When taking an enema hurts

Right first enema went horribly......it was the first time i had done anything like that ( my boyf gave it to me) and well it was crap.... hurt like a bitch and was generally unpleasent for me........... so decided not to atempt that for a few days....... today i just did one for my self, same thing happened, hurts, and i felt sick after... wat am i doing wrong ? :'(

Lovey

I suspect you are taking too much, too fast, too hot, too cold, or have some blockage. Try just a very little bit. Stop the drain before you even fell a little full. Hold it for a while. Evacuate it if you MUST, then take a lil more. When you have finally cleared the intestines, the fullness and the drain will be pleasurable.

Many times, at first, the amount expelled is LESS than the amount taken in. The effects of a few minutes, gravity, and intestinal action, will purge the balance. This is why I mentioned, that you may want to VERY slowly over a period of hours, take a full enema. You'll be stimulated by this, if W/we ever get you started properly.

Regards. . .. Blister and HIS shy

Second reply to lovey,

The contents of your colon should be from mostly vegetables and non-peristalysic fruit (no blueberries or green leafy vegetables such as spinach) and not tons of animal protein). Also, no deep fried food of any kind.

I have found the key for me is my frame of mind. Are you trying to "learn" to like enemas for your bfriend's sake? If so, it's going to be diffcult to "fall in love with" the feeling.

Yes, you need to start with small volumes, of slow administration, but if you do not find soothing comfort in being "filled to the brim," you will may never fall in love with enemas. Forget about pleasing someone else! You need to focus on pleasing yourself!

Lovey,

I'll reply again; something happened so it didn't go thru.

I just took a peppermint castille enema. Two tablespoons + in the two quart bag (blended). More water on the side. I took 10-15 minutes for the two quarts. It was sooooooo enjoyable. Then a little more water and I sensed I was done. The water was warm, not "very warm". I did not get an erection at all; it was all about the water flowing in. (I usually don't like soap at all; I had forgotten just how good this is--over a year since the last time for this mixture.) Plain water is my usual experience. Be patient with yourself. Giving and receiving an enema are both "art forms". Enjoy the artistic experience. I suggest that there be no sexual overtones in your experience, now; just enjoy the flow of the water and the filling of your colon.

And then enjoy the evacuation, as you focus on and enjoy your colon going to work.

When is it you feel the pain?

When you insert the nozzle?

As you are fulling up?

When you are trying to expell?

Each could be a different problem.

Keep in mind not everyone enjoys enemas. More people enjoy them that will admit to it, and few will discuss it as it's not a natural dinner table topic.

Take it slow. If your anal erotic at all, you should feel some enjoyment of the initial lubrication and nozzle insertion. If that feels good. expand on that.

If you feel pain during the insertion, stop doing whatever it is your doing, because something is wrong. Use a soft nozzle, or just a tube. Insert it a few inches and then start the flow.

If you feel pain during the flow, stop the flow. Do not place the bag more than a few feet above your butt. The pressure may be what is causing you trouble. Once you become accustom to enemas and you do enjoy them, you can increase the flow rate by raising the bag higher.

If you feel discomfort during the expelling, it could be because you are too full of either poop or the enema itself.

Try having a full bowel movement before you take the enema. Then only take about a pint of water. If things feel fine, take a second pint.

You will feel some cramps usually at about the first cup full of water. If you stop the flow it should pass very quickly as that is not very much water at all. As you feel a cramp, take a deep breath. Don't pant, and don't tighten your belly. Try to relax, take a deep breath and hold it. Bare down just every so slightly. If the cramp does not fade away, then expell the enema and try again in about 30 minutes.

The feeling you will eventually achieve will be a crampless filling with sensations of warm or cold surging into your belly depending on the temp of the water. You should be starting with water that is warm to the touch, not hot. Once you are able to easily take the enema, and understand how your body reacts, then you can vary the temp and pressure. When you are first learning to train your body to receive an enema, don't try doing stuff that people who have been taking them all their lives do. Everyone is different. Repear the things you find enjoyable, the goal is to pleasure yourself with the enema, not torture yourself.

