Getting my friend involved, part 2

I have had some wonderful suggestions from you all about involving a long-time, now college aged friend of mine in "playing doctor." I wanted to ask you what you thought about the following ideas:

1) Ask her about the college's healthcare system, whether they offer something on campus and whether she's used it; tell my story of my own experience with my college's campus.

2) Tell her of my interests and perhaps express concern for her health (this is not so good I think): ask her if she has regular chcekups, does SBE's, etc.

3) We're talking soon of doing lunch and some shopping...was thinking of asking her to pick out lingerie as well that she likes, then going to men's looking for attactives for me....with this somehow leading to discussion. I know it's lame and a stretch.[ Other ideas for shopping?

I've gone with a lot of my female friends for them to pick our lingerie and stuff.. I was always the male girl friend for them.. Just kinda worked out that way... For me it's always come out of talking about sexual acts that we each like, each time pushing the line a little further... or, I'll just wait till they make a comment about going to a Dr in real life and I'll just make a joking suggestion and I'd give them a free second opinion..

and... in October.. hehe.. I'm always telling my female friends that I'm more than happy to do my part and give them free breast exams.. ;-)

To address your ideas as you've numbered them:

1)Not a bad start but it might get her creeped out a bit. I would want to know why someone was asking me that question...

2)Agreed - not so good to discuss her actual health, when your goal is to play.

3)Only you know her well enough if you think she would be amenable to that..either that or she's just gonna think you want to get into her pants...which you DO of course, but in a different way and it's besides the point.

I would agree with Spec Steve about "pushing the line a little further...". You somehow have to get onto the topic of sex in general when you can talk in a semi-private setting...maybe even over lunch or something. See if you can do a "I'll show you mine, if you show me yours.." kinda thing, but with fantasies. After the sex topic arrives, ask if she has any fantasies or fetishes...maybe offer to tell her yours first. I would start out with saying that you'd like to 'play doctor' with her. I would also definitely NOT say that you'd "like to inject saline in her butt and then give her an enema which will precede the complete rectal exam before you dilate her cervix while she's in stirrups, etc..".. yeah, I'm thinking that would be bad... Avoid the details at first & you'll probably be safe.

Good luck!

The "I'd like to play Dr." usually works for me too... most of them think it's a fun little role play.. and, they usually will play back admitting they don't do breast exams like they should, or that they want me to "look" at them in detail down below..

Ok, so let's pursue that line of thought for just a few minutes so that I make sure I "get it". Over lunch, I might say to her "Do you ever have any fantasies?" If she responds "What do you mean?" I might respond "Well, I've always had a fascination with doctors and medicine....and I've had fantasies of what it might be like to examine you." Is that the general idea, or WAYYYY to forward?

Also, what if I throw in the fact that I find out she's very conservative? How does that change things?

How about inviting her on a swimming outing? We'd be half naked anyway at the time. How could one possibly make that work? 😃

Sorry - it just sounds like a lot of fun, especially if I could get her involved!

I have found women enjoy playing doctor. I usually start by using a toy doctor kit and work from there.

Now there's a possibility - take her shopping with me, and tell her I want to get my daughter one of those "medical kits" like we used to have growing up. Then take both it and her home, and say "Wow, let's see what's in here these days" then spend time exploring the kit - placing the steth on her chest or back, perhaps, etc.

Any thoughts on something like that? 😄

Ok gang, I get to go out with my "hopefully" patient to be again Monday night. Cannot wait - coffee, then perhaps some window shopping.

Those of you who said "be patient, give it time" are very right. It's so important to build a solid foundation of trust here...and apparently, I'm doing a good job. She was VERY willing and eager to go out with me again. Maybe by fall we can approach the medical thing if this keeps up- I think we'll go ahead and set our next date with her while we're out on Monday.

Good luck, Dr. Bob! Let us know how it goes! And above all, have fun.

gaze

I shall - and above all elsa, she and I will definitely have fun. We always do 😃. Its a lot of fun just sitting and sipping coffee, and sharing our dreams and life goals together. She's a great young woman.

HELP! Now what? Things definitely picked up tonight!

I don't even recall what got this started, but I think it was my telling her that since I'm out of work I -as I always do -give thoughts to going back to school and becoming a PA. Thus began my 19 year old friend telling me that she wanted to be a pediatrician until she learned she had to give kids shots.

Then she threw in the fact that though she's 19, she still sees a pediatrician and will until she's 21....that she really liked her female doctor now, but hated the male doctor she had growing up as a toddler. We spent quite a bit of time talking about all this and our mutual hatred of needles.

SO....NOW WHAT DO I DO? I hinted around tonight also that I have secrets that some people would not believe, and might find odd, and that I'd have to really trust that person to tell them. Have I written myself into a corner? What should the next step be?

Dr. Bob-

Heaven knows, I am not a relationship expert but I would say this: don't panic! Keep your cool and don't put the cart before the horse. It certainly sounds as though this young lady is interested in you, but from what you say, she doesn't know anything about Dr. Bob - yet.

Let's try a few more casual meetings, dates, whatever you want to call them. Keep your ears and eyes tuned for any subtle signs or comments that the two of you might share a common interest but don't rush it. The two of you need to get to know one another a lot better before Dr. Bob puts in an appearance.

Once things start to get a little physical; like holding hands let's say, you could start by taking her pulse in a subtle casual fashion. If she asks what you're doing, just say "I love to feel your pulse (or heartbeat) sweetie." I would think any woman would be happy to hear that, medfet fan or not.

Just keep the lines of communication open, and don't be too eager. This is an exciting time for both of you, but don't scare her off by pushing the issue. She'll let you know when she's ready.

Just my 2 cent's worth. Good luck, and keep us posted!

Best regards,

gaze

Gaze,

Thank you for a very reasonable, sensible thought out response. I needed that 😄

I was just amazed that when conversation turned slightly towards doctors she did not back away from it.

I think you're right, we have many more "dates" ahead of us before the doctor should plan to make a house call...hopefully we'll both be ready before she leaves in a couple of years to teach overseas....but if not, that'll be all right too.

I like the idea of holding hands, feeling her pulse. Nice touch. 😃