Spankings and Childhood

Well then it's no wonder Pecan that you are such a good guy. You were raised right in my opinion.

Mashie

When I was young enough for spankings to have any effect, my father was usually away for months at a time, at sea, somewhere on the far side of the world with his company's ship on a navy charter. So he was not around to try and spank anyone. Though I do know that the few times he threatened to do so, my mother allegorically sprang on him with the fury of a wildcat. Her utter disdain and contempt for people who hit or spanked children knew no bounds (the same applied to pets or animals).

But, she certainly knew how to punish and correct. It was with words, attitude, withholding of affection, privileges and by her whole demeanor. Thinking back it's frightening how she managed it with so little apparent effort.

And it must have worked well enough. In high school I never once had detention or had to write a punishment essay. The last year during a dispute with the Jesuit rector over a question of modern day morals, he remarked that never once getting detention was odd in itself. It showed what a sneaky and backhanded pupil I was. Odd he never thought it might for other reasons like not thinking punishment worth some silly infraction of school rules.

Agracier: I believe that, to some extent, some of my "misbehavior" was in reaction to my mom's all-controlling and somewhat infantilizing way of treating her children. I did some silly things out of just wanting to disobey, I guess, in a passive-aggressive kind of way (that is, instead of refusing to do something, I did not do it and claimed I had done it, or found fake excuses). At the same time I was pretty meek.

Mashie: I don't know.

Though we were both spanked when young, we do not spank our children, beyond a rare slap to stop impending disasters.

Well, I fully believe in spanking when necessary. With this being said though, there is a difference between spanking and abuse for sure, even though some don't think so. I whole believe in spanking when necessary, for adults and children (hehehe). Seriously though I raised my kids with knowing that my yes absolutely meant yes, and my no absolutely meant no, Which in itself cut down on a lot of potential behavioral issues. I still had to spank both of my girls but only had to do so a few times. My daughter is giving birth to her first baby in December and she and her husband plan on spanking their children as well. And honestly, I applaud them for doing so. They both have great judgment so they will do so respectively and only when needed.

Mashie

I simply do not believe in corporal punishment of any kind for children. I think it's taking advantage of someone because they're younger and weaker. I think that appealing to reason is a far more effective method. If that doesn't work then a time out is the proper alternative. I was never spanked and we never spanked my son. He was too bright and reasonable. I guess I was too.

I was such a well behaved kid 😁 😁 😁 (at least as far as my parents knew-I was great at protecting my reputation) I was only spanked once. I was playing with my older brother and I ran out into the street when I was about three years old to get a ball. I was plucked out of the street by my mother and after a few immediately delivered really hard spanks --DON'T --spank--EVER--spank--DO--spank--THAT--spank--AGAIN--spank-- I remembered never to run into the street again. . . . and I was wearing panties, not diapers so I really felt every one of those blows.

I was and still am such a great kid 😁 that I never got spanked. I was a prankster and naughty yet well behaved kid.In my 19 year life time ,I am scolded only twice by my mom.Once when I fought with my nephew.😁

Second,when I fought with my nephew.😁

Though mumma used to spank my feet to wake me up when little lol :-p

I was only spanked for those types of biggies too Susie. I remember once I also ran into the street in down town Columbus. Not a smart idea, lol. I also remember getting one for stealing 5 nails from a hardware store. I got a whack for each nail then had to take them back to that store and personally give them back and apologize for taking them. And there were a few more times but I don't remember. I know I lied about something but I can't remember what. Oh, and the other was because I called my second grade teacher an idiot. I am pretty sure that was all the times I got spanked.

As far as my kids were concerned, I spanked them for the same thing. Each got it for lying, stealing, and then the oldest for fighting. I heard screaming one afternoon and I taught my girls to never scream unless they were in danger or something, but nothing drives me nuts more than little girls screaming and squealing. It's like nails on a chalkboard to me. Well I looked out and my oldest daughter who was probably in 3rd grade at the time was dragging the neighbor girl who was also the same age around the yard by her hair. For real, just by her hair. I ask my daughter what the heck happened and she said, "well, she made me mad and called me a whimp." So I gave her the choice of letting the other girl drag her around the yard by her hair like she did or get spanked. She chose the spanking. LOL

Mashie

Oh, and the other was because I called my second grade teacher an idiot.

