the chance to heal properly and I hope that bastard has been caught for hurting women. I believe there's a special place for people like that. Big hugs.

Submissivlee

I lost mine when I was 17. It sucked because once he was in he came and it was over. No orgasm for me and I was wondering what the big deal was about sex. It lasted all of maybe two minutes give or take. A short time after I did it with my roomie and she made me have an orgasm. I have always fantasized about having another girl take it. When I worked at the OB/GYN clinic there were girls of all ages wanting birth control. I don't think you can pinpoint an exact age for it.

Well it just depends and we do not all grow up at the same speed at the same time. It is a bit silly just to tell somebody there are not ready just for not having a certain birthday yet, like the day before it.

I was about 16 years and 2 months old when I planned my first time and I was ready. I knew what it meant and I knew what I was getting into and I was with the right guy, my husband now because we just stayed together. It was wonderful and it was the right time for me. I think I would have been ready up to 2 years earlier really but it could not have happened because it would not have been legal.

I think 16 was the right age because for a few years I got a lot of older boys and young men getting interested because I was tall with a bigger pair of boobs than the other girls the same age as me and some times people thought I must be older than I was. It made me have to grow up fast and handle it. Just a few of my friends lost their virginities a bit younger than me but I still think I was one of the first ones to have sex. Most of them did it when they were about 17 and one two 18.

Thanks submissivelee and mastrbator for both your comments the boy who raped me I never said anything about it because he threatened to kill my pet and also because I was really embarrassed about the whole thing at the time.

Oh no Kid, that is just nasty and cruel. But you have not got anything to feel embarrassed about, it was just not your fault.

Hugs.

How awful! Never ever your fault. I just want to hug you so hard. It makes me want to cry. It just isn't your fault ok? Much love ❤️

S

Thanks for the hugs submissive lee and Amethyst I'm giving you a big hug back both of you hugs really help it shows that people care. 😃

NEVER EVER think it is your fault Kid! They make those kind of threats to make themselves feel better. It's sick and wrong. I too wish I could just hug you right now. 🌹

The minimum age is 18 regardless of how liberal minded any of us might be. Allowing/encouraging/looking the other way when your daughter has intercourse younger than age 18 is allowing for the possibility some guy is going to end up having to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life. If they are both 17, he's the offender - not her. If it's consensual and something goes wrong with the relationship, he can be hanged out to dry if she decides he should. If you have a son, and his gf is under 18, tell him he cannot be prosecuted for masturbating in private. That is so much better than a roll in the sack that might haunt him the rest of his life.

Hugs to you kid 🌹

I agree with what submissivlee, amethyst and cookie monster have stated, IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT sis 🌹

~Kukkie

1) I cannot see how anyone could hurt a 13-year-old; 2) Many, are starting to develop, and have attraction, but NOT sexually!!; and, 3) My, "brat kid", has NO faults!! 😜 😄 😃 😜 😄

Seriously, No, Kid, there is absolutely NO blame on your part there, and fully understand the fear you had!! 😉 Water under the bridge, and hope the person that did that, has lived a highly rotten life!! Love you dearly, my kid!! 😃 You are a treasure!! 😃 Mike, your Scott Warrior!! 😃

The minimum age is 18 regardless of how liberal minded any of us might be. Allowing/encouraging/looking the other way when your daughter has intercourse younger than age 18 is allowing for the possibility some guy is going to end up having to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life.

There are many different ages of consent in the various countries of the world. They vary from 14 in very civilized countries such as Germany, Austria and Portugal among others, to 15 in countries like France, Denmark, Poland and Sweden and others, with the most countries setting 16 as the age of consent, with a few at 17 (Ireland) and a few at 18 - Turkey and Malta.

So clearly some guy is not necessarily going to end up being branded a sex offender. In fact, many countries now recognize that youngsters are having intercourse and sexual relations at ever younger ages and take that social reality into account by creating special age categories. For instance in Belgium, sex starting at 14 is legal as long as the partner is not more than 2 years older. Other countries have different systems, but the point is to protect youngsters from being charged with statutory rape and indeed end up being convicted of a sex crime. No one benefits from young people being tried and convicted for such things.

the boy who raped me I never said anything about it because he threatened to kill my pet

So he was a double criminal. Forcing yourself on someone sexually is horrid enough. Threatening a pet just compounds the crime.

You have my deepest sympathies ...

Rape is not right at any age!!!

rapist should be castrated!!!! or hung by their penis till it falls off

Sorry to hear that happen to you kid, and i agree with Justdan49, people who do that to little kids should die and go straight to hell.

There are many different ages of consent in the various countries of the world. They vary from 14 in very civilized countries such as Germany, Austria and Portugal among others, to....

I'm sorry, I was thinking of the U.S. I should have said the age of consent. In the U.S. we have gone overboard with a lot of things. For example, a man complementing a woman co-worker on a dress can be fired for sexual harassment. That's not happened to me; but, I had to sit thru the ridiculous training session that explained it.

