Is it abuse to make a child wear diapers?

Is there an age at which it would be abuse for a parent to make their child wear diapers? If so at what age.

For example would be be abusive if I had an 11 year old who wet the bed and I made him wear a diaper to bed?

I would say, in the case of your example. It would depend on how it was handled. Just like anything else in a child's life. Whatever it is, can be carried to far, and made to be abusive.

If they were made to feel bad because of it, mocked, spanked, etc. that would be abusive.

If it's done to help the child feel better about waking up in a dry bed! Done with love and respect, and so they are aware it's not wrong, no not abuse.

There are lots of ways to handle it too, lots of good, or right ways. I think the abuse lays within the parent, or parents. The diapers, if use wrongly, would only be the instrument of abuse, not actually the abuse itself, there would be an underlining factor.

In such a case, it might be a good idea to offer the child a choice. We will have you wear diapers discreetly at bedtime, so you may wake up in a dry bed. Or, you will be responsible to take care of the wet clothes, bed sheets, blankets and any other wet items in the mornings when there is a wetting accident. Something along those lines will help to empower the child, and have them be more responsible for what they do and there own bodies.

There are many opinions on this however, some people think even that is to harsh.

Whatever the case, if it is truly done with love, respect, consideration, and the need to teach a child how to deal with a situation for themselves, it would be the right way to go.

I don't think putting any child or teen back into diapers should be classed as abuse if they are having genuine wetting problems but as mentioned above like most things it has to be handled in the right way. In a caring loving environment and you put it to them in the right way what child would refuse to wear protection. Kids tend to get very embarrassed about these sorts of problems and the peer pressure from there mates is intense and the thought of anyone finding out they wear diapers normally will get a flat refusal to wear them. So in the right frame set for the right reasons and probably with medical assistance like a doctor for support how can it really be abuse? 😃

What about using diapers as a form of punishment for talking back and the like? Would it be wrong to put a teen in diapers for non bladder control issues?

Diaper punishment is abuse since it has no merit. The purpose is to shame the child into behaving, which isn't very constructive.

I agree with Crispinavi on this. Let the punishment fit the crime and diapers as punishment even for wetting the bed is not a fitting punishment. In fact I kind of feel that punishment for wetting is wrong unless the kid is standing in front of you and peeing his pants and saying, "there, what are you going to do about that!"

It is not a d/l's job to go out and create more d/l's but rather to go out and buy diapers and just enjoy them. 😃

I agree with Crispinavi. Diaper Punishment is what led me to become a DL, and I would not want that for my child.

I always wanted to be in diapers and plastic panties but my parents refused to the point of ripping up any plastic pants that they found. But when I was going to kindergarten at around three or four which was run by nuns, since I was Catholic. If you caused trouble or, especially it you peed or pooped your pants you were made to wear cloth diapers(no disposables back in the 50's) and plastic panties with nothing over them if you were a boy and short dresses that showed off the diaper filled plastic panties that were worn for the whole day and were changed in front of the other kids. I loved it and would purposely pee and poo my pants just to be made to wear my diapers and plastic pants. This lasted only for a week before they caught on to what I was doing and suggested that I see a psychiatrist. That started years of pointless therapy. That week of wearing cloth diapers and plastic panties and shaming and spankings (with diapers and plastic panties on to make it more humiliating) the best experience of my life.

Most of the time she would pull on the leg bands until they snapped and ripped them to the waist band. Other times she would force them on me telling me what a shameful sissy baby i was and that I should be ashamed of myself and again pulling on the leg bands until they ripped after spanking me in them or puling on the waist band and with my last pair ripping apart the side seams on both sides and in the mirror ask me what I thought of my baby panties now as tears were streaming down my cheeks

I was put back in diapers at age 11 for bedwetting and for wetting my pants. I don't think it was abuse at all, it was just treating me according to the way I acted. In addition, diapers kept the bed dry.

Please don't ever "punish" a child by making him/her wear diapers. I was punished this was starting at age 9 and it has affected me all of my life. I spent entire summers as a "baby" in punishment.

This is extremely humiliating to the child and will cause last unpleasant memories about it and you.

I don't understand the responses of some people. I don't always think of those diaper punishments as negative, but they are after all punishments? But if you read a lot of the stories here, a lot of them have to do with forced diaper wearing and shame and humiliation, even if it is fantasy. Some times I wish I had someone to diaper punish me. It would add to the fun of being naughty. After all babies are not goody good all the time and some babies can be very stubborn when it comes to being toilet trained and giving up their precious diapers

"Punishing" with diapers for wetting the bed is in my opinion not appropriate unless the wetting was absolutely intentional. Using diapers for protection of said bed because of not enough bladder control might seem like a punishment to the child but may be just practical. There are other solutions available such as alarms, pads etc. Discussion with the child is definitely a must. Then a doctor might need to be consulted, but be careful as some doctors just want to throw drugs at a problem regardless of the side effects.

Remember in all this that some children when entering puberty react differently to all the hormones beginning to be released into their bodies. If the child had an "accident" there are a lot of possibilities as to why. Good luck with all that.

Oh, was this just a theoretical question? Did we all get carried away?

