What is the difference between........

An obsession and a fetish?

Are either really a bad thing?

I think I've become obsessed with the idea of a man administering me an enema. Everytime I even hear certain words or phrases I get all goofy eyed.

Is there something wrong with me?

I'll be honest, it's only happened since I've found this place and have discovered that there are others who love enemas and all things anal just like myself.

I am hoping it gets better with time, or maybe it will only get better after I scratch this itch I have........

Any suggestions?

Scratch your itch. Trust me, it won't go away. One therapist I went to said fetishes become hard wired in the brain, and become part of the individual's personality. Just accept it. You could have a much worse obsession

This is just my opinion, I have nothing scientific to back it up.

I would define a fetish as something that takes the place of sex. Like you need to think about enemas (or whatever your fetish is) in order to get sexual satisfaction. I would place myself in this category.

An obsession, on the other hand, is usually temporary; it passes with time. It's the state of being consumed by thoughts and fantasies about a certain person, act, etc.

Fetishes on the other hand, have a deep-rooted pychology and are usually life-long.

I think the two are seperate. One can be obsessed by one's fetish, or not.

Anne B........I think you got it. You are correct. I believe I am obsessed by my fetish at this point. So, I guess I am both for now.

I think the only way I am going to solve this issue is to do something about it.

I guess it boils down to what the words fetish and obsession mean.

Anne's correct in that in days of yore, fetish (to the shrinks at least) meant some object that had to be present for orgasm to occur. But, like with many things, that's no longer the case.

Fetish has also come to mean an object of deep desire that enhances sexual pleasure.

Obsession, on the other hand, seems to still have a definition that entails not only fetish of both kinds but the mindset that causes people to pursue their desire/fetish to the point of it being all consuming. If that happens, then there's trouble afoot.

Regardless of how we define and use these words, other than in purely academic terms, I'd suggest it's only a problem if whatever we want (enemas in our case) becomes an issue that interferes with our daily lives and ability to function.

So if I keep it in check and life as usual it's ok if my mind is consumed with thoughts of all things enema?

Teacher121:

It's my opinion that if what you do doesn't hurt someone else it isn't a bad thing. If you or someone else derives pleasure from it why should that be considered wrong or bad? Life is exceedingly short for humans enjoy it.....Jimbeaux

Sure teacher it's allright if your mind is consumed about enemas. No one should deprive someone of their personal pleasures. 😉

If it feels good, do it. -- DD 😘

I think that as we go through life we develop many interests. Some develop interests in climbing mountains and seeing the vistas that are available from those heights some exercise because they like the rush from the endorphins. Some of us even develop interests in Enemas. I know myself, that for years I was sure that I was the only person that would ever use an enema to stimulate myself sexually. Fortunately very early on in the internet the word enema because quite popular and I was very happy to find that there were other’s who shared this obsession or fetish with me. There was just one problem with that. I was doing them solo, and I wanted to share them with someone who understood at the core level what it meant to share an enema with another person who understood the feelings that they could arouse deep within one’s soul. Still to this day, I can not adequately describe the soul shaking bliss that comes from sharing an enema with someone who feels the same way. I think as humans with a limited time on this earth that we owe it to ourselves to explore those things we desire whether they be Vistas, endorphins, or enemas.

Jag

Isn't a fetish something that an individual would like to do that is usually considered somewhat out of the ordinary, perhaps not so normal (whatever the hell that is). It usually has sexual or semisexual connotations. An obsession is stronger, more like something that cannot be done without, that occupies one's thoughts constantly, and is participated in constantly, even to the extent of sometines compelling another in some way. I don't think fetish is like that; it's more harmless, esp to others.

A few people are obsessed with abusing, or even torturing, animals--you wouldn't say that is a fetish.

As long as I can still function in the "real" world, nothing wrong with having a fantasy I guess. Well, at least that is what I am beginning to see now.

My X husband really gave me so hard times about my love of anal things, I'm still trying to get over it I guess. His fears stem from growing up in the southern Bible belt USA.

My problem is that my thoughts have been consumed with this place and the thought of someone giving me a series of enemas.

Maybe.........someday..........who knows for sure. At least I know now there isn't something "seriously" wrong with me, and I don't think it's a fetish, but just a dream for now.

Obsession is bad but fetish good! good to see a girl soooo into anal stuff! my favorite fetish !!! i love all things about a girl's ass and asshole i have no prior experience giving enemas to a girl but it would be one thing i'd love to do before i die. must'n be to hard to find a guy that would do that to you ....i would!write me please mybe we can learn about each other and have fun .

It would be nice of we could all define words as we like, but alas, we cannot. If you want to know the difference between a fetish and an obsession, you have to go to the dictionary or a thesaurus.

obsession

Compulsive preoccupation with a fixed idea or an unwanted feeling or emotion, often accompanied by symptoms of anxiety.

A compulsive, often unreasonable idea or emotion.

fetish

An object that is believed to have magical or spiritual powers, especially such an object associated with animistic or shamanistic religious practices. An object of unreasonably excessive attention or reverence: made a fetish of punctuality. Something, such as a material object or a nonsexual part of the body, that arouses sexual desire and may become necessary for sexual gratification. An abnormally obsessive preoccupation or attachment; a fixation.