How warm should my water be?

I love the feeling of warmer water but I don't want to damage anything internally

Here is a good info link http://trilobyteproductionsii.net/enema_faq.html#Temp

if like the water on the hot side so i can fill it go in and around.

I too like warm water enemas, finding that they are more relaxing than body temperature water. The warmest I have used is 110F and that is just a tad too warm. If you enjoy the feeling of warm water flowing into your rectum and prostate (males), try a metal nozzle. With one of those you can lower the temperature somewhat and still get the great feel of warmth as the enema flows into you.

I also like cold water enemas if I want to orgasm after taking 1 or 2 warm water enemas. Masturbating while cold water flows into me, induces a powerful orgasm.

I've found that slightly above body temp - about 100 degrees makes the enema easier to hold. Cramping is less and it doesn't irritate the colon or rectum when expelling.