Can male doctors really eliminate sexual arousal during gyno exams?

IMHO For people without medfet, they find little sexual pleasure when examining private body parts, that kind of self control may not be difficult to achieve. For people with medfet, it may be hard to do.

Can male doctors really eliminate sexual arousal during gyno exams? ? ? ? ? ? ?

Coolrider, you have asked the same basic question in several of your last posts, this is the definitive answer (according to me):

ABSOLUTELY, there is no question about it. Work and play are completely separate. That isn't to say we don't recognize a beautiful body when we see one, but we don't get aroused in a professional setting when a person's well being is at stake.

As I have posted before (I don't have the link to my post) it is just another job. Sticking their fingers up your butt or vagina ranks about as arousing as your feeling a cantaloupe in the vegetable market. REALLY, it may be hard for you to believe, but it's true.

I'm sure others in the profession here will agree. There are a few people I'm waiting to respond to this question (they know who they are) and I'll bet they will say the same thing.

And for the vamps who might try to seduce or arouse us in an intimate exam setting, please don't do that. There are medical-legal-ethical-licensure issues that come into play and we won't get involved. Seduce your mates, not us.

I completely agree with Switchablesusie. Real exams are all about structure/function not about beauty or arousal. I like her analogy about the melon because it is that matter of fact. genitals are no different than a shoulder, foot or elbow.

There isn't the time to admire due to the clock running and the liability of missing something is huge.

Again, work is work and play is play. I don't even remember what they look like once I am out the door, that's one reason we write everything down!

In extreme cases, there are doctors who commit sexual harassment, they are very few though. Next to the extreme, there should be some who have sexual arousal but don't behave out of profession. I believe most doctors don't have sexual arousal.

I read an article by a doctor who said that a woman with a broken arm was in the hospital, wearing nothing under her gown but the cast. He said that the doctors fell all over each other on checking out her cast because of the 'free show' involved. He also said that if they had to give her a breast exam, they would not have thought a thing about it. He said doctors separate their work from everyday life, so that during an exam, genitals are just body parts, but outside of a medical setting, they react just like anyone else, for which he was grateful.

I have to agree with my colleagues, work & play are completely separate: it cannot be any other way if we wish to keep our careers or do the best for our patients.

And don't forget that a lot of the time our patients actually don't need to undress, we don't need to perform intimate examinations, or even pick up our stethoscopes. And of course the patients aren't all nubile young women.

Doctor Brian

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I have to agree with my colleagues, . . . . And of course the patients aren't all nubile young women.

Doctor Brian

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You can say that again! . . . or hunky young studs.

Since I'm not a doctor, I find it really hard to understand how they can simply separate play from work.

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Since I'm not a doctor, I find it really hard to understand how they can simply separate play from work.

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First of all, as posted earlier, very few patients are hunky muscular studs or nubile high breasted Playboy models. Second, even if they are, and remember 98% aren't, if they have pathology, that knocks their sexual desirability to negative numbers, Third, we will likely never be able to have any kind of relationship with them outside of the office. Fourth, it is legally and ethically wrong to get involved.

Finally, when we come home from the office, we still fuck our spouses good and hard (I had to be graphic here, sue me! 😁 😁 ) because they are the ones we love. The genitalia we see and handle at work don't turn us on like those attached our loved ones.

You'll understand when you are older. Don't take offense to that. Life is a learning experience. If I knew the same things at 40 that I knew at 20, I'd be very disappointed in myself.

I'm not a doctor either, but I do hope my doctor, a male ob/gyn and his two male associates enjoyed giving me my exams. Why not. That doesn't mean they don't do it right, they just enjoy it. I enjoy my exams. I hope they do too.

I can imagine that a male ob/gyn would not react to most women, but what if e.g. the patient is his type? Even if during the actual part of the exam he is focussed on doing his job, what about before and after, when he sees her naked in stirrups, etc.? I can't imagine that there would never be any reaction towards any women, after all even a male doc is still a man, and in the case of ob/gyn there are a lot of healthy young women getting regular check-ups, not just sick or unattractive ones.

