What do you do when Play Exams Go Wrong?

I am asking what other play Docs do when play exams go wrong, either the doorbell rings or one forgets an important piece of equipment and it is in the next room or worse.

Do you break the scene or keep going? How much is everything set up in advance of the exam and what if you forget an important tool?

This may have been asked before, but I was just wondering. This afternoon one of my play Docs forgot an important piece of equipment and we had to leave the exam room to find it!

What do you do when this happens to you and your patients?

Lady Teddy

Lady Teddy,

Imho there has to be some flexibility. Even the doc, or nurse, at my internist's office, has to excuse themself to get a necessary item periodically. If play is so tense that it cannot allow for a 'need', I'm not certain that it is 'play' any longer. 😉

Get to know one another before too many expectations about play become a part of the experience. Relax, and find the best in each other's interest in medfet, and have some fun.

Now ~ go out and make it a gr8 day!

If play is so tense that it cannot allow for a 'need', I'm not certain that it is 'play' any longer.

Very wise words, Hermann, karma to you! We should always remember that it is just play, indulged in for the pleasure of both parties. I am a believer in realistic exams, but if we take them too seriously, the enjoyment is gone.

I always have my exam room set up in advance with anticipation of what instruments and toys will be needed to provide my patient the type of innervating fantasy gyn exam she desires. Although, what I plan on doing during her exam is one thing, compared to how the exam play actually evolves. Many times while playing and delighting her on the table, I may notice an especial response from her that will spontaneously prompt me to imbue her with an unplanned stimulus or twist to her examination that escalates the excitement. So essentially, my experience has been to keep things adaptable and to go with the magic of the moment for the patient. I don’t break the scene and like to keep her ebbing and flowing with unanticipated exhilaration.

I'm willing to bet some preparation and planning on the doctors part most likely can solve most of the issues with unexpected things. If something does happen however, if you are playing doctor you should be mature enough to take a deep breath and work back into the mindset so that all the people involved remember things as being an enjoyable experience.

Adapt, Improvise, and Overcome!

As a playdoc, and as a patient, there have been times when things just haven't worked the way we would like them to. Instead of stopping the play, we simply go on to the next thing, or sometimes we back track and provide the patient with some particular stimulation that he/she goes crazy for.

And that's what I know!

LadyDoc

I'm glad someone else asks the questions that I think about. Thanks for being such an inquisitive group! Great answers too!

Tinkergal

Perhaps this is slightly off topic, though this comes from my very first real time meeting with a play doc where things did not work out as intended and ended up working out in a unique wonderful different way. 🌹

Last year I met a play doc. The circumstances and timing were less than ideal for both of us. We had exchanged lovely emails, as well as phone conversation. The meetup was filled with stress of other things not related to the meeting. Final result was that we were not a match as play doc and play patient. We have been able to remain friends. Even as we will probably never be a match, he has taught me what seems like countless things about my medfet and myself. I take gratitude and thanks for the friendship with him and his open willingness to answer my questions, provide advice, support. So out of not being a match, a friendship was formed. Perhaps one day we will play or we may never play. Perhaps one day I will be interested in his form of play, and perhaps I won't. I don't see this as something that went wrong. I believe it has turned out as it should. No regrets.

"Doc" if you are reading this, once again, thank you for who you are, your honesty, your continued friendship and support 🌹

@ AndreaUTSLC74 - I'm glad that you posted this and think it is important for others to understand just because we share a fetish in common, it doesn't mean that there is compatibility for playing. It is beneficial for others to realize that there has to be a mutual interest for the same kind of play adventure and also some sort of personal chemistry. There are many different facets to med fet and it is helpful to determine if both parties have similar predilections. Like you, I have also met some very wonderful people who were into this fetish, but we had slightly different things that turned us on for playing. Even though there may not be compatibility for playing, there is a pleasure to learn something new from someone else, and to also have the gift of friendship. I think in the beginning most of us felt that we were abnormal and alone with our fetish interest; and having a camaraderie of friendship with one another provides us a venue for personal acceptance and within this esoteric community.

All is so true. This as in life, we meet people everyday. Having something in common is only step 1 in the compatability game, no matter what it is you are doing. I am a nurse, there are some nurses at work that I honestly can't stand, and they can't stand me, but we are all nurses. Which means we have a strong common interest.

But as I have said many times over, there is something that I like to call the "human factor", which is my generic term for human behavors that seem to be miss placed.

For example, two people meet on line in a med fet room. It seems that they both have the same indeals in mind as far as what their kinks are, they seem they would be a good fit, he likes a younger patient, she likes an older doctor and the list can go on and on. But once you meet them, and they even can be exactly as they said they were, and you as you said you were, but sometimes even with all this commonalities, you still are not a match. It's really quite the complicated thing.

Which is why sometimes people ask me why I am not "jealous" per se', but probably way more over protective of my relationship that I have with Doc than I should be or need to be. But, sometimes having everything in common, wanting the same things, same goals, same outcomes still isn't enough. There has to be a chemistry there, and it's the chemistry in which the relationship, if there is to be one, will grow from, not from the things you have in common. I am having a very difficult time articulating myself correctly this late hour,but maybe someone gets half of what I am trying to say here, lol.

Mashie