I'd like your thoughts...

Hi All,

I'm quite new to this forum, but have been secretly enjoying e-fun for years. Alone, sadly, since I haven't gotten up the nerve to share this aspect of my life with anyone.

I'd like your thoughts on this:

Wouldn't you think you were with the 'right' partner if you felt you could tell her/him anything, including letting her/him in on your enema fetish?

I ask this because I'm wondering how significant this could be in determining if your partner is "the one". If that level of comfort is there, then is she/he the right one for you and, conversely, if not, is she/he not the right one?

I think with the right partner anything is possible, just have to know that perhaps if they are not into it... hoping that they may be open and willing to perhaps try... and if not.. then you have to decide yourself if.. you need the type of relationship where u can share the fetish with. Trust is huge!!!

Couldn't agree with you more, trust is everything in a relationship. And if you can't trust your partner with your innermost secrets, then who can you trust with them?

Of course, it has to be the right partner, as you both say.

My honest advice is broach the subject early. Better off to fail then than to have to deal with it by either having to abandon your desires, or abandon a longer term relationship and all the attendant misery and heartache that can entail.

Only you can know how significant it is, Brett. So, ask yourself this, can I honestly see myself giving up enemas? If you can't then I'd have to say, don't get intertwined with someone unwilling to fulfill your needs.

I began enemas about 12 years ago as a way to prepare and be clean for anal play which I enjoy but my husband just tolerates. I suggested once he administer the enema to me but he had no interest at all. Since that time I have developed my own enjoyment of them and often enjoy them just for me. I think it is probably difficult to find a match for this particular activity.

In a long term relationship, there comes a time when everything comes out.I was petrified to divulge my enema fetish to my wife for years, but when I finally did, she was great. I have a Higginson set up that she loves to give a little squeeze to because she knows what follows. The choice was to stay in the close or hope to magically find someone else who shared the interest. Everything else in the marriage was great so I took the plunge and haven't looked back. She's not a big fan of receiving, but is more than willing to give.

What i like is the insertion and the prostate heat-up, so it works for both of us. She likes the post-release benefits. It works for us, but it took a big leap to get here. Good luck.

Like everyone says trust is everything. If you can't trust your partner to the point that you can't even talk about a fetish, then in my opinion you might need to reevaluate. My lady and i have talked about a lot of fetishes and most of them we haven't tried but at least we are both open and trusting enough to talk about them openly and know that we won't judge each other no matter what either one of says. I am not saying that a relationship with a partner that doesn't share your interest in a particular fetish or participate with you is not worthy. But i feel as if you should at least be able to talk about it. Trust = Love in my opinion.

Yes, we are all not lucky enough to have a wife that likes enemas as we do. I know mine only takes one for constipation and never for fun.

I guess I am just lucky. My wife is crazy about enemas. Woo-hoo!!

I think my wife is perfect but I don't have the nerve to bring up enemas. She's pretty open, but I don't think she feels the same way. That's fine. We have incredible sex anyway. She likes to submit to me and has asked me to give her suppositories before. I'm just scared to tell her I like enemas! I really would like a female friend that understood and just wanted to play with enemas. I don't know that I could do much sexually without feeling guilty, though. Just something to fantasize about.