Need advice: how to deal with my gf dirty diapers

I'm not sure if this is the right forum for my problem, but it seemed most related

I'm at a bit of a loss at the moment, my gf is into this diaper-thing I'm not,

when she told me about it we had known each other for about a year and I had asked her if she wouldnt like to move in with me, naturally she wanted to know if her baby-play would be a problem for me,

she only pretends to be a baby for a couple of hours on some weekends, and didn't expect me to participate in any way, so I didnt see any reason for us not to live together,

once a month she meets with two other girls who share her passion, they dress up as babys and they play together,

I had met them beforehand and was surprised that they would be into something like that, they seemed like intelligent, independent young women to me and so I did agree with them coming to our house,

the first time they met at our place for their playtime I tried to be a good host and brought them each a glass of juice and a platter of cookies for them to share but made the mistake of leaving them unsupervised with the food, it was quite a mess I can tell you,

but thats not my problem, although it could have shown me how serious they are about it,

the last time they met, my gf and one of the other girls had a shit in their diapers, the stink was so bad that I noticed it passing by the room with the door closed, I told them that I thought that was taking it to far and we had an awful fight over it,

my problem isnt primarily the stench, but they only change each other at the end of their playtime so they stay in the diapers for a couple of hours and I think thats most probably a health risk,

do any of you have any experience with this, and is there maybe a diet or something to reduce the smell,

I came to like having them around, and don't want them to stay away for their meetings and especially I dont want to have a fallout with my gf over it,

so maybe you can help

So, in your world.... those who are incontinent change IMMEDIATELY afterwards? i mean sure if you soil yourself your not going ot lounge around in it but come on really? id saw grin and bear it really since you dont want to lose your gf. or another possibility is that you participate to an extent and have her come to you when she needs a change if your that concerned. just so that she isnt lounging around during her playtime in that condition so to speak.

My thought on this is, depending on how long she has been doing this she probably knows how to treat and take care of her skin, which will limit the risks. Another option that could help is maybe when she plans to have a play date with her "little" friends, perhaps you can hang out with your friends, you know watch the game, or whatever.

There is also a product out there called Nullo that helps reduce the scent, if the scent is too hard for you to deal with, perhaps you could discuss her taking it.

Hope this helps

It's pretty surprising that they would destroy your house for the sake of a fantasy; that's taking it way too far. I think it's perfectly reasonable to not want to participate in AB activities with her, and it doesn't sound like this defines your relationship. I don't think you should end things, but if you're really really not comfortable with her fetish, especially if she's taking it that far, don't succumb and participate, unless of course it's part of a compromise...

Thank you for the thoughtful and well-meaning responses,

obviously the first thing I did was talking to my gf, not on the day it happened, the tempers were to high for that, but on the next day I sat her down for a bit of a clearing up conversation,

from the intellectual point of view she is well aware and understanding of my objections to the filthier part of their playtime, but from the emotional aspect she isnt able to make concessions, entering the baby-mindset, is something she needs to relax, to cope with the stressful parts of everyday life,

I asked her if they could at least refrain from crapping themself when they are at our place, and she told me they dont do that very often anyway, and that they had kind-of dared each other to do it, but still she couldnt promise they wont do it again, cause thats what babys do,

as far as I understood this, her time with the other girls is a bit different from her short babyplay at the weekends, there her wetting the diaper is the finale to it, after which she is content with being a grown up again,

but the afternoon with her playmates once a month, is something she is really looking foreward to, and it has to be a whole and uninterrupted experience, being with them reinforces the stress relieving effect for her, she cant just snap out of it every hour to change her diaper or to stop herself shitting it, it would break the mood,

I have to admit that I like having them around at their playtimes, they look kind of cute in the frilly dresses and pyjamalike overalls, fooling around, laughing and playing with their toys,

and I think they like having me around as well, someone to run to and ask for juice or sweets, it supports their play,

on the other hand I am there to prevent them from colouring our walls with their crayons or stuffing things up each others noses, I even made one of our guestrooms safe for their play with lots of cushions, special insets in the power sockets and locks on the cupboards, nothing a grown up couldnt overcome, but then for their playtime they arent,

they dont try to destroy our house, but making messes seems to be an important part of their game and although I dont leave them alone with their drinks anymore, very often they still manage to leave wet stains everywhere they have been and on their cloth,

and yes that shit-smell the other day was something that really bothered me, I dont want one of our rooms smell like an ill maintained public toilette, it still has me wondering how the girls themself could stand that stench, being usually not very tolerant when it comes to bad smells,

but still I wont suggest to my gf to ingest any chemical substances, she wouldnt do it anyway, there surly has to be a better way, then toxicating their bodys,

what I am looking for is a way to get along with it, but within their fantasy,

my gf told me that it really was best when one of them took the babysitter part, but obviously not for the sitter, so they discontinued that, I am reasonable sure she would like to see me in that role, but I am not convinced the other two girls would be thrilled, although during their playtime they interact with me like a small child would with the parent of a friend or an uncle maybe,

