General question for the good folks of this group

"Enemas, spankings." Two topics I've had a lifelong fetish for. My late wife showed little interest in either. She passed away on July 10th this year. Now my question, and pardon me, moderators, if ti seems off topic.

I have had a "friend" on the web, for a short while before my wife passed away. We met as a result of a very bad car accident, involving a mutual friend. SHe was giving me updates on our friend's critical condition daily. WE have since discovered a shared interest in enemas, and spankings. She, like me is a "widow," although for three years in Decmeber. I am 8 years older than she is, and we also share several other, more mundane things. Now she wishes to come, and meet me in early December.

Is this TOO SOON? I will be 64 early next month, and I know we older men DO NOT get many such R/L opportunities? Of course, I must consider my children and grandchildren's concerns. Any thoughts for me to ponder upon? Walt

Are you kidding Walt? Do you need to ask this question? Go for it. You have already broken the ice on the intimate stuff...those things most of us on this forum have such a hard time with. You're not getting any younger and these opportunities come very infrequently. A meeting with her will fill in those gaps that are still bothering you and it may reveal any unwanted baggage that she may carry with her.

Too soon or not too soon should be determined by your Standards-not somebody else's. Go for it!!!!!! 😃

Walt, I would join others and saying go for it ... but procede slowly with the lady. Talk a lot about your espective histories and interests and move toward some "action" gradually. At our ages we all have a few things that turn us off and it is better to discover those and be sensitive to each others no-nos than to plunge in a spoil what could be a most wonderful, rewarding and loving relationship. Very best wishes to the two of you.

It isn't too soon. None of us is getting any younger. Just be warm and tender in your discussion with her about your desires and proclivities since they are fucking sick! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! 😁 😁 😁 😁 😁 😁 😁

No one in my family. ecxept my late wife, knows of my fetish needs. She had little interest in the ideas. This would be so SIMPLE if I could show my family the statistics of groups like this. Overwhelming numbers of older men seeking. I would not guess the odds of a nearly 64 year old, somewhat trapped in near poverty, man finding a female mate with similar interests.

Truly the lady in question is NO gold digger. In fact she tells me she is quite well off, and doesn't need what I have in material goods. WE have indeed talked of a life wtih all things, not just our fetishes. I wish no war with my family, but I feel this could be the only, and best chance I may ever have. I loved "MOM," so dearly. Never a question of that. Walt

Walt, if you and the new lady are really attracted to each other and feel you have enough in common to spend the rest of your lives together, then why not agree to spend 9-10 months becoming better friends, getting to know each other, and maybe even finding a ways to share an enema or two. The rest of your family should not resent your making new friendships. Then after next July, you can decide on how you want your relationship to move forward, and with a year having passed, perhaps your family can accept a more formalized new relationship. If the new lady is truly attracted to you, then she should understand the need to wait just a bit for something more formalized.

I would like to comment on your situation and tell you really go slow.

as far as the children and family the may be resentfull and hate being so soon.

you don't need to let them know right away that your are thinking of dating and investigate the relationship, as things progress tell them she is a good Friend and that she is a big help to you and that you think allot of her.

later on you can tell everybody that you have become a couple and it will be alittle easier for the children.

remember your Not lying to them because to this point she has helped your just slowly introducing them to her and the shock won't be there for them.

I don't want to tell you how to live your life just offering some advice hope it is good advice 😃

Walt, no day is promised to us...get a move on!!!

You only live once.

Walt, GO FOR IT!!! Your own happiness comes first, not what your family thinks, but be discreete about it. Do any of your family members ask for your approval first before they choose a mate?

Good luck

FIRST: God Bless every single one of you who have replied!! I hope you all get the best enema you ever had!

"Timing," and "appearance," are crucial I think. When she comes to visit, she will NOT stay in my home. Too my kids, adn grandkids, this was never MY home. It is "grandma's house." There is a story behind that, and offlist, I'd be glad to relate it.

For now I do plan to explore this idea carefully. Onr thing I do know, si teh lady is no "goldigger," because she has mre gold than I do. LOL. Walt

Walt,

Regarding your family... I can't speak for them, obviously. But if something happened to my mother, God forbid, I would be happy to see my father get himself a girlfriend rather than be lonely and depressed. It would be weird, sure, but overall, I'd want my father to be happy rather than pining away for my mother.

God bless,

Anne

Miss Anne?

I would certainly welcome such an unselfish attitude. I think the issue has several fairly strong points already. My kids KNOW I am lonely. They better know that I deeply loved their Mother. Only woman, up until now that I truly felt full comfort with. My new lady ahs experienced the same loss of life that I have, and YES, she has been really helpful to my recovery.

I will be 64 next Tuesday, and if my kids have learned anything at all from this, it is that "death" comes at ANY time, aNY place. Not one single soul, including her dr, had any notion she could die.Her genes were for the ages. Grandmother in ehr 80's.everal aunts and uncles, lived the same as did her dad. So I want to grab the brass ring long before any kind os socially imposed timeline. TY Walt

Walt go for it

Walt, we are given this time here to do a number of things here on earth. One of those things is to enjoy life. You and your lady friend - Enjoy !

The loss of your wife is something you'll grieve over for a while but she won't be erased from your memory or the life you had while she was alive.Meeting someone to play with also isn't replacing your wife's place in your heart.If you have someone that you are interested in sharing your passion with at this stage of the game I would go ahead and do it as life is too short not to take advantage of these pleasures.You are an adult and really shouldn't need to explain yourself to the others in your family what you want to do.Yes,it may take some time for them to accept this but if they won't,that's their problem.Good luck with whatever you choose to do and enjoy your time you do have left with whoever makes you feel good. 😉

I say go for it.