10 to 1 you were spot on with that ... 😃

Agracier, well maybe, but it still wasn't right and it was very disrespectful from anyone, but from an 8 year old, much more so. Her name was Mrs. Beakley actually and I met her again during a high school career day. She was the nicest woman in the world. She was one of the reasons I was on the fence about being a teacher. Alas I chose nursing instead.

Mashie

I got my share of spanking growing up i wasn't a bad kid i was let's say mischievous extremly mischievous

Sure didn't like it at the time, but spankings I got as a kid probably fed into my medfet and CP fantasies/desires. Dad fashioned a piece of oak flooring into a paddle, and it really stung on my little bare bottom. I was usually spanked laying on my bed, after being ordered to "take down your pants", and then more often than not "take down your underpants". Often Mom would observe and assist in the discipline by holding me down on the bed.

Looking back it's surprising how early-on the thrill of thinking about someone receiving a spanking and the tinglies which accompanied such thoughts happened; I think I was pre-pubescent when I created fantasies laying in bed at night and getting little boners without touching my cocklet, and wondering why such great feelings were happening

Hanesonme, congratulations, you have given me a new word that I have never heard of before, which is, "cocklet", I actually really like that. And if you don't mind, I will probably use it at some point in the future.

Mashie

, you have given me a new word that I have never heard of before, which is, "cocklet", I actually really like that.

No copyrights or patents on words. They are all in the public domain ... ha ha

Anyway, the word often crops up in sissy/feminizing/humiliation context. Probably also in small penis humiliation dialogues ... it's just the diminutive of 'cock', not that diminutives are used that often in English ...

Well that makes sense because often times here in the states when the "let" is added to the end of a word it means small.

Okay, now that I think about it more, and in that context, I probably won't be using that word, lol. Doc is NOT into sissy or feminizing play, so calling his cock a cocklet would probably be highly offensive to him, lol.

Mashie

I think we all got spanked, for different reasons and or actions but we sure did get a sore bottom

i think we all got spanked, for different reasons and or actions but we sureddid get a sore bottom

No, I was never spanked or hit by my parents. Nor did I attend any schools that practiced physical punishment either. And I attended some 5 different schools, since we moved several times and my parents changed their minds on the desirability of putting up with Catholic nuns and their controlling and condescending nonsense, being fed up with nuns and priests telling them how to run their lives and raise their kids. But, they believed you got a better education in Catholic schools in the US (which i find debatable for the 50s and 60s).

One time I did get a physical punishment was in a Catholic school when a nun, for a reason I've never understood, gave me a good slap on the face in front of the class. Along with looks that could kill. She must have lost her icy-cold religious cool for some reason.

But other than that, sorry. No spankings, no physical punishment. Not by parents, not in school.

I've never understood why so many people just naturally assume everyone gets spanked and hit by parents when young. There are grown-ups who believe there are better ways of socializing children (and household pets by the way) than by using violence.

I've never understood why so many people just naturally assume everyone gets spanked and hit by parents when young. There are grown-ups who believe there are better ways of socializing children (and household pets by the way) than by using violence.

I guess it was the norm back then, and i guess different cultures and countries do stuff differently. and i guess tradition has something to do with it. my grandparents spanked thier kids (both sides if the family) so maybe thats what was happening there. not saying it was ok to do so but they did it cause they didn't know any better.

I was occasionally smacked on the bottom as a child. Not serious spankings, just quick correctional reminders that I shouldn't do what I had just done.

It was never on the bare bottom. Indeed, I cannot recall ever having had my skirt lifted to receive a smacking on the back of my knickers, either. It was always fully clothed.

I do not have a spanking fetish now I'm all growed up ...

Got spanked all the time, but never ever did i get them on the bare skin but sure did get them last time i remember my dad spanking me i was days short of my 14th birthday. cant remeber what i did but i got a good whopping

I was spanked often as a child. I know there were times that I deserved it, but there were a lot of times I don't think that I did. In my mothers defense, when I was about 4 yrs old, she was in a very bad car accident and she ended up with a pretty bad concussion. I remember her having really bad headaches. She was also under a whole lot of stress and had other issues she was upset about. I know she missed my brothers when they went to live with our dad. They all stayed in Texas and she and I moved to California when I was almost three. I don't think that she was always aware of how rough she was with me. She would spank me on my bottom, my legs and I remember smacks across the face (for sassing her). I remember once I was kicking a fit for something in the grocery store. She hauled me out to the car and spanked me bare bottomed out there. I know I was a brat. At the Christian School I went to, they spanked us all the time, for not doing homework, for fighting or what ever. I know I got it a lot. It didn't matter if you were a boy or a girl. They were never bare butt swats, except once, and it was for the boys because they were stopping up the toilets with paper towels. I don't have children, but if I had, they also would have been spanked, but not like I was....at least I don't think so...