I hope you are successful. Trying it yourself in a quiet setting where you are comfortable and relaxed should go a long way in making it enjoyable for you.

Slow

Start out slow and with plain water. Take small amounts and work your way up.

Lovey

Sounds to me like you are trying to take too much solution too fast. Take a smaller amount of solution (around 103 degrees) and go slower.

From what I read here is every reply is trying to help you without knowing the procedures you have taken during your enema.A few more details would go a long way.Try to explain for instance,the temperture of the water,how high was the bag hanging,did you use soap and how much solution were you trying to take.Give us this info and we'll do our best to help.Let the good times flow.

Details details details!

C'mon people, you wanna write an entire book and send it to her?

Now you just got her confused. Lovey, enemas are a special type of erotic, you have to be in the right mood to enjoy them, and have a partner who keeps it simple and pleasurable - it's as basic as that. Don't let people tell you how to "measure" your enjoyment!

In your case I'd try something as simple as this: just find the right time, a cozy period on the weekend, and let your partner give you a nice filling - but not with an enema bag, try a bulb syringe!

He should use plain warm water, maybe a little soapy if you feel like it. The advantage of bulb syringes is that the penetration of the nozzle tip can be repeated again and again, every time the giver refills the bulb - so you get a nice in-and-out feeling, and the gentle surges from the bulb squeezes can feel super nice! AND you don't have to swallow a whole two quarts all in one go - maybe just 3-4 squeezings at the most, your partner can do it nice and slow for you.

And bulb syringes provide a bit more closer contact and intimacy, more than using an enema bag.

If you don't have a bulb syringe yet, try looking around the net, or just go to ebay - there are always bulb syringes there, just type "enema" in the search box - you'll come right to it.

Hope this helps!

I agree with lawndart...

Bulb syringe was far better for me when I learned this type of pleasure. It took some time for me to take any volume so the bulb syringe helped me to enjoy the pleasure of anal play with this experience. I also agree that squeezing the sloution is far better for beginners as it really does help with any cramping. It was easier for me to self administer as well. I actually prefered warm soapy water over anything cool or cold.

Deffinately work up to volume...for me..it isn't the amount I take as much as the enjoyment I get. I worked up to larger volumes by holding the small volumes for periods of time. I worked my way up on the time I held the water and this seemed to also help me accept more. I have no proof that this helped me increase my intake... perhaps I just got more comfortable with the sensation.

If this is something you think you would really like to enjoy for yourself, don't give up. Try the bulb on your own so that you know what you like and how much you like. Then you can communicate that to the BF. If you can do that I bet you will be surprised how quickly you discover the "other side".

Start slowly with half bag and sork up slowly to more water

There is a learning curve...

I've learned what works best for certain situations and which things lead to much less clean-up, etc.

I am really glad that I decided to invest in a set of Klystra nozzles and a 500cc double balloon rectal catheter - gives us more options.

That was just time for me is not painful.

In the second, but I've misjudged me with the water temperature was too warm

I find that almost every time I have pain or difficulty getting the enema into me, the culprit is a gas-bubble up there. The water compresses the gas, which in turn pushes on the colon walls painfully. If I take a couple of Gas-X (simethicone) pills half an hour before the enema it really helps. I take small amounts of water and void it out, and get the colon empty from bottom to top before trying to take a large volume, even a full 2L bag.

Hugs,

Diane

It's an ENEMA!!! If it hurts, you KNEW you were taking an enema! If you can't handle it, try a laxative!!!

An enema must not hurting , it can , if you do what is needed for anhurting enema , your choice .

My preference is a soft slow sensual warm enema , baking soda in the water , and a masterbation who lead me to the "O" at the end of the enema , sometimes I had water in the bag sometimes I stopped before the bag is empty , stopping when disconfort decrease the arrousal .

I would give you one enema under this conditions , only to let you feel all the pleasure without pain you can have .

A enema shouldn't hurt, aside from a little cramping, it should be enjoyable.

Hello LisaK, Sort of a harsh attitude don't you think. A punishment enema can be as uncomfortable as you want to make it but most of us don't care for it most of the time. I cannot understand why you should find all enemas painful, you know enough to make a comfortable mix. If you or your mate give you too large a volume then think about what you are doing and discuss it with your mate.