I am insecure how I could go about that, I dont think I can just treat them like little children, on the other hand I dont know the first thing about babysitting anyway, I never changed a diaper in my live, and I would rather not start with it now, it would only be a solution with my gf anyway, presuming she would tell me everytime she had used her diaper,

thats why I am on this board, so maybe someone can give me a couple of tips,

sure I could just ask my gf what exactly she would like me to do, but I think that would spoil the experience for her,

I am sorry if I might have caused the impression that she dosnt care for my worries or is inconsiderate, I can ensure you she is as willing to make this work as I am

I am surprised it would smell that much. If they are diapered have them wear real good plastic/rubber pants. It shouldn't smell much until they take them off. Nullo would be a good choice or have them fill their diapers with bananas or something. Lastly, just crack a window in the room they are in.

Ok, i have 2 little responces and these are not meant to be mean in anyway, or insulting, just my current views based on recent posts. Diaperedbaby, something tells me that when they want to mess, they would prefer to actually do so, that said, the idea of bananas or something IS a good idea.

Next, Nullo isnt chemical, it is virtually all natural. the MAIN ingredient is a Chlorophyllin Copper Complex so there is very little to worry about. I am not usually one to endorse ANY form of pharmacutical concoction that i have not looked into.

With all that said, it looks like things are already going better between the 2 of you just having waited a little bit and then talked about it, but i really wouldnt be afraid to ask her what she myay like you to do as part of their play, i mean you never know, you could start "participating" in a way, and find you really enjoy the monthly play time, plus you yourself admitted you find them cute the way they dress. Plus maybe if you participate a bit, and she realizes you think she is cute, it could lead to "Private playtimes" that dont have to involve or simple just dont invlove diapers. Imagine your wife walking in to the room in an AB outfit you thikn looks the absolute cutest on her, only to find as she removes articles of the AB clothes she begins to reveal really nice lingerie. Ok i can feel your mind working while i type this and you havent even read this yet. so i will leave the rest of the imagination to you

Thank you again for giving my problem thought,

but there is a misunderstanding, this isnt in any way a sexual thing for me, my gf or the other two girls,

maybe I caused that by calling them cute, but I meant it in the way you talk about babys and kids , not babes, seeing diapers i dont think "hot", its more like, "most probably filled with bodily waste",

my gf sure looks kind of nice in a frilly dress and a diaper, but if she takes a dump in it, it still stinks and thats not a turn on for me,

I am well aware of the option of roleplay in a adult relationship, but if she changes in her baby-outfit, she also changes in a baby-mindset and there isnt anything kinky about that,

I looked into that Nullo stuff, for one it isnt easy to get where we live, for the other it is a chemical compound, for it changes your bodychemistry,

we, and my gf in the extreme, are very conscious of what we eat, and to be effective she would have to take it for a prolonged time, it isnt something I would ask of her,

but maybe you have experience with more common dietary options that will reduce the smell,

she is a nearly complete vegetarian, so meat isnt one of the problems,

cracking a window in their room isnt an option, its freezing outside and I dont want the girls to get ill, I dont think they will agree to wearing any plastic or rubber outfits, thats a different kind off fetish, and believe me the smell really was that bad, two grown up girls with shit filled diapers in one room, I dont think I have to say any more,

one thing my gf said, that was intended to calm me down, was that there was only an hour of their playtime left, so they wouldnt have been in their diapers much longer, but really, to imagine them staying in their own filth for an hour, there has to be a way to prevent that,

the thing with the bananas I dont get, thats a kind of insider joke?

Maybe u could ask them to tell u if they have to go,

if they can ask u for sweets they could just as well ask u for the potty 😄

they most probably will not tell u every time they have to do a wee, there r often more important things to do, like finishing that drawing or building that really high tower with their blocks, but at least some of the times or if they have to do a poopsie 😁

This is a repost from another board, I think it might have been a bit off topic there,

I'm at a bit of a loss at the moment, my gf is into this diaper-thing I'm not,

when she told me about it we had known each other for about a year and I had asked her if she wouldnt like to move in with me, naturally she wanted to know if her baby-play would be a problem for me,

she only pretends to be a baby for a couple of hours on some weekends, and didn't expect me to participate in any way, so I didnt see any reason for us not living together,

once a month she meets with two other girls who share her passion, they dress up as babys and they play together,