Referring to OP. It is wrong to put a child back into diapers if it used as a means of punishment. To humiliate a child in this manner could damage them severely and could do unrelenting damage to there mental health.

I totaly agree if the purpose of putting said children in diapers for pants wetting or bedwetting is to shame and humiate is totaly wrong.but to use diapers the make the child more comfortable and less embaressed about his/her problem is not such a bad idea,is it? But as a fantaasy there are a lot worse and definitely more painful punishments. I would rather be forced to wear and use my cloth diapers and plasic panties even in public with shameful humiating baby talk while bieng changed in a fantasy then to be beaten with belts and worse in reality

Putting children into diapers as means of punishment should stay to the realm of fantasy, it is one thing reading about as a story but for it to actually happen.

It would be far too damaging for a child to be put through that kind of emotional pain.

I think it's only abuse if it's not justified. I have a five year old who just won't take the time to stop playing to go to the bathroom sometimes. I told him if he has another accident because he didn't want to stop playing I would make him wear one of his baby brother's diapers. I would call that punishment where as if I just put him in them that would be abuse. I think as long as you explain it to your 11 year old that it's to keep them comfortable it's not abuse at all.

I don't see anything wrong with giving a kid who wets the bed or their clothes the option of wearing a diaper, but I would never force them to. I don't see any value in humiliation and shame. You may get someone to do what you want them to do using such violent and coercive methods, but you won't teach them much in the process and could do a lot of harm to their thought patterns as a result.

There are better ways to teach kids how to behave - I highly recommend watching some Super Nanny shows at least or better yet taking parenting classes.

P.S. If you threatened to punish me with diapers as a kid I would've misbehaved even worse because I always loved wearing diapers. 😜

Raymond, I agree with you that you give them an option, and not even hint in any way that it would be punishment. But it would depnd on the child, also. I think that age combined with whether mom put them on the child or not would be a factor. I know at 9 it was not much of a factor that my mom diapered me, but after learning what my privates were for and about, it became a factor for others to diaper me. All of the sudden the could become sexual. I mean think about the number of times that you saw women breastfeeding a child when you were younger and it did nothing for you. But as you grew older, it did start affecting you to see the breasts as something other than a feeding mechanism for babies.

Bedwetting is often psychological. I was with a woman who became weirder and weirder towards my friends & my child. I didn’t see it, I was blinded by love, strange as it may seem. But my child, 5 yrs old, started wetting the bed. Not often, but it happened. two-three times. Once I ditched the witch, my child never had any more accidents.

The same child who told me there are white lies and black lies. The ones she told about the witch were black. Kids are smarter than one may think…

The context makes a tremendous difference. To have a child wear something to bed to avoid a mess does not sound unreasonable, particular when telling him or her that it is not a punishment but a temporary measure until things pass.

Using it as a mode of punishment for unrelated matters or to fostor a form of control over the child would be abuse, especially if doing it in a way that is to humuliate the child. Just my personal opinions, not legal counsel.

It's not abusive to make a kid wear diapers when they need to.

It depends on the circumstances, using it as protection for bed wetting is harmless, but using it as a punishement could be considered mental abuse, most would not think that though. There has been a case however, where a teenage girl around her early teenage years (14-16) that god low grades in her exams and her mother punished her by shaving her head and putting her in nothing but a t-shirt and a diaper, making her go outside and pick up trash in puclic. The mother face criminal charges for this incident, i am not saying it was because of the diaper solutely, but they might have played a part

I don't think so, as I wore as a child in my mothers care for my bed wetting problems

I think you have to explain that you cannot do laundry every night. As long as there is humiliation in front of family or friends…. It is merely a convenience thing….. Just my take

It's not abuse at all. I was in diapers 24/7 til I was 10 yrs old. Then in diapers at night til I was 16 yrs old. My mom was knew I was not able to control my bladder so diapers were the only way to go. Yes it was hard most of the time, but I got use to it.

I have a friend that uses diapers on her son due to his heavy wetting at night, but he can use the goodnite pullups during the daytime

Ok here we go. Rules on diapering.

1 if you have a wetting problem then wearing a diaper are disposal underwear like pull ups are good nights,underjams,ect is ok.

2 you are your parents should seek Dr advice on the problem

3 it is abuse to use diaper punishment are spanking, yelling are any thing that is used to humiliation to try and stop the wetting.

Cause of wetting can be a number of things. Parents we have to do our job to be supportive and loving understanding. Our children didn't ask to be born so do your job as a parent and when your child grows up they will know how to handle this with their own kids.

rwads106 said

What about using diapers as a form of punishment for talking back and the like? Would it be wrong to put a teen in diapers for non bladder control issues?

That is absolutely abuse.

Punishment by wearing diapers for non-bladder control issues is wrong.

It’s psychological abuse.

Yes, if its for punishment, should never happen. But how about taking the child to the dr. To rule out a uti, or obstruction in the bladder. Then if nothing physical, then some childs psyche therapy with a childrens specialst.

The fact that someone even asked the question has me stumped. Seriously? Come on now.

This is plainly abuse no different than giving a child an enema for no reason.