Well, i was raised in a Hispanic home do i need to say?.

well, i was raised in a Hispanic home do i need to say?.

That is odd. Now I know that Hispanic does not mean Spanish - Iberian Spanish - but from what I know of children here, they don't really seem to get spanked overly. I've read that children, especially boys, are thought of as being somewhat more special and are treated more leniently than would be the case otherwise. And by leniently I don't mean spoiled or allowed to do whatever they wish. Perhaps indulgently is a better word. Certainly with less physical aspects with correcting bad behavior. And in general, on average, it doesn't seem to affect their manners adversely. This is commented on in northern European magazines and articles as well.

An anecdote: in 1983 me, my wife and son were in Granada as tourists. Our son was 6. We were in the city center on a somewhat crowed square and he was acting up in some way or another. Nothing serious, just didn't want to walk anymore or something like that. That means standing still, not budging, arms crossed, sour look and so on. I usually gave a good good talking too and if all else fails sometimes a finger wagging, things like that. Now while I was busy at this, an old Spanish grandmother - all in traditional black - came up to me and my wife and started scolding us - also giving a good finger wagging, some undoubtedly nasty remarks about us - and then bent down, patted our son on the cheek and head as if he were royalty incarnate. He beamed of course and my wife and I didn't know what to say, but we understood we'd been warned: children, boys especially, are a gift from heaven and never to be made sad or scolded. I think both my wife were red faced from the dressing down we got from black-clad grandma. And afterwards, despite beaming and feeling protected, our son was much better behaved the rest of the day.

It's still a family joke, a funny tale.

well, i was raised in a Hispanic home do i need to say more?.

let me rephrase that i was raised in a MEXICAN HOME. enough said!

I was raised in a loving family with six kids. That being said, there was no room for disobedience. Mom ran the household with German efficiency. Which meant that there was a sliding scale of punishments that went from scoldings from her to over the chair strappings from Dad. Needless to say I had to try them all heehee. Without a doubt the worst was the strappings. After dinner with the entire family watching Dad made me pull down my pants. Underwear was left on as it wasn't acceptable to be nude in front of the girls. (they didn't provide any protection anyways). I had to bend over the chair on my own and too much hesitation got me more licks of the strap.The emotions that this evoked were worthy of any role play session I could come up with today. Knowing I was personally placing myself in the position on the chair was far worse than being pushed down. Kinda like admitting defeat and submitting like a sissy. The humiliation was as bad or worse than the pain. The thought of being forced to submit to a semi public strapping still creates power feelings. The girls would cheer and work themselves to a frenzy watching me suffer. I had to keep bending down over the chair as I would jump up crying after each lick. (dad showed no mercy) Naturally my hands went down to shield my bottom and this just added to the drama as Dad would make me remove them and be in position for the next shot. By the time it was over and let up I was a hot mess. Jumping and dancing holding my bottom shamelessly while I bawled like a baby. To the girls it was all fun. For me though......

Now, my wife occasionally paddles me when she's in the mood. Those old feelings emerge and reduce me to an unruly 10 year old when she does it. For her, she gets this silly grin that's very telling. She Gets OFF on it! Not all bad though..... Oh yeah, the strappings had their desired effect. They always brought me around to Mom and Dads way of thinking.

The girls would cheer and work themselves to a frenzy watching me suffer. .... To the girls it was all fun. For me though......

I guess the girls all grew up to be dommes and had to find very submissive husbands ... ha ha ha.

Hmmm... now that you mention that.......

Hmmm... now that you mention that.......

lol, omg, that's hilarious

I was not spanked as a child although I have fantasized about it since before I can remember. The old Disney cartoons were characters were spanked or always some of my favorites growing up. It is only as an adult that I received my first actual spankings and I very much enjoy them but I don't think it had anything to do with me receiving or not receiving spankings as a child.