In the U.S. we have gone overboard with a lot of things.

No kidding? ... ha ha ha.

But here's a consolation, sometimes it feels not that much different here too.

For example, a man complementing a woman co-worker on a dress can be fired for sexual harassment. ... I had to sit thru the ridiculous training session that explained it.

This example is not about 'real' law, but about corporate rules made by clueless and ass-covering execs in in-house legal departments or copied from other companies. But it is indeed still something that can affect people drastically. Luckily though, unless brought to a court, none of these corporate rules will get anyone on a sex-offenders list.

Also, just as an update, most US states use 16 as the age of consent, with a few at 17 (which sounds like an unlucky age to me) and some at 18 (notably the 'People's Republic of California', that so-called hotbed of free-thinking promiscuity and licentiousness .... ha ha ha)

Thank you everyone for your care and support in the matter, I try to forget about it for it was a long time ago it happened to me. But I believe it did change me because after it happened I became very weary of boys and men, its probably the reason that I'm bi. Thanks for all support. 😃 Kid

@kid: I'm sorry that happened to you. The person who did that was truly evil and calculating in threatening your pet.

I wish you all the best.

Thanks Rijames 😃

@agracier: "This example is not about 'real' law, but about corporate rules made by clueless and ass-covering execs in in-house legal departments or copied from other companies. "

Actually, that's not the case, at least in the US. I'm familiar with how sexual harassment policies are developed. Most companies don't use in-house lawyers: they hire firms which specialize in sexual harassment law. These firms have lawyers who spend all day culling the results of sexual harassment lawsuits and the basis of the successful ones and then make recommendations based on the trend in jury decisions. The "not complimenting a woman on the dress she's wearing" policy comes directly from jury decisions. Our tort system and the mentality of juries really needs to change. Until then, companies will implement polices which protect them from lawsuits.

btw, a violation of corporate rules will never get someone on a sex offenders registry. That's only for criminal offenses.

Our tort system and the mentality of juries really needs to change. Until then, companies will implement polices which protect them from lawsuits.

To take the example you've given about complimenting someone's attire. Let's postulate that something like that goes to trial and a conviction follows. In what way is a company involved? If anything, such a matter would be an interpersonal matter between two employees. Something between the two of them. I don't see how a company would be involved or held responsible for anything like that.

Or rather, I suppose it happens, but what is the rationale for that?

And anyway, it's interesting that there are specialized law firms handling such matters. Never knew that but I guess it figures. But even so, it is still company execs who have to decide on implementing the policies those specialist firms come up with. So it is in their lap when all is said and done.

And yes, you've got too many cases being determined by irrational people on juries who vote on emotions, not facts.

@agracier: Not to be pedantic, but their is no "conviction" in a civil trial. It would be a judgement in favor of the plaintiff.

A company is responsible for the actions of its employees while they're working. They also have an obligation to make sure their employees are aware of company policies and appropriate behavior in the workplace and to monitor it, to some extent.

That aside, the real issue is the company most likely has deeper pockets than the co-worker, along with insurance. Employers are *always* listed as defendants in sexual harassment cases. Even in a situation where there is no rationale (and in the US there would be a legitimate basis for suing a company for the actions of its employee), without a doubt, the plaintiff would list the company as a defendant and the case would be decided by "irrational people on juries who vote on emotions, not facts" and completely disregard judges instructions on what to consider and what not to consider.

While this is getting way off the subject of this thread, the "don't compliment a woman on the dress she's wearing" statement needs to be placed in context.

Let's put this in the typical situation. A man should not compliment women on what they're wearing unless he also compliments men. To do so could be considered a form of sexual harassment, as he is treating women differently than men. Yes, this may be a simple interpersonal interaction, but if the woman wants to file a claim, it would be against the company and the employee. So the general suggestion is not to talk about what people wear or how they look.

Of course in reality, that doesn't happen. I showed up to work last week sporting a haircut. Several people noted that it looked nice. No problem.

But it's a slippery slope, which becomes problematic when the comments are along the lines of "your butt looks really nice in those tight jeans," or a comment about cleveage. I'm not a fan of the fear of the "slippery slope" being used to prevent normal interactions, but this is the basis for these policies. There is no concern about crossing a line if you aren't on the field in the first place.

But it's a slippery slope, which becomes problematic

I grew up in the US in the 50s-60s, but I seriously don't think I would be able to function there anymore ... there is a lot of odd reasoning going on if you ask me ...

Haha It's not that difficult to function here.

What is the odd reasoning to which you're referring?

What is the odd reasoning to which you're referring?

That complimenting someone would be a valid reason for a civil suit and possibly constitute sexual harassment ... tell me that is not odd.

LETS GET BACK TO THE TOPIC OF THE AGE TO LOSE VIRGINITY

Depends on the girl and the society.

I like the response "any time after I'm dead." lol