"Can a male doctor really eliminate sexual arousal during gyno exams?" For the doctor or the patient? In a professonal setting, probably, because he is used to treating genital problems. In a play setting, I personally doubt it, unless he's 100% gay and she hates gyno exams but is there strictly for the medical aspect, so why bother? For me, it's the inherent arousal that comes with having my ano-genital area exposed and examined, whether it's by a male or female.

I am not a medical professional but I do have a relevant anecdote from high school. Since I was a child, I had a fascination with the medical world and in my teenage years this fascination led to my medfet which refrained me from letting my mind wander in physiology class under pain of tantalizing thoughts. I remember we had to practice taking blood pressure on each other and I was partnered with the cutest girl in school whom I also had a crush on. I rolled up my sleeve for her and she slid the cuff over my arm and began to pump. The cuff squeezed around my arm like a snake and it came to a surprise to me that I found this a little exciting, but nothing I couldn't suppress. My level of arousal became significant when she put the stethoscope in her ears, gently held my wrist with her delicate hands, and pressed the cold disk on the center of my forearm. During the next five minutes or so, she listened to my pulse as I desperately tried to keep my mind clean; I fought my creeping thoughts by being conscious of where I was and what I was supposed to be doing. In the end she never figured anything out and she attributed my blushing and high heart rate to the innocent fact that I had a crush on her. Moral of the story: Keep your head where it's supposed to be and you should be fine.

I'm sure that doctors are conditioned to seeing just about anything while still students. In play, I've given enemas to or diapered and changed women without becoming sexually aroused, unless I wanted to and sexual play was mutual. I can be happy just by tenderly caring for my partner and causing her happiness.

Although docs and medical staff are accustomed to nudity, partial attirement, including gowns are deemed essential to reinforce partial nudity/conditioned non-arousal versus full nudity/sexual arousal normal (in private).

Coolrider All I can say to that is I hope so. I'm due for my next examination in October.

I ask one question: Do you think that if a male gyno sees an old ugly woman enter for an examination, he thinks "let's get this over with quickly', but if an attractive 21 year old college student walks in he thinks "nice. this is going to be good". Do you believe that hot women with beautiful breasts get longer and more thorough breast exams than an ugly woman? Do you think that more hot women get breast exams than ugly women? If you honestly believe that this NEVER happens, then you can truely state that male doctors can truely separate themselves from any sexual thoughts.

They are MEN, not robots. They cannot help but get excited about seeing and probing a beautiful woman. Women just try not to think about docs getting excited by fingering them by saying that Docs don't get excited. It's a total excuse and denial of the truth.

Some people are better at "compartmentalizing" than others. I have spoken to many doctors on and off the record, both male and female, and the answer is pretty much the same: "I may notice someone is attractive but that immediately goes out of my head because I have so much to do and I'm looking for cancer." Another common response I've heard is that, "it's so clinical it's not like that at all." I will say that a professional medical office is not a strip club. That said, I do know of a female nurse or two who would go into a hospital room because one of the other nurses said the patient was attractive. I also know of a female doctor who dated a patient. I once put a post on here about nurses finding my friend attractive and saying something when they thought nobody was around. Despite these few examples, the vast majority are professionals but there are a few here and there who aren't so great at keeping boundaries.

However, that's the case in just about any profession. Every so often there are news stories of teachers having sexual relationships with their students. Does that mean every teacher is a sexual predator??? There are 2 reasons these stories make the news. The first is that it is a gross violation of their profession. The second is that it is a rare occurance.

I asked my doctor (George) with whom I have sex on a regular basis and he says that he has not trouble thinking completely professionally except when a girl he finds attractive with a knockout body comes in then he has a real problem not thinking about what fun it will be to touch her private parts.

P.S. I noticed you specifically asked about a healthcare professional being a med-fetter. I have also spoken to a number of med-fetters that are also real healthcare professionals. Ironically, I think they have even better boundaries because they are so aware of themselves and/or because they understand how serious it is. I've have heard real medical professionals, without the fetish, tell inappropriate stories about people's genitals and what not yet I haven't heard anything like that at all from a med-fetter who is also a professional. I will admit this a personal theory and nothing proven with valid research.

Brad, I think you make a very good point.

Mashie

I find littlejoe's comments to be very much the truth !