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My boyfriend wants me to take an enema but he wont let me give him one. Should I make it an ultimatum

No. No ultimatums. Give it some time. After he gets to know your enjoyment he may have a change of heart.

Have you ever had an enema? Do you know what to expect? If no to both questions, I suggest you start very slowly. You may be on the threshold of a brand new world you never expected. Best of luck.

I agree with everyone here. Why don't you just show him how much fun it can be?

I agree that you should give it some time. Let him see how much you enjoy it, and if he acts interested, or ever jokes about you giving him one, he may want you to "force" it upon him. Also, try making a bet with him. The stakes could be an enema, or control for the night. Either way, if he looses, he will get an enema.

Best of luck, and be sure to give it time (You receiving enemas on several occasions) before you try to give him one.

If he won't take an enema from you, yet he knows the joys of the enema bag, he's not giving enough. Just tell him you'll take yours when he takes his. And if he doesn't agree, you'll be free to meet a man who'll worship you for giving him enemas. 😃

-gary

It is...Enemas are all about "control" as a child its the control your mom or grandmother had over your bowels..As an adult its the control you have over your s/o...here is nothing at all wrong with control...Just lay back and enjoy...

Michael2

It doesn't have anything to do with being "fair."

If one of you wants the other to receive before they will receive an enema, that's fine. It doesn't have to do with fairness, it has much more to do with trust and wanting the giver to know what the receiver is experiencing.

If your boyfriend wants to give you an enema, but will not let you give him one, he may want you to trust him while he may not trust or feel comfortable receiving from you. In an S&M scenario, you might tell him to "throw you a bone" and have you give him an enema and then he could give them to you.

You both need to talk to each other. Explain your desires. You might just want to do it for the fun of it, or to incorporate the enema into other sexual activities. (I love being oralled while I hold an enema while being plugged with a double balloon rectal catheter.) Explaining that you want control over the other's bodily function for this activity is also a perfectly good reason, just make sure the pother understands it is for pleasure, not causing pain or embarrassment, unless of course, you are doing this in a BDSM scene, in which case, you probably need less of a discussion because you are both presumably more open to experimentation. It may be that one of you will just have to be the guinea pig and receive first if you are to get the ball rolling with enemas in your sexual repertoire. If both of you are amenable to enemas as long as the other goes first, just flip a coin to see who goes first.

I like what you said Switchablesusie -- my girlfriend and I have joked and giggled about giving each other enemas.. but we get kind of embarassed and never seem to get beyond the teasing. I've read a lot of view points here and found a connection to your thought about trust. We're crazy about each other and have experimented with lots of kinky play .. this is one area that sort of keeps surfacing and I'm not sure how to take it forward to the next step.

What do you think?

Shybluesman, one of you needs to fill the bag and call the other into the bathroom. As Nike says, "Just Do It!" One of you needs to kindly, but firmly take the upper hand and get the ball rolling.

If you have never bought enema equipment before, I would suggest that you get an everyday hot water bottle/douche/enema kit. They are in about every drugstore, and are very inexpensive.

If you have not received one before, I would suggest that you give yourself one at an earlier date, so that you know what it feels like, how to make it more comfortable, and which nozzle(douche or pipe) is best.

Also, when you but your equipment, you might as well buy two, just incase she would like to return the favor. When you get the kit home, you may wish to use a razor blade to smooth the ridges where the two halves of the mold came together. The edges left behind can be sharp and sometimes painful when inserted into the delicate rectum.

Good luck, and let us know how it turns out.

Should you make it an ultimatium? as a guy who feels pretty much the same as your boyfriend, i would say that is up to you as far as what you want to happen. if you insist on being able to give him one either before or after you recieve one, he may just drop it and not bring it up again. kind of like anal sex, his not wanting it to happen to himself may stop him from trying on you.

however he will still want to. if you are ok with letting him, then let him. be aware that he will want to repeat it many times in the furture unless it ends badly. like expelling all over his side of the bed. and even then he may want to try it again.

it is sticking something into you at the most basic, he may never get over it. but you may get him to stop asking by insisting he go first.

i wish you both the best and being who i am, please post detailed reports if you do decide to let him give you one. and ask him to post one also

I would say no to the ultimatum, just let him see how much you enjoy it and perhaps get to read a little on the subject. There are many good erotic stories that may catch his interest.