If you post regularly in the forums, you can earn the privilege of using the chat feature to talk with others in the chat room. You can also send private messages to other members in chat and also send and receive personal messages. The forums are a wonderful way to meet and talk with others and share your knowledge, learn new things and share your experiences with others.
Best and safest, I agree. Safety is one of the reasons I love coming to Zity and have no need of venturing off to other sites. Zity is my go-to for enemas and other fun indoor sports. I know I can come here and not have to worry about what trojan, virus, worm, adware or spyware is picked up by my computer. Zity is the most trustworthy site I've ever found and it's the only one I recommend to others. I have an account on fetlife but in it, I tell everyone to come to Zity instead. I doubt the folks at fetlife like that but I'm biased. I just love Zity. And hats off to the man who runs the place and to his hard-working moderators for keeping the place decent and fun and free of flamers and malcontents whose sole purpose is to cause turmoil and distress and to leave destruction and chaos in their wake.
I quite agree. Members of Zity are so genuine, friendly and real. So many are people I would love to have visit for a chat over coffee or tea or over for pizza and beer (soda for me) on weekends to just relax, watch movies and kick it with. Still others, I'd love to have in my bed for any number of amusements. There aren't as many lurkers or hngs here pestering us ladies but if we ever encounter such a person, we can count on someone to stop that kind of attention. Whether it be a moderator or one of the fine gentlemen or one of the ladies of the group who stand up for each other.
I understand your frustration, Ralpht. I was away for at least a year and in that time, the points system was established. Or it may have already been in place and I just didn't know. I'm naturally a chatty person so I rarely have to worry about earning enough credits for extracurricular fun. It does seem like there is a lot of repetition in the forums but it's only natural. People do a brief scan to see if their topic is current and if not, they create their own - not knowing it was already discussed months or years ago. Sometimes, they just want to feel validated and have others say "Me too." Other times, it's a question they have on their mind and don't know it's been asked and answered numerous times before. In that case, it's best to reply if someone genuinely needs information and advice. But it can be a bit tedious to see the same old topics repeated and like you, I'm thinking, "Again? Didn't we already talk about this?" The solution to that is to start a new topic about what is on your mind at the moment and what you'd like to focus on for a while. If there are any questions you have, experiences you'd like to share or stories you've written or anything else you'd like to contribute, please feel free to always start a new topic to get the ball rolling. We're all more than happy to hear what you have to say and add our own thoughts.
~ Dianne