Does libido decrease with age?

I'm 52 and have gone through my memapause I find my libido has never waned I'm horny all the time. I suffer from Bi-Polar condition and when Manic my libido goes through the roof. 😃

I am 50 my ex wife is 47. We still screw like teenagers. Except, now that we really know what we are doing...... its ten times more satisfying. I have never been with a women that's gets so wet during fore play. She likes for me to talk to her. After 10mins of that. Wow. I still can't belive I have such a great love making partner. We are adventurous and open minded. I always figuerd.getting older would be no fun. What really happend. We lost our dislikes and inhibitions as we grew older.

I'm also 59 and, if anything, my libido is higher than ever. What to do about my wife, who seems to be heading in the opposite direction?

Have her try flibanserin. Read up on it.

Recently accepted by the FDA (not that they are the end-all) it should help improve your wife's desire to have sex.

It will NOT turn her into a nymphomaniac.

Many thanks for the helpful suggestion. I'd vaguely heard of this drug (incorrectly dubbed the female viagra) but your tip encourages me to actively check it out.

Well when women go through menapause they may be subjected to a drier vagania but that can be taken care of by using personal lube down there. Like when I first went through menapause I was dry and needed help with some personal lube. Then my condition changed and I didn't because my natural sexual juices came back again. Now its like I never went through menapause at all, everything is back to normal again. My body is now responding to sexual stimulus again like when I was younger. and my libido is high. And I suffer from Bi-Polar disorder when I'm manic my libido goes even higher.

Desire always remains, and as long as my hormones hold out.....

I'm 69 and will be 70 in March. My libido is no less, and I think more than it ever was!! I do-not think age has anything to do with it always. . .I think it's always a proper state of mind!

Well stated. It really is all ( or a significant part) in your mind.

A little over a year ago, I thought my libido was fine. A visit to the doctor showed that my Testosterone levels were "OK".

On his advice that I start some sort of cardio routine, I ended up going into a full blown fitness craze - running, eating clean, lifting weights. I lost 35 pounds and cut cigarettes back to a pack a week.

I didn't know it at first, but soon learned that weight lifting was significantly increasing my testosterone levels - and my libido went through the roof. Lucky for me my wife began to get past perimenopause and her libido is returning as well.

Looking back, with my wife's lack of interest and my mediocre state of fitness, my libido wasn't as great as I thought.

Barring any medical or genetic issues, if you want to increase your libido - get active. Exercise, eat clean, and if needed, lose some weight. If your partner's libido is lagging and they are not willing or are unable to improve, you alone have to decide to whether you will let it drag you down with them or not.

Of course stress and general state of mind can have a huge impact as well.

I seriously think that reading the posts here and participating in chats and conversations with members here helps boost libido.Add that to @ImDoug's tips and you should go some way to feeling those longed-for sensations returning with vigour.

I'll say the older we have gotten the better sex is. Reason for that is we enjoying doing new things. Variety really keeps us green and growing.

I don't think mine has decreased much. Unfortunately, the wife's has, so more enemas and hand time.

I am in my 60s have leaking problems off and on, in and out of diapers, wife has passed away. For a couple of years I had no want or need for sex ,now the want has come back with a vengeance but not the ability. Thankfully there is a house of negotiatiable affection where I know several of the ladies personally from my off road travels and they welcome my friendship. I can tell you sitting at the bar with scantly clad ladies buying my drinks and pretending interest in me is so uplifting. I wish I could do more but the little guy doesn't stand up much now so ill just enjoy what I have.

^^^ Love that quote - "House of negotiable affection".

It all depends on your health and how you take care of yourself. I am mid 50s and believe it or not last longer today then I did 10 years ago.

I do take a lot of supplements.

I'm 63 and my libido has not changed a bit. It's just as strong as it was in my teens.

I agree. I have a high sex drive. But I think when people are married, they take it all for granted. Being single, you have to supply your own needs.

@sundaybrunch--I also have a high sex drive. It has changed with age because of an ED challenge caused by (I think) blood pressure but I take one of the well-known daily meds for that issue. Seems to be successful, thank goodness.

I'm 75 and my partner is 70. I always assumed that libido would decline as one ages. Reading through this thread suggests otherwise. The article cited below perhaps will lead to further studies. I doubt that individuals will be all that interested or influenced by scientific conclusions. Libido isn't something you turn on or off.

We have an enjoyable sex life, but because of ED we can't be too spontaneous. So, it's a once a week event, and after an exciting, energetic, session, she often asks how long we will be able to do it.I assure her that we should just enjoy it while it lasts. I would say I have a much higher libido than her, but she is an enthusiastic lover, and may just not be as open about her needs as I am.

I use Levitra or Viagra. I get the usual minor side effects, and find them acceptable. I suffered severe back pain with Cialis and did not use it again. I agree with earlier posters, that a good overall state of health is important for satisfying sexual experiences.

