Anyone else alone in this interest (in other words, you like it, but your partner doesn't)?. I realize enemas, just by themselves, seem like "a kink too far", but I can't even tell if my girlfriend is that interested in anal play at all.She indulges me, and sometimes I get to rim her (which I love), and I can usually get away with fingering her ass for a minute while going down on her, but I rarely get the chance to slip more than my fingertip into her. We've never had anal sex (although I'd love to), so I doubt there will ever be a time when I get to give her an enema, either. She did ask me to buy her an enema once (sometimes she gets really constipated around the time of her period). I offered to help her with it, but she turned me down flat. I had to pretend I was joking.The weird thing is, sometimes, when it comes to anal play, she'll let me get my fingers really deep into her ass while I'm rubbing or licking her clit, and she'll have these amazing orgasms--much more intense than her usual ones (which are pretty strong), but then she says she didn't know that was where I was touching her. Can that even happen? Are there any other women here who can't tell if someone has their fingers in their ass or their pussy?Once, she had had a couple glasses of wine, and she let me slide a thin glass dildo up her butt and kind of gently fuck her ass with it while I fingered her, but after a while, she said she couldn't come (the wine got in the way), and we stopped. She said she enjoyed it and would like to do it again, but although I've asked a couple of times, she's never wanted to.I don't know whether any of that means she enjoys anal play, but is too inhibited to really go with it, or if that was just the small extent of interest she had in the subject. It's taken nearly ten years to even get to this point, so it's not like we're racing ahead with anything. Oh well. I'm happy with whatever she lets me do, but it sure would be fun to try a little more.Anyone else had this sort of experience? If you were the reluctant one, what held you back, and what helped you get over it? If you were the eager one, what did you do to get your partner interested?