Give and Take

Yes I do like to receive a "good" enema. In fact, I like to receive more than one in a session. Sadly, I am solo since my spouse finds enemas revolting and disgusting. Which leads me to my philosophy on enemas.

In any relationship there is "give and take". Personally, I like that approach to enemas. I would like to "give" and "take". I mean what is good for the goose is good for the gander. Besides which a little "goose" and a good "gander" adds to the fun! I would want a partner who enjoys the pure pleasure of an enema. So much so, that after the enema is prepared and I put a thick towel on my lap, she almost dives over it! After receiving a "good" old fashioned over the lap soapy enema, she would ask coyly, "Aren't you going to give me a rinse...or maybe two?". I would reply, "Only if you do the same for me!" Which would bring a bigger smile to her face to match mine! Well, it could be a grin! 😁 😁 😁.

Any ladies feel this way?

And even if your wife find them revolting you may still have a chance to involve her. Remember what she needs, what she likes and how far would you go to explore her kinky side. Every single individual has is pervert side and it is true that it is not easy to find it. I, by experience, know that there is no such vanilla sex. There are people that need to be "escorted" there. All you need is the right attitude and obviously a bit of charm. I would try that before adventure yourself into extra-marital relationships... Then I might be wrong.

Waty, I have been married over 30 years to the same woman. The nuns did a pretty good job on her. Over 30+ years of "escorting" has not revealed the slightest smidgen of anything but missionary sex.

Mr. M, I have driven Chrysler products since I got my license in 1964 and my Dad drove them from time time he got back from WW2.

I am not interested in establishing a real life relationship. To me the Internet, chat rooms, etc, are to my fantasies like an interactive book. And like a book they are fantasies that can be discussed with other people. Perhaps easier due to anonymity. I asked if other ladies feel as I do and and intimated perhaps in the same situation as I am. Perhaps they too might like to discuss things, swap fantasies in a cyber environment. If so, great, if all they would like to reply to my post here, that's great too.

But before someone else inadvertently misinterprets my post, I am not advertising for anything. I just wanted to generate some further discussion of our interest here and generate some responses in a like vein. My apologies to anyone that misinterpreted or, for that mater, took offense.

No offense taken by me Mr. M, just wanted to make sure no one else inadvertently misinterpreted. As too "swooning", no one ever "swooned" over my advanced...ever. So I do not expect it. But you are right, I think some posters here have expected that. And you are also right...they shouldn't expect it. Most of the ladies I met when I was active in the old chat rooms were pretty independent...even the "subs".

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I wish I had understood "give and take" early in my marriage many years ago. The wife had no interest in enemas -- her condescending attitude was "if you want to do that, fine, but not me." As though she was a superior person for not "stooping" to my level. But: she had not problem with me performing oral sex on her. She did not reciprocate for twenty-four (24) years -- and I am not convinced she learned it from her boyfriend. It would have been a very different (better) story if I had understood "give and take" as a younger man.

This is my considered opinion, for whatever it's worth. When you are in a committed relationship with someone, you have an obligation to try to meet their sexual needs, whether they mirror yours or not, otherwise they will most likely get those needs met somewhere else.

Well said. It's hard to explore one's fetishes when one thinks they are the only one that has them! Like you it was not until the advent of the internet that I found that "I was not alone". But one has to live with one's decisions in real life. But that doesn't mean that one cannot fantasize...Thankfully!

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This is my considered opinion, for whatever it's worth. When you are in a committed relationship with someone, you have an obligation to try to meet their sexual needs, whether they mirror yours or not, otherwise they will most likely get those needs met somewhere else.

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Anne-you hit the nail on the head.It may not be right but how long can a person wait for their partner to wake up and get with the program before you just give up.I tend to think it's a little selfish when you hold back on the needs that make the relationship special and not pay for it down the road when they get frustrated and look elsewhere.Leaving isn't always an option so the next step is to find what is missing outside the relationship!I don't judge someone doing that because you DON'T know what is in the mind of people forced into that kind of existance.

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Anne-you hit the nail on the head.It may not be right but how long can a person wait for their partner to wake up and get with the program before you just give up.I tend to think it's a little selfish when you hold back on the needs that make the relationship special and not pay for it down the road when they get frustrated and look elsewhere.Leaving isn't always an option so the next step is to find what is missing outside the relationship!I don't judge someone doing that because you DON'T know what is in the mind of people forced into that kind of existance.[/quote]

I generally don't hold with the idea of cheating, but when you make no effort to meet your partner's needs (sexual, emotional, etc) you are giving them a license to cheat. In my opinion.

I know what you mean.It's the responsibility of both partners to ensure that they are doing everything they can to avoid that problem.It takes work and effort.However,what happens when one partner doesn't want to try and make the effort?That's when things start going south and before you know it,the inevitable happens.Too bad the partner not even trying doesn't want to see what they are doing to the relationship.It's like a small death that can't be taken back.

It is sad but true in my case!