What do i do with a neutral reaction?

Hi all,

My problem is that i have come out to a partner in the past about my love for diapers, and his reaction was neutral. Not showing any interest nor disgust by it , has left me overwhelmed to a point that I could not stick around . I keep having conversations with him about this once in a while even tho we are 540kms apart but still i don't get a reaction. What should I do? What is your perception of this reaction ?Has anyone else had the same reaction ? If so what did you do ?

I look at it this way that if the partner cant love you for who you are than whats the point of being with the partner

I tend to agree with you baby joel but my problem is making me feel very confused. its like if a man proposes to a woman and she does not say yes or no ... wouldn't that be disturbing and in dyer need of an answer ? lol

Yes it would. but at the sametime the word marry has alot of means for it tho

My fiancee was neutral about it when i first told her... last night she came home to find me masturbating in a diaper. she was a bit shocked as she has never seen me in one before, but we went to the bedroom and she watched me finish jerking off. i asked her about it later and she said that she had been curious about how i did it and stuff, and she was glad she knows now how its done. that doesnt mean she;ll participate, but it was nice to feel like i wasnt being judged too harshly... so my point is, maybe you just have to go out on a limb and SHOW him and judge his reaction on that.

I've had largely the same reaction with my b/f... I don't have any advice though. You think or expect a strong reaction, and you plan for that. But no real reaction... that's tricky.

It's not fair to say that someone who doesn't accept this should just be dumped though. Relationships are about a lot more than just a fetish. It's an important part, true, but not everything. You need to weigh it with how important it is to you and how it compares to other aspects of your relationship.

It's the only advice I have.

c.

@ Dudect , I am contemplating doing the same thing i figure at least i will know if he is accepting or not.

@ Canucistanian , I agree that it wouldn't be fair to make or break a relationship based only on that . However the relationship has been over for a while. And he in negotiations for me to go back . lol.... I now feel like I am tired of settling and coming clean out to him with everything. If he can accept it all..there just might be a chance ,If not I am ready to move on , no hard feelings and my fetish would be just a small factor in the matter.

Now I just need to figure out how i will show him .. maybe go visit and as he does work late nights fall asleep diapered and let him find me when he gets home. Or would that be too much ?

Wow, that certainly is complicated, isn’t it?

I read that you are the one who called the time out, and he wants to get back together, as do you. If I got that right, I’d say that your DL interests are not a show stopper for him. He knows, and still wants to be with you. He could have communication issues, or it could just be bafflement. As long as he does not want to “cure you” of your interest, it may work out fine.

I think you are right that seeing as how you have DL very much “on the table”, and seeing as how you are contemplating getting back together, you should just “show him” as you put it. It could be asleep and diapered, or it could be diapered under clothes, or whatever.

These happen to be favorite turn-ons of mine, so I could be a really, really bad judge of “appropriate behavior”. But if you are going to be together and you are not going to be a closet DL, well, you gotta start somewhere.

And if he seems OK with you wearing but is still firmly neutral, as in it does not directly turn him on, well, that may be fine. My belief: sensible men love horny women. If DL play turns you on, he will pretty quickly come to appreciate that fact and be fine with it. You’ll just have to figure out if he wants you to have a quick wash before sex. I personally love the way my wife smells after being wet and diapered for a few hours, but I might find it too weird if I was not DL.

And finally, log onto http://www.b4ns.com/ and order yourself a pack of Abrena Supers from Montreal. $35 or so, instant shipping, completely confidential. You’ll love them!

@ Tomb43 and Paul_L - Thank you for your input .... It means alot .... I'm still working on getting the courage to buy some as I have no cards to buy online... He has text me today that he has went out and bought me safety pins ... so yeah he is accepting ... but still says he is not sure. As i see it its some progress, and happy about it .... I only hope he finally communicates what he feels about it . I'm begin to look forward to the visit 😉.. but any suggestions are appreciated as what i should do or how i should go about it.

Safety pins? Sounds like things are going very well, to me! Best of luck with it all.

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I'm still working on getting the courage to buy some as I have no cards to buy online... [/quote]

Yes, the first time out does take a tad of courage. My first time was "over the counter". Manged to do it without blushing or stammering, and discovered that no one really cared.

What I wanted to add is that Phillipe at B4NS is a real sweetheart. I've come to regard him as a friend. He knows part of his clientelle are recreational users, but it is not his concern.

Having no plastic does make it a challenge, though!

Quite the challenge ... but if he get comfortable with it . I might give him the money and he can use his card to order

Maybe in some way he it tell you that he has accept it by getting you safty pins

Or at least making an attempt at luring me back at the same time as trying to accept it ..well at least for a day or 2 ..lol

You need to relax, and just give him some time. If he's neutral, take that as a good sign. He's not rejecting you, and it means he's not got an opinion one way or the other. Introduce it slowly to him, and in time he will form an opinion. Right now, he likely has no associations with diapers, so they are a very neutral object to him. Sort of like if he told you that he had a fetish with... tree branches. You'd probably not understand either, and be somewhat neutral until you were more exposed to it, learning the ins and outs of it.

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You need to relax, and just give him some time. If he's neutral, take that as a good sign. He's not rejecting you, and it means he's not got an opinion one way or the other. Introduce it slowly to him, and in time he will form an opinion. Right now, he likely has no associations with diapers, so they are a very neutral object to him. Sort of like if he told you that he had a fetish with... tree branches. You'd probably not understand either, and be somewhat neutral until you were more exposed to it, learning the ins and outs of it.

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at the same time i think that either way she looks at it. it all comes down to how he truely feel and he could be neutral keep both of them happy am i right?