Experimentation With The Same Gender

While perusing erotic stories today, I saw quite a few that mentioned early experiences with someone of the same gender. It's often mentioned that boys masturbate in front of each other or with each other, but I don't know of anyone who has.

My childhood playmate and I would occasionally look at and touch each other's chests, but there was nothing there was really nothing there to touch at the time. Other than a game of spin-the-bottle during an preteen all-girl slumber party, I never saw any kind of experimentation take place. Nothing too exciting happened during the slumber party. A few girls took off their panties, but they had nightgowns on. And we all stood in line in the bathroom together and took turns peeing so we wouldn't wake the parents by running in and out of the bathroom all night.

I knew nothing of same sex play while I was in elementary school. In middle school, two girls were rumored to be lesbians and were outsiders from the rest of us. No one wanted to be accused of being the same, so no one talked with them or played with them. In high school, it was the same kind of treatment, only different girls. It wasn't true, but we all thought it was. All of the accused girls were big-boned or BBW and rather butch, which at the time, were the only "clues" we had.

I was bi-curious in college, but didn't sleep with a woman until I was 23. I was at a party once and there was a lesbian there who wanted to kiss me. I wanted to kiss her, but was nervous as hell. It didn't help that everyone in the house stopped talking and stared at us. It was way too much pressure. I remember the blood pounding in my head and the feeling of taboo keeping me from leaning in to her. She flipped out when I didn't kiss her and call me a tease and basically ripped me a new one. She was a bit psycho. I seem to attract crazy women.

My first time with a woman was amazing, as was every time thereafter. I've had some incredible times making love to women and although I haven't been with one in several years now, I still consider myself bisexual. If I had to pick a sexuality to claim, I'd have to say straight because there is just no substitute for a man and the way a masculine lover can make me feel. But I will always hunger for the taste, the feel, the sounds, the sights and smells of another woman. There's nothing in this world quite like them.

So have you experimented with people of the same gender as yourself? What did you do? Was it a positive or negative experience? Do you still play with people the same gender as yourself? If you haven't played, do you wish you could or are you curious about it? Do you ever dream or fantasize about it? If you do, how do those dreams and fantasies make you feel?

I remember when I was very young, perhaps 5 or 6 years old, my neighbor and I showed each other our 'equipment'. I think it was just an innocent curiosity thing at that point but one I really didn't get over. Also, once when I was young I remember a couple neighborhood girls taking me into the woods but I don't remember much more about that experience.

When the hormones kicked in, I remember being as interested in girls as any of the other boys but I was also interested in boys. I guess I just felt more natural around them. I experimented with a friend but it didn't go all the way... In some ways my life may have been easier if it had.

It wasn't until I was in my late twenties that I experienced sex with a man or a woman. I enjoyed both but really preferred men. I just happened to be in the military at the time and that was a BIG no no.

I still consider myself to be bisexual and wouldn't turn down an opportunity with either sex. There are good things to be said about both but I think it is easier to find men who are interested in sex than women.

My situation is somewhat similar to egirlky's. I have had a couple of bi-sexual encounters and consider myself to be bi, but the chance to be with another man hasn't really presented itself for quite a while. I really enjoy both women and men, but if I had to choose between the two, I would have to say women.

My brother and I experimented with each other when he was in his early teens. I also experimented with one of my girl cousins we would play house and I would be the bf/husband and we would experiment with each other.

When I was 14 I had my first experience with my girlfriend next door I was pretty naive about sex at that time, she showed me a lot of things and I really enjoyed myself. The only thing was that a year later she moved away to California where I never saw her again. After that I never engaged in sex with a female again, I kind of retreated into the closet I guess because I was afraid of being rejected if I approached another girl again. 😢

When I was 14 I had my first experience with my girlfriend next door I was pretty naive about sex at that time, she showed me a lot of things and I really enjoyed myself. The only thing was that a year later she moved away to California where I never saw her again. After that I never engaged in sex with a female again, I kind of retreated into the closet I guess because I was afraid of being rejected if I approached another girl again. 😢

Since you are presently in a relationship presumably with a man, and it is OK with him for you to play with a woman, what's the big deal if you get rejected by a woman? You still have your relationship. Rejection is only bad if you lose your relationship.

. Rejection is only bad if you lose your relationship.

It depends on a person's character. For some people, rejection is no big deal, almost the same as shrugging off if what you ordered is out of stock or unavailable. For other people, usually those with less of an ego, rejection can be a hard personal blow causing all kinds of feelings of inadequacy or insecurity. It can be emotionally painful.

These days, everyone is supposed to be full of grit, full of a can-do spirit, never give up attitudes and all that nonsense so integral to national social myths. But in spite of what society expects of people, many people are just not like that. They may in fact adhere more to ideas like 'once bitten, twice shy' or concepts like that.

Kid, rejection is a perfectly normal feeling for what you described . It's not easy to engage in things that society considers taboo. I'm sorry you felt that way and it caused you to retreat . It seems you've found what you've been looking for in mike and I am very happy for you 😃

submissivlee

It depends on a person's character. For some people, rejection is no big deal, almost the same as shrugging off if what you ordered is out of stock or unavailable. . . . .

I know I'm tough, and yes, as agracier alluded, I would be about as disappointed as if a store told me an item I wanted was out of stock.

So, if you are in a relationship and you want some extra-curricular activity, what's the big deal if someone says, "no?"

Would you feel rejected if you invited someone to play a set of tennis and they declined?

This is the same thing. Move on, ask someone else. You will find someone who interests you.

My first time with another female was so sensuous that I found it was something I could enjoy, as up to then I had never considered it. So you never know what life has around the corner.

My first time with the same gender was my senior year. That was my first intimate experience actually. It was amazing and beautiful! Women really are gorgeous. I love our curves! I love our womanhood!