Trying to figure this whole thing out!

I'm very new to this whole thing and very curious.

When I had my last baby (4 years ago) it was a very traumatic delivery. I ended up with some pretty major damage down there. To this day, I still am brought to tears nearly every time I try to have a bowel movement, so I end up holding it which makes me more constipated which leads to me holding it longer.... it's a viscious cycle.

While trying to find ways to help myself (Dr.'s say there really isn't anything else they can do on their end)I came across lots of stuff re:enemas. Strangely (at least in my mind) it turned me on. I have no desire to do one on myself, but I have a VERY strong desire to do one on my husband. I find myself getting VERY turned on by the whole process of GIVING him the enema, however, I have no desire to watch/hear/smell him expell it. I have no clue where to even begin this little adventure! An suggestions?

My wife and I have used enemas for over 40 years and have had occasions to take care of each other. Your inquiry presents several problems that are easier to take one at a time. (Your health, rectal issues, personal interest, interest of husband)

I presume that you have physical issues of hemmorhoids, rectal fissures, bleeding, hard bowels and constipation among other problems that will occur with time.

There is too much to try to explain here. My e-mail address is imnozz@yahoo.com

They've done laxatives, hemmorhoid creams, etc.Even reconstructive surgery (I was stitched incorrectly) Boils down to the fact that there is nerve damage and there really isn't anything that they can do about it. Oh the joys of having children!!!(wouldn't trade them for anything in the world though)

Hi smithjanie,

You've touched on something that is a common topic in this forum...how to get your partner to give/receive an enema. There are many ways to go about this. Do you know if he ever had any enemas as a child or later in life? If so, do you know how he felt about them?

If your spouse enjoys anal stimulation then he may be interested in receiving an enema...perhaps a few small bulb enemas with repeated, gentle insertions that could be arousing. Also, newbies may find bulbs less intimidating than a bulging bag and a hose. Think of the visual!

If he's not into anal stimulation, then another route to take may be to suggest an enema if he gets constipated. You can tell him you've been reading about ways to help relieve your bowel movement troubles. Trying one on yourself and having some enema "equipment" on hand could move this topic forward.

Some people may tell you to be straightforward and reveal your desires to him without pussyfooting around. It comes down to what you are personally comfortable with. There are roundabout ways to suggest enemas to see if he's game, or you can just tell him outright. Whichever you choose, best of luck.

Arianna