LisaK is correct in that an enema often hurts. When taking an enema solo we often shut the clamp at the first sign of a cramp but when it is being administered by someone else we don't have that control and cramps often hurt. When severely constipated an enema often causes cramps that are uncomfortable or hurt.

A warm slow sensual enema with a good masterbation will not hurt .

If it hurts search what you are doing wrong .

OK large volumes hurts , huge volumes hurts more , like pure glycerin , or cold water , or to much soap .

Stop the flow when you reached your limit , expel , take a second one if you like and again stop at your limit .

PAIN IS A SIGNAL FROM YOUR BODY , don't forget it , your body tells you STOP .

I respectfully but totally don't agree with Lisa and Janet on this one. In my personal experience I routinely go months at a time taking multiple daily enemas without encountering unwanted pain. The sensations of an enema can be interpreted by the brain as distressing if you aren't used to them, but if the sensation crosses the threshold into actual pain something is wrong. Many of us who are klismos have at least some affection for the "hurts so good" phenomenon, but if discomfort is not being deliberately sought, there is no need for an enema to produce any pain.

At the risk of repeating myself, my experience is that if I have trouble getting the enema in, and particularly if it hurts, the culprit is almost always a pocket of intestinal gas up there. A water enema will effectively deal with stool, but it doesn't do well with gas. When the water compresses the gas, the gas pushes painfully on the colon walls. Usually it's that effect that causes the enema to hurt. OTC anti-gas pills, like Gas-X, taken a while before the enema, can help immensely.

Particularly if I am constipated I don't try to take a whole bag, but clean out from bottom to top, from rectum to caecum, with sequential small squirts.

Pain is the body's warning signal; if it hurts, stop.

Hugs,

Diane

I'm surprised no one has mentioned a bulb rinse prior to an enema.

I do this every single time and hold the small plain water solution while I prepare for my session. It makes your first fill easier to hold and soothing. Lovey, if you're still reading this thread, try using filtered water and add a tsp I'd baking soda along with a tsp of salt to your solution. This may help you

I agree with arthur and azdiane. Gas bubbles do cause discomfort, changing position with the flow turned off gives them a chance to move and let the water get around them.

If you have gas that won't seem to pass, have someone give you a mineral oil enema daily for about 4 to 7 days. Eight ounces given warm in the knee chest position and retained for 15 minutes should get the gas moving. You will have to take a mild sse to wash out the remaining oil after expelling, otherwise you will leak oil for the next day. If you are into it you may wear disposable pull ups or adult diapers to catch the leaking oil. You will probably not have more than a ounce, but an ounce of oil goes a long way.

Yikes! Someone to give you enemas daily for 4 to 7 days, who wouldn't want that but seriously, maybe a change in diet is in order!

When you are severely constipated an enema often causes cramps that are uncomfortable or hurt. Enemas must be done to correct the problem. So the old saying no pain no gain is true. Better a little time in pain than a long time in pain. When crying the giver feels sorry but know an enema must be done and held to help you.

Enemas should not "hurt". You may feel some mild discomfort as the result of presure or gas build-up in the intestines, but certainly not what I would call pain, like what occurs with a bodily injury. If that's happening, I agree with other comments above, that either you're doing something terribly wrong, or you may have other physiological issues going on with your body that is causing you pain when administering an enema. I enjoy enemas, and let my body "tell" me when something's not right, or I've had enough. I'm not into pain......only pleasure.

@ enoz4u

You write: "Better a little time in pain than a long time in pain." - I am in contradiction to this statement. Even in the case of a severe constipation you are not obliged to suffer in relieving this. Naturally this will not be possible in taking enemas but in swallowing a good dose of Castor Oil, this early in the morning, not having breakfasted. You will be astonished upon the agreeable laxative effects.

I think this depends on the enema if it hurts or not. A punishment enema was designed to be uncomfortable or humiliating. An enema to relieve constipation may be in comfortable or crampy. It will also get things moving again. I find most enemas sensual and erotic. Nothing like an enema given in a loving manner to make you feel better.