My wife and I have played with another woman in the past, but had not pursued that play for a long time. We agreed that I'd put an ad on AFF for a female to play w/a couple, and see what happened. (No reference to enemas)
We met a great gal who does home health care, is very kinky, and before we ever got together, told us how anal-erotic she is. (My wife loves to give to me, but doen't take enemas anymore because of IBS)
At any rate, I answered one of this lady's emails to us with details of enema play. Tho she knew what an enema is, she wasn't aware of all the dedicated enema-sex equipment, and techniques for using an enema erotically.
My enema play with my wife usually goes like this: we have a massage table that we bought purely as a fuck-table. I have an IV pole, and will stand it next to the table, and extend it as high as it will go to get enough pressure to fill me while standing. My wife lays at the end of the table, and I stand between her legs, holding them while we have intercourse as I fill. I can hold a 4 qt enema as long as a half-hour while doing this; every time the pressure feels like it's too much to hold, I increase the speed and force of my thrusts, and besides feeling like nothing else, the feeling of urgency to expel passes.
Our new friend was all for trying this, so on our first get-together, I had 2, 4qt bags hanging there. First, she really got off on the nozzle selection we have, and decided on a dildo nozzle. I put her on the table and did my thing.. my wife was sucking her tits, etc, as I fucked her and administered the enema. She not only did a great job of taking nearly the whole bag without losing a drop, she came completely unglued! She came so hard that she almost scared us. ( She later told us that she can have anal-only orgasms, and sometimes prefers anal sex to vaginal) Our master bath in our bedroom has no door on the watercloset, so every noise she made while expelling was very obvious, and she was really cool with that, laughing sometimes, sometmes letting out a big "Whooo". When done, she promptly returned and said "We have to do that again". And we did...
Ok, so, the moral of the story? Well, despite all the negative press AFF can get, it worked for us. Secondly guys, if you want to introduce a woman to enemas, don't expect her to get off on the enema alone like you might. Make sure she's in a high state of arousal thru oral, fucking, whatever. But use the anal stimulation of the enema to augment sexual stimulation, rather than expecting the enema alone to be arousing. Most of us here can catch a glimpse of an enema bag and become aroused, but we're seasoned veterans.
We meet again this Sunday at noon, and the hours can't pass quickly enough. She and my wife hit it off on a girl/girl basis, and it's wonderful for me for reasons that are too obvious to mention.
Never give up...