Why do some play doc let us females down .

I was chatting to 5 diffrent guys who was interested in giving me a play exam and every time we make a date to meet and get on with he exam they don't show or don't get in touch .

or is it that they are just getting off on talking about it . i wont mention any names but a 3 of them was from this site .

luckily i have found a couple of other guys that are genuine and do play for real and I'm really enjoying the fun .

has anybody else had this problem with unreliable play docs ???

Some of us need a little help. I am new to this and I am a lot more comfortable talking about it than doing it at this stage. I need a woman to help me into the real thing and for her to treat me gently as it were!

I guess its easier for a woman to get offer to play from a guy than the other way round.But anyone ive played with i met in a nilla environment first.Then if were both happy we meet in "character" for a session.

nichty

It also works both ways. There are females who set up appointments and back out as well. Since it requires a reasonable amount of trust -- particularly if one is playing in real life, one must assume that the person who doesn't show either is not trustworthy or, perhaps, doesn't feel that the required trust is present. Of course, there are "teases" -- those who get to the stage of meeting and then lose nerve, or never really wanted to meet at all. If one has enough patience, the proper partner WILL come along.

I think alot of females get scared of doing it in real life and meeting strangers, because you see all these horror stories on the news etc and i think anyone with half a sensible mind would be constantly thinking..." why on earth am i putting myself in a potentially dangerous situation" it just doesnt make sense. Although i'd like a play exam, im prepared to let it stay as a fantasy as i dont want to put myself in a situation i later regret.

You have form friendships and trust and this takes a lot of time and many people are impatient. You cannot expect after some phone calls and a couple of public meetings that someone is going to participate in an intimate game of playing doctor. Then there are the ones who only enjoy talking about doctor play and might find the anticipation of getting an exam exciting but never actually going through with it. Then you have legal issues. For example, maybe some woman has a medical fetish but she does not tell her husband and he finds out. She tells him that she thought that she was having a real exam, especially if you have a "real" exam room at home, and they file charges against you for practicing medicine without a license because she does not want her husband to know about her medical fetish. Even though, in the end you win the case but you have spend thousands of dollars defending yourself. Even worst maybe the husband thinks his wife is having an affair with you and he shoots you dead. Then, you have the other side of the coin where the play doctor or patient might want to cause you harm. It is scary meeting strangers. This is even worst than dating because many people keep their medical fetish a secret from friends and family members so they don't give details where they are going.

Well personally i can understand why some people back out a meeting at the last moment.As youd need to be nuts to let a complete stranger work on without getting to know a bit about them first.Plus id like know that they know what theyre doing before the start messing about with anything important.

nichty

Just cancelling arrangements for a consultation this evening since i have had no confirmation that my patient will arrive despite several attempts to confirm the arrangements. Grrrr.

It takes time and effort, but I do think that a number of play Docs are looking for female patients and Soumise, you must keep looking if meeting one is your desire. Personally, I have had great success.

I am not sure why a play Doc would refuse to meet in the end, perhaps the process was rushed.

Lady Teddy

I would love to find some playmates...in LA area

I don't know how valid the original question still is, being that the poster is an ex member.

Here goes:

Lady Teddy stated it well..."It takes time and effort". In addition, patience,willingness,trust that only comes from getting to know each other first, before play.

G.N.

It has been my experience that no specific time line exists for meeting. Successful MedFet relationships are built on trust and credibility, which goes both ways between the patient and the doctor. I have had meetings develop within days, and others which may take a year or more between initial contact and first real time exam. Unless the players are in each others backyard meetings may take months to plan and will only be successful if both are serious.

The deciding factor above all is trust. Only when a patient has an absolute trust in their doctor will they play, and then they will be ready and willing. And that trust must be enduring, it is not something you build to use once but rather something that must last a lifetime even if the meeting is once in that lifetime. If there is any time line to be placed on meeting patients, it is when absolute trust has been developed, and that is as long as that takes.

