Why is it so hard to bring up with a spouse or lover?

Like many here, I'm struggling with a way to bring this fetish up with my wife. I've read all the advice and the old line, "just be honest and tell her" is a helluva lot easier said than done. If I never hear that again, it will be too soon.

I've been interested in enemas from my earliest memories. My grandmother gave me an enema when I was very young (but I seriously doubt that it was my first) and then caught me playing with the hose sometime later. That was the last I saw of that bag.

By the time I was in middle school, I was using my mother's equipment when she wasn't home (which was a lot). My other grandmother had two different bags and I eventually "borrowed" one and used it until it broke.

When I was in high school, I was using improvised equipment and even got up the courage to tell my high school sweetheart about my fetish. She wasn't repulsed but she didn't express any interest and I didn't bring it up again.

About 14 years ago, I had a chance to share this fetish with my wife and I let it slip away. We were moving and she found my equipment and said, "Baby, we've never played with this stuff!" The way she said it showed surprise, was even playful and not negative in any way. We had been quite kinky in our other play and I had the perfect opportunity to say, "I was embarrassed to admit that I liked it." Based on her tone of voice and look in her eye, I don't think she would have reacted badly and may have even been into it. Instead, I chickened out and told her that it wasn't for "play" but that I use it when "my stomach isn't right".

My wife is no prude. We have engaged in pretty kinky sex in the past with a fair amount of BDSM and often switch roles. I have even been the recipient of a stap-on and, most recently, her fist. She has enjoyed anal sex and even asked for it on occasion.

Finding this site and reading all the advice has emboldened me to be more open and try to broach the subject again but it's incredibly difficult to just come out and say it! Here are some of my ideas:

I have already moved my equipment to an innocent place under the bathroom sink instead of its ultra-secret hiding place. If she doesn't discover it, I'm going to leave the bag unzipped and see if she says anything.

If we ever see the enema Seinfeld episode again, I have a plan as to how I'll sneak in a comment about possibly enjoying it. If any other pop culture reference to it comes up, I'm going to try to capitalize on it.

I'm also going to bookmark this page and see if she says anything. If I can screw up the courage, I'm going to look for an opportunity to suggest an enema. Next time she starts trying to play with my ass, I'm going to suggest that I might need to be cleaned first. If that doesn't work, next time she's not feeling well, I might try to bring up an enema as a possible solution. If all else fails, I might even fake being ill and ask for it. Then I'll have the problem of telling her that I actually like it. -FML

Fear of rejection I think. My wife knows I take enemas, has seen me taking them and even gave me two years ago after profuse begging. Even with that I can't share this part of my life with her because she doesn't even like to talk about them. This afternoon she got home a little earlier than I had anticipated and I was just starting to flow the second bag into me when she spoke on the other side of the door telling me she needed to toilet. I had to hurriedly try to expel and stow the equipment before she came in because I was embarrassed to have her "catch" me in the act. She stayed out until I left the bathroom because I think she knew I was hosing myself. This was very frustrating not only because I know she disapproves but because I only got the one enema. I've been thinking about it and them all evening and how good the syringe felt in my rectum and the flow of warm soapy water expanding my colon. I don't know what I can do about the first part of my frustration but I can fix the second part. Wife is now asleep and as soon as I log off I going back in the bathroom and take a whole series of enemas until I'm well satisfied. Hope you all have all the enemas you want both tonight and always. I'll be thinking of you all.

Yesterday my wife told me that she knew the day before that I was hosing myself when she got home from work. It was an opprotunity to try talking with her a little about enemas. She said that she had passed something that sounded like Candida or yeast from her colon. I suggested that maybe we should try giving her some enemas for her colon health. She didn't absolutely reject the idea even though she wasn't wild about the thought. Hope maybe?

My experience - it really depends upon the woman... some will think you're a perv, others while not interested in enemas will not have a problem with you doing them, and (rarely) there are gals who are into them...

Trick is knowing ahead of time which is which, since one the cat is out of bag (ha, sort of a pun) it's too late...

It is hard because it is not considered normal by society so it makes a lot of people feel uncomfortable.

Maybe ask her about it first what she thinks of them/ what does she know about them if she seem interested then go for it or maybe she secretly does it behind your back for all you know.

take it one step at a time and you should be ok

The old lady doesn’t want anything around her hinny, not me, not my hand, and especially not a hose and nozzle! She was confronted three times about it and the last two times it was, “leave me alone about that”. She knows I do. I do not hide the equipment. I leave my JBL hanging and ready to use. The other stuff is all left to dry before it is storied. Either the spouse will except the practice or they will not.

Take her out to a romantic dinner.

Make sure she drinks a lot.

Then bounce the idea off her.

Feel her pussy a and see if she is wet.

Take off her clothes slowly and kiss her neck.

Lick her ears as you kiss her.

Start to finger her ass slowly and kind the KY jelly.

Use the jelly as you finger her ass and keep kissing

her neck and licking her ears.

Take off the rest of her clothes slowly. Keep kissing her.

Suggest an enema as you finger her ass.

If she is into it out. Have her bend over the bed and open

her butt with her hands. Then you can slowly insert the

nozzle into her ass. Then watch as she slowly fills.

Keep kisssing her back and neck as you do this.

When she is full, use a buttplug to make sure it stays in.

Then roll her over and have normal sex. With an enema in

in makes it very intense.

French kiss her hard as you fuck her.

Make it a dinner date she will in forget !!!!