Ginnie, you say nothing about your significant other, or your relationship with him. But that's the really important bit, isn't it? My wife doesn't share my enema yearning, but it isn't secret from her. She doesn't yet know about this site (I've only been here myself a few days), but I won't hide it from her, because there's too much OTHER stuff invested in our shared lives that might be at risk. How about you?
The point is this: if you and I got talking, I would have to share it with her before it got to you and me dreaming about what might be... And that would have to be with your permission, too because God is also especially fond of YOU and doesn't want you to get hurt either. But there's no telling where that might lead! It's unlikely that my wife would feel threatened; we are a very secure couple.
And I know what we'd both want for you: go and give that man of yours more love more passionately in more and more imaginative ways, and help him explore your sex life with more freedom. Find ways other than speech to show him what you like. Make fantasies come true right there at home! They won't be yours alone, then, because his will be included, too.
What you're feeling is not yet adultery, but you are right to be uneasy! John Wesley is a name you may have heard - he founded the Methodist Church. Here's some wisdom from his ma.
Susanna Wesley was one the the great mothers of history. One day one of her daughters (she had 19 children) wished to do something which was not altogether bad, but which was not right. When she was told not to do it, she was not convinced.
It was late and she and her mother were sitting beside a dead fire. Her mother said to her: "Pick up that bit of coal." "I don't want to," said the girl. "Go on," said her mother." The fire is out, it won't burn you." "I know that," said the girl. "I know it won't burn me but it will blacken my hands." "Exactly," said Susannah Wesley." That thing which you wish to do won't burn, but it will blacken. Leave it alone."
Indeed.
Johnny