How to take the next step?

I have this very good friend that I met on line. We have a tremendous amount of likes including romantic stories. I had never found myself being so close to someone that I have never met in person. I really think she would enjoy the encounter but I have no clue how I should ask for a meeting. Has anyone else had this problem? Any suggestions on how to ask? :😃

If she lives in your area, simply ask. She's probably waiting for you to do so. Keep it light, like a coffee (non enema type) date or some such thing.

Hi tailjoy,

You want to meet for...what? Not knowing about the nature of your on line relationship, and even if there's a sexual aspect, my recommendation (as a female) would be to tell her that you'd enjoy meeting her for lunch/coffee. Choose/suggest a nice place that's comfortable, has a good ambiance, and affords some privacy so you can chat. You want her to feel that you are respectful of her. What you don't want is for her to feel like she might be compromised or taking a risk during this meeting. Explain how much you've enjoyed your on line correspondence and be honest,let her know that you were hesitant to ask her to meet, but that you would really enjoy having lunch/coffee with her.

Best of luck,

Arianna

Arianna is right. Make sure you meet in a comfortable public place so she does not feel intimidated or threatened. You could even have her bring a friend if she is worried about your first encounter. But as Arianna stated, it all depends on your on-line relationship. If it is purely sexual it may be a whole different story.

From a women's point of view, I think meeting just for coffee with no expectations from either of you would take a lot of pressure off..... if you hit it off, then proceed at your own pace.....

MM, tailjoy did not say he met her online here. If he had I would go along with your advice. He also did not say exactly what they have in common. Maybe he has not even mentioned enemas to her. 😉

I would want the first meeting to occur without any expectations. See what transpires and go from there.

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I would want the first meeting to occur without any expectations. See what transpires and go from there.

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I did not drive 400 miles for a cup of coffee! We got to know one another first through this site and then private messages and then real life email and phone conversations. If he had taken one look at me and said No, thanks! I would have had to turn around and drive all the way back home. I had made up my mind before agreeing to meet, that I was going to go through with it. I did not need to wait to see if I liked his looks or whatever, that is irrelevant to me. But, it did not hurt that he is HOT!! 😁 Yummy! 😉

Lady Di is a better reader than most... I did not meet her on this site but was carefully and very skillfully (I might add cunning also) directed to this site by her. In some ways it was a disappointment because the people she was in correspondence, without a doubt, have serious issues.

I did mention meeting but never got a response. I think that is caused by several reasons. First, the fear of failure of being accepted and second (worse yet), fear of success. I have no hard feelings about losing the close spirit that we actually shared.

I guess I am not as good a reader as either of us thought, because I did not catch that you never said anything about an enema encounter. I just assumed, and you know where that gets you. Oh, wait, on this site that is a good thing! 😁 My apologies to all non-English speakers who will not be able to relate to that reference.