As I read through this thread, it occurred to me that the membership base here might very well be atypical of the general population. It might very well be a more highly sexed group. One of the reasons it is such an interesting place to visit.

I use Levitra or Viagra. I get the usual minor side effects, and find them acceptable. I suffered severe back pain with Cialis and did not use it again.

Was the back pain a direct side effect or from the physical exertion associated with taking the Cialis? May need to conduct a drug study to know for sure. 😜

Was the back pain a direct side effect or from the physical exertion associated with taking the Cialis? May need to conduct a drug study to know for sure. 😜

After years of extensive clinical studies using Viagra and Levitra, I came to the conclusion that it was the Cialis. 😎

I did complain to my pharmacist, and after he consulted his drug manual, he told me that this side effect had been noted in 4% of users. Given the numbers , I thought that was a significant percentage, and never used it again.

To properly answer the question of whether libido decreases with age it needs to be understood that we have voluntary libido and involuntary libido as I will explain. The involuntary libido begins at puberty when hormones change a boy into a man. Most people know of testosterone and believe it to be the primary hormone responsible for this change.

However, the body converts some of this testosterone into dihydro-testosterone which is much more potent and causes many of the changes most people associate with testosterone and is the key cause of involuntary libido or being horny for no good reason or outside stimulation. As men age their testosterone levels drop which causes a corresponding drop in dihydro-testosterone and libido. Dihydro-testosterone is also responsible for the hair loss of male pattern baldness and enlarged prostates.

To combat this hair loss and enlarged prostate medicines such as finasteride and dutasteride are used to block the conversion of testosterone into dihydro-testosterone and results in a corresponding drop in libido. Voluntary libido can be illustrated by the person watching porn to get turned on as this is an increase of libido. Or as someone mentioned, sitting in a room of scantily clad women. Clothing, jewelry, perfume and makeup can be calculated to increase libido in some as other fetishes do in others.

Walter White in the Breaking Bad series begins cooking meth for the money but soon learns the thrill of committing forbidden acts and makes love to his wife in the car in a public parking lot. These forbidden acts increase his libido. So while our built in libido does fade as we age we can compensate by learning external ways to increase our libido/ Remember, it's all in your head. Don't let these things make you feel abnormal either, for a normal person is someone you don;t know very well.

I've got to say that I wondered about my libido and erections as I got older... I am now in my lower 60s, am still married, and also am allowed extracurricular friendships and sexual activity - and I have found that my libido has increased... Reasons are varied, but I can say several years ago that I got into a crash course of better diet, better care for my body, I take no ED drugs, have a career that will keep me focused, have several great relationships - but I find that relationships that are deeper and have some substance beyond purely physical are the ones where I experience a better sexual drive and erection than when I was younger - matter of fact erections last longer than before, which adds to the pleasure of my partner(s)... So I would recommend taking good care of yourself, the right relationships, creativity and imagination in your life... and as I study this more, I will post more observations - there really is more life as we get older...

Doubtful, as despite unpleasant medication side effects and modest age (65 in Feb), I still feel like 40 with my 30's libido roaringly intact. See my posts today about my first two orgasms in over a year these last two days.

Dr. Dick

I swear that I am hornier now at age 45 than I was at 18! I think it helps that I'm in much better shape now than I was when I was a fat, lazy teenager that ate junk food and fast food all the time. It appears that a good, healthy diet and exercise like weightlifting and cardio really makes for a much better sex life. That alone is motivation enough to keep me going!

Luckily for me my wife is also very fit, and her sex drive is high like mine, so we keep each other completely satisfied.

If a guy is healthy and wants to it doesn't have to decrease. You may not be able to have an encore quite as quickly as you did at 20, but you can keep going 1-2 times per day, maybe even more, if you want to.

If you aren't in good shape things don't work as well. If you're in pain the libido tends to disappear. If you don't keep your relationship well maintained then desire will tend to go away.

I guess the moral of this is "if it is important to you put the work in and you'll keep your libido."

You may need to explore other ways of expressing it as you get old and things don't work quite like they used to, but it can still be there.

Mine certainly has not. Maybe stronger than ever with the caveat that recovery time is a bit longer. Have repeated this in other posts, but the discovery of Zity and the realization that so many other people share my kink has led to upping the intensity.

Not in my case :-) Although I sometimes have to work a bit harder at it

When I hit my 40s, all the libido I had been missing in my earlier, parenting days came back. Maybe even more than before we had kids! It’s been wonderful! I know I have a window of opportunity before menopause might take it away again so we’ve been using it to our full advantage!

No, not all all!!!!! Just increasing!!!!!

Mine certainly has not but I'm a pervert! It's different for guys. When women get older I see that many become more reserved. Probably due to decreased estrogen. Several friends of mine have noticed too. I'd also like to add that I've noticed when many women turn 40 or so they are some of the horniest creatures on earth!

At 58 I am finally free of all the encumbrances I've had all my life, and i can do whatever the hell I want.

Libido, opportunity, enjoyment....all on the increase!