"Talkin Dirty"

I want to talk about "dirty talk", using dirty words that are not medically correct, nor appropriate probably. Everything I will be talking about will be in a play situation only, not for real, in real life, and in a real doctors office for real visits.

What are your thoughts about this?

I would rather have the real thing but it might be fun to fantise about what

might happen in the surgery

DANTESIM

Dirty talk can be incandescent when it's done right. But doing it right is highly dependent on a number of time- and situationally- dependent factors. Let's see how many I can chart:

i) Familiarity. Is this my first time meeting him? If he starts in with the "asses" and "cunts" right away, dirty talk will probably be a turnoff.

ii) Respect. I need to feel good about her as a person and know that she feels the same about me.

iii) Intent. Is he doing this to turn us on, or is he just being crude for its own sake?

iv) Technique. Can she turn it on and off at will? How is she describing the actions that go with the dirty talk? Is she purring her lustful litany in my ear, or leaning back with a satisfied smirk on her face as she projects the inappropriate language directly into the room? Is she gasping hot entreaties while writhing helplessly on her back? I want to know these things.

Those are all that come to mind right now. But you've definitely given me food for thought, Mashie, thanks.

Because I keep my examinations seperate ( and vastly different) from the 'treatment' phase, carried out by my alter ego Karl the Sex Therapist there is no place for dirty talk with Doctor, in the examination.

Karl the Sex Therapist though - well he's not particularly a prude, so talk can get a little 'fruity' though I'd hardly call it dirty talk.

If you read through my two fact based stories about 'Tina' you will see that, toward the end of the second one it is her language that changes as she relives her experience with Karl. You can find them at http://www.zity.biz/index.php?action=forum;topic=25626.0 and at http://www.zity.biz/index.php?action=forum;topic=25649.0 (Note: Depending on how your display preferences are set you may have to scroll to the first part of each story) I think you'll find the change subtle and gradual and, as lia chan says, I think thats nicer, and more erotic than the asses and cunts thing.

During a play exam, I want all the clinical language he can possibly come up with. And he loves the fact that medical terminology is my second language. He's also thrilled that I know the correct anatomical and physiological terms for most everything. Hey, I'm glad I decided not to use those textbooks for doorstops after all!

Away from the exam table and the stirrups, I sometimes wish his language were just a bit saltier. He's perfectly sweet, loving and affectionate, but I know whereof Mashie speaks when she talks about that electric jolt that goes through her when her guy says something on the spicy side. I gave up the use of sailor-like vocabulary when I first started chatting with him a year ago. That was a real battle for me but I succeeded. I did slip up the other night and I thought he was going into shock. So I guess we could both let down our guard a bit. I have wanted to say something to him in the throes of passion but haven't thinking that it would put him off. I see a serious conversation in the offing.

There is one word which I have never used in my entire life, and never will. I find it highly offensive and frankly I think it's the worst word in the English language. It's a huge turn off for me, and the use of that word was literally the end of a long-term relationship that I was in several years ago. The infamous "C" word is one that you will never hear cross my lips.

That's just me and others are entitled to their opinion and to use whatever words they (or their partner) find acceptable and befits the occasion.

Play On!

LadyDoc

I have to agree, when in the exam realm, proper terminology should be used. I've had one woman get upset because I was "too clinical" with my language.

LadyDoc, could you clarify for us which"c" word you are talking about, as it could refer to a male or female body part. I'd hate to assume something and be wrong.

Jeff

Hey Mister-jeff

How is lady doc going to answer your question if the word in question will never cross her lips?

I guess 'crossing one's lips' includes words typed here.

And yes, the word I hazard that she means, is is an appalling word though I admit I used it in my earlier post. OK, its claimed that used in a loving exchange that its fine. However, like many words in the same catagory it is so often used derogatively that it has become objectionable to most.

Mashie-

You are on the ball tonight. You hit two nails right on the head. You are absolutely right about the "C" word, that's the one I don't use and find so offensive.

