Creeping incontinence

So, I kinda wanted to introduce myself, but also maybe get some input if anyone has a similar condition, or has any insight. My problems started when I was beat severely with a golf club, and left me bleeding from the penis and/or bladder pretty severely. That happened about 7 years ago in my early 20's. I then had a stricture for years, which caused me to strain, and get many UTI's. I eventually had the stricture stretched out, but somewhere in between, the doctors think I developed bladder-sphincter dyssynergia. Basically, my sphincter seizes up most of the time, with the same effects as a really bad stricture. All this obstruction, for some 7 years has had a negative effect on my bladder, to the point I literally have to piss 20-40 times a day, with extreme urgency, and very weak flow. It's also causing some kidney pain, due to reflux. I've been prescribed diapers and an alpha-blocker (yay V.A.), which helps some, but I still wear diapers all the time because I never know when my bladder is going to spasm (actually it's about every 10-30 minutes). I also believe the size of my bladder has become quite small, as I'm incapable of holding much urine, and passing/holding urine usually causes me quite a bit of pain.

Naturally I've researched the subject of dyssynergia a great deal, and one of the things I'm considering is getting a stent to prop my external sphincter open, so I can get off the alpha-blocker (because they drain my energy and make me light headed most of the day). I don't know of any other treatment short of a sphincterectomy to alleviate. This would make me void by reflex however, but I guess it would be better than the spasms, dribbling and reflux I experience now. Look forward to any thoughts or comments.

A troubling story, AccidentProne. I have urge incontinence, so my experiences are very different and hardly applicable. I have thought about a sphincter stent to eliminate flooding, which causes leaks unless I am very careful. But I do not want surgery and no longer trust the medical profession, so did not even discuss with my (ex) urologist. I was never on an alpha blocker, but I did have way too many bad experiences with drugs - ineffectiveness and unacceptable side effects. I can only recommend getting several opinions from qualified and well-recommended doctors.

I to have an incontinence problem....started a couple of yrs ago....after several UTI's, and a few trips to the urologist. my bladder is small and I am a large person (275 lbs) so I wear incontinence pads or disposable diapers , especally when going our for a hour or more....one other problem is an enlarged prostate, but thankfully no cancer.....

I aslo suffer from urge inco , been about four or five years now for me. I had undiagnosed diabetes type2 that did some nerve damage to some nerves down there. plus the frequent urination from diabetes was horrible for me. I was peeing about every half hour to a hour and there was no warning except when it was ready to go. I still use diapers at night because when i am awake i can control my urges better but when asleep its who knows what for me. Somedays are dry wake ups others are soaked to the max diapers. So your all in company here i understand and feel your pain. If anyone has questions please feel free to contact me here and i will help as much as possible or just lend a ear when things are bad for ya.

Accident prone i hope those scum bags who beat you get there comeuppance soon and have a poor quality of life sorry to hear about what happened im inconntinent 24/7 due to nerve back dammage and it gets me down but for somebody to self inflict harm that would piss me right off