Being At Risk

I have been a member here for some time, and over the years, I’ve met a few female partners in person and played with them. I must say that all of these meetings and play times have been very satisfying for me and I am led to believe that they were equally as satisfying for the other parties as well.

From the male perspective, I have been a bit surprised at some of the posts that have been made here over the years on the subjects like “Safety for women meeting men” and “Safety procedures”.

While I certainly understand that there are indeed situations in which “Women” could be at risk”; from the male perspective I think there are certainly EQUAL opportunities for “Men” to “be at risk” as well. For example in play where bondage or restraints are involved an unscrupulous woman could easily employ an accomplice to create a bad situation for the man.

So why do any of us play with others in real life. I can’t speak for the rest of you but for me it’s the wonderful relationships and experiences that I can only experience with another person who is similarly inclined. Playing with another person has inherent risks and as a consenting adult, I understand and accept those risks in the pursuit of those relationships and experiences.

I was disturbed, to recently read a post, under the section Miscellaneous Treatments, the thread “To the true medical professionals on this board”, in which a “female” member, indicated that she had willfully chosen to turn a Play Doc member (who happened to be medical professional) into his state licensing board for his actions as play docs, potentially ruining his career and personal life. It would appear that the woman has now had second thoughts about that post and has retracted the original post leaving only “#” sign behind.

It is indeed, an unfortunate reality, that when we agree to play with a “consenting adult partner”, that we may be putting much more than our physical safety at risk. This was not a case of a man taking advantage of a woman…it was a woman, who apparently had second thoughts about what she had done, and then willfully harmed the Play Doc. Shame on you; Ma’am. Shame on you.

That is what we may have to deal with in real life if we are ever "outed". What family or friends will say if they only knew what we did behind closed doors. What social services would say or do would affect us.

For those members who play outside of their marriage or commitments, they have to think of this anytime they play. One word said in the wrong place could change how their life is in the future.

I know the above doesn't compare to the example you are saying jagkar52, but it will have consequences. People have to think of the worst case scenario that could happen to them and be somewhat prepared for that anytime they play. Whether the person(s) they play with is a close friend or a new playmate.

Think of the one who turned them in, they are going to have to live with the actions they did for the rest of their lives as well. It couldn't have been an easy decision, but they weighed the choices and picked what they thought was the best choice. Not that I would consider doing something of that nature. Maybe a different less intrusive intervention would have gotten similar results without the major life changing problems.

Just my thoughts. Just my feelings.

Hello

This is DoublePet, and I posted the original thread "To the true medical professionals on this board". Little did I know that my original posting from a couple of months ago was going to be used to discuss a recent incident (mentioned above) taking place in this medfet community.

For the record I am not directly or indirectly involved in this incident. All I can say is that those among us – myself included - who are aware of this situation feel very sad about it.

For those of you, healthcare professionals / healthcare providers (HCPs) reading these lines, again please ensure that there are no real life patients involved in your medfet plays, no illicit or prescriptive meds used, consent is given that the medplay is not actual medical care, and there is no money exchange for sexual intercourse.

And for those of you, non HCPs, who accept to play as consenting adults, please remember that reporting your playmate to their licensing Board likely means you are de facto destroying their professional and personal lives.

There will be no further comment from me about this incident on this board.

Take care everyone and keep safe.

DoublePet

The term we might be searching for here is "snitch" or "squealer" or perhaps "stool pigeon".

Whatever was done, whatever happened (I can only assume there was no pedophilia or physical abuse), the understanding should be that the "offended" party has the right to walk away, but NOT to meddle in the lives of others.

Virtually all people understand at least on an intuitive basis, you don't tattle.

Come on, most of us learned this by the age of five. My parents used to punish the tattler...and whatever sin you had committed got a one-time pass. Even government prosecutors tend to give victims of blackmail as much leeway as possible for whatever their sins might be.

Whatever goes on is supposed to remain between the parties, and if the play becomes onerous for any reason, any of the parties can leave the play.

Reporting, especially to licensing boards, is WITCH-HUNTING, and should be looked upon in that light.

I have to say, I am appalled to hear this. Whatever the reporting party's mental activity might have been at the time, THINKING wasn't it.

Further, I have to wonder about the time frame...what sort of time elapsed between the play and the reporting? If it was less than 24 hours, I think we might want to consider whether the entire thing was pre-meditated.