I would add that I have never had a patient "stand me up" nor have they. If both sides go to the trouble of making sure that they are on the same page as far as morals, desires, and expectations, the experience is nothing short of spectacular for both. As far as trust, some of my patients do not have a safe word because it is something they know they will never need to use.

A wise old doctor once said "It takes lots of patience to have lots of patients." 😉

Personally I have never failed to miss a meeting with a female patient. When I have clearly understood her interests and established an exam scanerio we arrange a meeting in public for coffee or lunch. I don't discuss the exam at this time considering the lack of privacy. This is just a meeting to get further aquainted. When we feel comfortable we proceed with the exam. This gives either party the option to politely respectfully decline. On the other hand I've been contacted by some who have claimed to be females wanting me to describe a typical exam. I briefly describe a basic exam and also a more involved one making it clear that exams can be tailored to their interests never hearing from them again. They don't even have the courtesy to respond to any further e-mails.

I would love to give a female a complete exam. I think I would have to meet and spend time with the woman first though to make sure everything was well understood, and ease the woman's fears.

I have not been let down yet .

and also hope i dont get let down,

but i think if these people who do let somebody down they should have the respect to tell the truth in the 1st place and say im really only looking for online chat.

or are they just getting off on the thought of doing an exam ??

i guess we will never know .

i just hope i dont meet anybody on here who will try to play me like an idiot .

so dont get your hopes up girls some guys do just play out a fantasy online cos they are marrie or just dont have the balls to do the job and do it properly

I'm sorry you've been let down, I actually thought it would be the other way around- the patient afraid and getting cold feet. Good luck and don't give up!

Hi there its not just play doc's letting people down,its patients too.All enthusiasm and no show!!

This reply is to both the guys and gals, doctors and patients alike. I know it's hard to find someone to play with in real time that shares the same kink and whom you can trust. I chatted online with my medplay partner for five months before I met him face-to-face. Talk about extended foreplay! But the minute he stepped off the plane and we hugged each other, it was instantly "right" and is to this very day.

Patience (not patients) will win the day. The right person is out there, it might take time to find them, you may have to turn over a few rocks, or kiss a few frogs but the discovery is well worth the search!

Play On!

LadyDoc

After a decade+(71-85) of hectic,ultimately unsatisfying swinging, I have found:

Yes the right person is indeed out there, I willingly take the time to look and observe. I eagerly and objectively turn over any and all rocks. From experience, I have gotten choosy as to what frogs I kiss.

Discovery is succulently worth patiently searching for 😃!

G.N.

I would love to find a serious play doc in S.E. VIRGINIA

In my experience this is true of many people you meet online, not just fetish lovers.

The web provides annonimity and therefor many people feel they can commit to something and not follow thru because what are the repercussions? Nil! Cause if you don't like it you can easily be deleted! Lol gotta love the Internet

I think its because the are not thinking what they are getting in to and lack of experience.

or they are just players

It's very easy to sit in front of a computer screen and dream about being a play doc. However a real live meet is a different ball game entirely. You have to arrange the situation, you have to take responsibility for it. You're not a real doctor so you have to be a bit of an actor as well to pull it off.

Some men haven't got the nerve to do it in reality and just want to get off by talking about it...that's a fact.

It's the same situation with the 'patient' Think about it....she is meeting a guy for the very first time in her life and within a very short space of time we all know what is going to happen.It's very exciting but can also be quite daunting, especially the first time but they still do it.

I've had women cancel, I've had to cancel...you have to accept that sometimes life gets in the way. But I've never had a no show in all my years as a play doc.

I put that down to not rushing and getting to know the other person over a period of time. Giving them confidence...

Dr Philip - The UK Play Doctor.

My experience is the opposite of the man not showing. It is so very difficult to finally have a new woman agree to meet that I wouldn't ever think of not showing. I have although had many women break the date and not show. Very very frustrating and a waste of both our time.