As for the "F" word, God, I love that word. As an Aussie friend of mine says, the word should be enshrined. It is a true multipurpose tool. If I recall correctly, it's one of the few words in the language, perhaps the only one, that is a noun, a verb, a pronoun, and an adverb, adjective too, I think. A grammaticist can correct me.

Play On!

LadyDoc

That serious talk that I mentioned in an earlier post? Well, it was had this morning and I'd like to share the highlights with one and all.

I brought up the subject of this particular thread and gave him the background, then I said "How do you feel about that?"

The answer was delivered in a very calm and deliberate fashion, I know he meant every word he said. It went something like this, "Honey I just don't feel comfortable using that kind of language, it does nothing for me to say it or hear it. I'd rather spend hours coming up with a new way to tell you how beautiful your breasts are than to say 'Hey babe, your tits are hot!' If that kind of talk really turns you on, I'll try it, but it's really not the way I want to talk to you."

Now that I've had a little time to ponder this situation, I've come to this conclusion. I respect his discomfort toward salty language and I can easily see where using that kind of language would turn him off almost immediately. I wouldn't demean him or our relationship by breaking that barrier. The fact that he respects me equally is a turn on all by itself.

At the end of the day, I really can't imagine him using that kind of language at all. I think I'd develop a case of the vapours if he did.

So, the subject has seen the light of day, and been put back in the "don't try this" file, where it will stay!

Play On!

LadyDoc

LadyDocIsIn, thanks for sharing this insight with us. I am in the same field. I neither use salty language nor do I expect my partner to do so. I think that my normal play Doc would have the exact same reaction that yours did. However, I am open minded and if such things turned my partner on, I would be open to using such language.

However, in my normal everyday life, I never swear or curse, always keep my knees together and am always a Lady 🌹.

Lady Teddy

I wonder why we use the word "copulate" so seldom. Is it just because "fuck" is easier to say, or because there is something satisfying about saying it?

When you are in the midst of orgasm it is difficult to say copulate.

When I do a medical "play" with sub, I do my best to sound professional, with the limited medical knowledge I know. But even during that at times a little more "crude" words get thrown in to add to the sexual nature of our "play". The words help me to put sub and myself in our places in the relationship we have. I enjoy the dirty talk and believe sub does too, to some extent.

Concerning the word "fuck". I just feel it means a more involved sex than just love. It's really hard to explain, but it's better than "being made love to".

And, I have no hope for the sailor talk that I can put out. I would like to do better and eliminate the use of the words, but must not be too motivated to do so.

When you're in the midst of an orgasm it's hard to say anything coherent at all!

LadyDoc

I refer back to Mash's original post and lia's comments. Isn't the acceptability of certain words completely dependent on the context in which they are used, and expectations of the listener? After all, aren't we all trying to heighten the pleasurable effect that we and our partners get from our play / sex. If words have a positive effect we use them; if they are a turn-off, we don't.

Things my husband has said to me while I got an enema:

"The thermometer says you need an enema. I bet you didn't know thermometers could say that!"

"Now, I don't know what's up your ass, but I'm going to find out!"

"This will clean you out -- psychologically and otherwise!"

"We can't stop until the bag is empty and the girl is full!"

"I know your ass is sore, but you need to submit it for a nice, hard, humiliating butt fuck!"

"I know it's humiliating, but you will just have to get used to it!"

Sometimes, it gets so intense, I cry. He loves that. He is so warm as he kisses away my tears.

@course - I've never uttered copulate when banging one out. .Still that is another area of wordplay as you'd find many Aussie's I know use the term Cop-u-later. .meaning see you again. . but because of the double meaning it has it's uses

Our vocabulary is hardly what you'd call limited & generally tailored to the situation.

Talking dirty is very situation specific because it depends on who is saying the word, how they're saying it, and what are the circumstances. When it comes to the sex act, I am not especially fond of the word "copulate" or if you watch the Big Bang Theory on occasion they will use the term "have coitus". As for making love, I suppose it is OK, but love should be more than sex. Depending on when and where I don't get offended with the word "fuck" and there have been times when my husband has whispered it to me. Then there are the dirty words pertaining to parts of the body, but I will hold my comments of that for the moment.