Personally, I wouldn't know how to find a state licensing board...and I certainly wouldn't (had I been even slightly inclined) have made the report without some lengthy thinking on the matter.

Is there some reason the reporting party isn't banned from the site immediately?

All the best,

samuelsonpeters

Well, I used to be a nurse, and I wouldn't have known where to go or whom to report to either if that tells you anything?

Just a quick point on knowing who to report someone to. Whatever the nature of what one wished to report (in any walk of life), I think anyone determined enough could certainly easily find out; this would have been possible at any time in the past and now, of course, a few clicks on the internet will take care of it.

Addressing Jagkar's general point, he is right that meeting up with strangers is potentially fraught with danger, whichever genders are involved. I would like to get together with a female playpal, but I don't see it ever happening. You have to find someone into medplay, of a like mind, geographically close enough, available at mutually convenient time, and so on. Then there's the safety precautions. This site has some good advice about that.

For me, and I guess for many of you, in 'real-life' the fact that the person who's seen you undressed and examined you was a complete stranger, never seen before or again, has provided a significant part of the thrill.

Unfortunately, there's no supply readily available. Perhaps it's no co-incidence that 'stranger' rhymes with 'danger'.

I'm not the greatest typer or replier by any means and i'm not here to defend any body or drag this topic on but have any of you thought about why this was reported? could it have been illegal use of prescription drugs? could it have been putting anothers life in danger? if there was drug use (i don't know if it was as i haven't been on here in a while)was it used widly could it carry over into this person's profesionall life?

If the reporter felt that this person may have been putting real patients in danger by this activity then they deserved to be reported.

How many folks out there wouldn't be outraged to find out HCP may have been treating you or a loved one under the influence of prescription drugs!

I don't know anyone involved it's just food for though wish i would've seen the deleted post.

by the way i just happen to be an HCP

How many folks out there wouldn't be outraged to find out HCP may have been treating you or a loved one under the influence of prescription drugs!

Reality is this, and this isn't in reference to the above posts, this is a response to your post, a simple post, not to be misunderstood or taken out of context.

I have to wonder what you do in the health care field. I have to admit that I hang out with doctors, nurses, NP's, and everyone else in this field and I gotta tell you, most of us take some sort of prescription drug, including myself.

For example, I take synthroid, it's not a controlled substance, but it is a prescription.

But hey, in all fairness, I know what you mean, you mean a controlled substance, a narcotic, or narcs as we like to call 'em. And again, I can honestly say, most health care professionals do still in fact take controlled substances somewhat on a fairly regular basis, and yes, they treat you and your family members while these drugs are in their systems.

You have to understand a little bit about how your body processes and uses these narcs. Say for example, I take an Ativan today, well, depending on the reference you check, that 1 mg of Ativan could still be in your system anyplace from 3 days to 11 weeks from now.

So if I take an Ativan today, and you get treated by me two in a half months down the road, does that constitute me as being under the influence?

Again I can honestly say that many many of us take some sort of controlled substance or another. It may be pain meds such as percocet, darvocets, lyrica, ultrams, or dilaudid.

Or we could be taking something for our ADHD/ADD like Ritalin, concerta, adderal, or stratera. These also are all controlled substances. Hell for that matter adderal is in the same drug class as crack cocaine. Laypeople take it all the time, why can we?

Or, better yet, many of us take an antidepressant or an antianxiety pill such as Xanax or Ativan. Again, both controlled.

And last but not least on my list of meds most commonly taken by health care professionals and laypeople alike our good old favorites, sleep aids, some of these include my personal favorite Ambien, also trazadone, just to name a few.

So my point here is, anyone who has taken these meds and taken them correctly knows that it is very possible to work under the influence of most of these narcs/prescription drugs/controlled substances...

So my best advice to anyone who might be, or is "outraged" by thinking that their health care professional, might be, currently is, or definitely is taking one of the above mentioned meds, (which is a very very very short list of meds by the way) might want to seriously consider making their primary care physician Web MD. I happen to have it on a good source that he won't talk back, he's always there, he never charges a co-pay, and I am willing to bet he would never take a prescription medication.

As a HCP I can only say that "playing" when you have a medical license is asking for big time trouble and the end of your career.