I had met them beforehand and was surprised that they would be into something like that, they seemed like intelligent, independent young women to me and so I did agree with them coming to our house,

the first time they met at our place for their playtime I tried to be a good host and brought them each a glass of juice and a platter of cookies for them to share but made the mistake of leaving them unsupervised with the food, it was quite a mess I can tell you,

but thats not my problem, although it could have shown me how serious they are about it,

the last time they met, my gf and one of the other girls had a shit in their diapers, the stink was so bad that I noticed it passing by the room with the door closed, I told them that I thought that was taking it to far and we had an awful fight over it,

my problem isnt primarily the stench, but they only change each other at the end of their playtime so they stay in the diapers for a couple of hours and I think thats most probably a health risk,

one thing my gf said, that was intended to calm me down, was that there was only an hour of their playtime left, so they wouldnt have been in their diapers much longer, but really, to imagine them staying in their own filth for an hour, there has to be a way to prevent that,

I came to like having them around, and don't want them to stay away for their meetings and especially I dont want to have a fallout with my gf over it,

obviously the first thing I did was talking to my gf, not on the day it happened, the tempers were to high for that, but on the next day I sat her down for a bit of a clearing up conversation,

from the intellectual point of view she is well aware and understanding of my objections to the filthier part of their playtime, but from the emotional aspect she isnt able to make concessions, entering the baby-mindset, is something she needs to relax, to cope with the stressful parts of everyday life,

I asked her if they could at least refrain from crapping themself when they are at our place, and she told me they dont do that very often anyway, and that they had kind-of dared each other to do it, but still she couldnt promise they wont do it again, cause thats what babys do,

as far as I understood this, her time with the other girls is a bit different from her short babyplay at the weekends, there her wetting the diaper is the finale to it, after which she is content with being a grown up again,

that "pretending to be a baby"-thing was there before she knew me, and as we discussed living together she was open about it, told me that I would have to take her with it or not at all,

sure I didnt fully comprehend what it ment,

she sure looks kind a cute in a frilly dress and a diaper but if she takes a dump in it, still it stinks and thats not pretty,

if it were only to reduce the workload for me, they could meet at one of the other girls places for their playtime, if my girl goes in babymode by herself at weekends, there isnt much fuss, its mostly an hour or two in which we cudle and look at cartoons, or I read to her, or she plays with her dolls, if she pees herself during this time, she changes nearly right away,

but the afternoon with her playmates once a month, is something she is really looking foreward to, and it has to be a whole and uninterrupted experience, being with them reinforces the stressrelieving-effect for her, she cant just snap out of it every hour to change her diaper or to stop herself shitting it, it would break the mood,

I have to admit that I like having them around at their playtimes, they look kind of cute in the frilly dresses and pyjamalike overalls, fooling around, laughing and playing with their toys,

and I think they like having me around as well, someone to run to and ask for juice or sweets, it supports their play,

on the other hand I am there to prevent them from colouring our walls with their crayons or stuffing things up each others noses, I even made one of our guestrooms safe for their play with lots of cushions, special insets in the power sockets and locks on the cupboards, nothing a grown up couldnt overcome, but then for their playtime they arent,

making messes seems to be an important part of their game and although I dont leave them alone with their drinks anymore, very often they still manage to leave wet stains everywhere they have been and on their cloth,

and yes that shit-smell the other day was something that really bothered me, I dont want one of our rooms smell like an ill maintained public toilett, it still has me wondering how the girls themself could stand that stench, being usually not very tolerant when it comes to bad smells,

I looked into that Nullo stuff, for one it isnt easy to get where we live, for the other it is a chemical compound, for it changes your bodychemistry,

we, and my gf in the extreme, are very conscious of what we eat, and to be effective she would have to take it for a prolonged time, it isnt something I would ask of her,

but maybe you have experience with more common dietary options that will reduce the smell,

she is a nearly complete vegetarian, so meat isnt one of the problems,

what I am looking for is a way to get along with it, but within their fantasy,

my gf told me that it really was best when one of them took the babysitter part, but obviously not for the sitter, so they discontinued that, I am reasonable sure she would like to see me in that role, but I am not convinced the other two girls would be thrilled, although during their playtime they interact with me like a small child would with the parent of a friend or an uncle maybe,

I am insecure how I could go about that, I dont think I can just treat them like little children, on the other hand I dont know the first thing about babysitting anyway, I never changed a diaper in my live, and I would rather not start with it now, it would only be a solution with my gf anyway, presuming she would tell me everytime she had used her diaper,

thats why I am on this board, so maybe someone can give me a couple of tips,

sure I could just ask my gf what excactly she would like me to do, but I think that would spoil the experience for her,

I am sorry if I might have caused the impression that she dosnt care for my worrys or is inconsiderate, I can ensure you she is as willing to make this work as I am