How to introduce loving wife to enemas.

Hello there,

I have a loving wife who accepts my enjoyment of enemas but has no interest in participating. She seems afraid of experimenting with anything new. She even has a fear of performing oral sex, but loves it when I perform it on her. She has said that she can't believe how I am capable of doing that but absolutely loves it.

She has bad memories of having to give enemas to her dying husband. I understand it was a mess, as he was bedridden. We've been married three years, and a couple of times I thought she was going to relent, but to no avail. She doesn't know what she is missing. I would love to share this with her.

She doesn't realize that I need to share giving and receiving with someone. Going solo is okay, but enemas would be so much better if shared.

Any tips or suggestions? I'm afraid of pushing too hard so as to avoid a confrontation. I love her dearly, but I don't want to fall on the old line: "If you love me you'd do this." I want her to enjoy participating. Please help if you can.

Thanks.

I have been married with my wife for 35 years, when we were dating I introduced her to it because I worked at a Hospital, and explained to her the importance of a clean colon. She agreed, later in our life she shied away.

I have recently told her that I would find a women who gives massages and enemas, and she agreed as long as I participated. All you have to do is ask a neighbor, friends. You will be surprised who will jump at the thought and assist. I even had my mother-in-law give me a couple, and I gave in turn. She loved it. Not a pervert, just enjoy enema giving and receiving. Let me know if she will agree with it. I know it will work if she has a close friend to ask.

My wife was always a less than willing administrator of enemas to me and would always perform oral sex while I was waiting to expel. But, try as I did I could not convince her to try receiving a enema. Only story she would relate was when she was young and her stepmom and older sister tried to geve her one. She kicked and screamed and they finally gave up. Now, any ideas how to proceed ? ? ? ?

I strongly suspect that many women would be far more willing to do enemas if the foundation of the relationship were better. So, the degree that guys listen, seem attentive, and are willing to be responsive will probably have more sway over their interest in enemas than any technique.

Of course, technique helps too!

My wife will give herself an enema when she feels like she needs to be clean. However, I have only once administered one to her. She worries to much about embarassment. I do them all the time and she is fine with that but she wants her privacey. I am fortunate in the fact that she likes to try different solutions it just has to be alone. I can say that it has taken several years for her to come this far so don't get impatient she will come around.

PJ

I really think that women in general don't like sharing what they call "private" moments with ohers. She looks at enemas as a healthy thing rather than getting anything erotic from them. Now who can say that she doesn't privately enjoy it?

P

My 1st wife relented after a year of marriage and let me give her an enema. She was always having trouble going to the bathroom but when I suggested an enema she would get scared and say no. She did use laxatives however and I came across an article that said they were bad for you. When she read this her position changed on the whole enema subject. The next time she got stopped up she told me she was and thought she needed a little help. I suggested that she let me give her.... her very 1st enema. She said OK but asked me to go slow and explain what I was doing. During this enema she cried a little with the cramps but once she got on the toilet and expelled she couldn't believe how easy it really had been. From then on she would just tell me when she was backed up, about twice a month, and I would give the enema. After a while I would just ask her if she needed an enema before she got backed up and she would agree and since she was feeling OK it very often resulted in good sex after the enema. She realized towards the end of our marriage that I was into the giving part and she would let me give her one at the slighest hint of her not feeling well or upset tummy...just for whatever because she knew I like giving her enemas.After three years of marriage we split up...but she took the enema bag with her!!!! I saw her some years later at a social gathering and we sat and talked for well over an hour. During our conversation she mentioned that she had learned to take care of certain issues herself. I asked did she still have the equipment and she smiled and said yes the original equipment was still in use.

My wifie pooh, bless her heart, would have me hauled off to a shrink in no time. If I even mention anything anal, the doors slam shut, the place get eerily quiet, and her wheels start turning. I've been trying to come up with some sort of way of telling her, but am scared enemaless! hee hee

My sweet, warm, loving, passionate wife doesn't like enemas... She hates the idea of submitting to an enema so much that sometimes I think she would rather have anal sex with a gorilla...but omg! how she can really put me through my paces when she dresses me like a sissy for a feminizing enema... 😮

Sometimes a opening is provided by a medical need. This could serve as a ontroduction but makes no guarantee that one will enjoy the activities.

If you try the Fleet route, I would replace the irritating chemical mix with warm water... I read too many stories on these boards about people who feel ill from the effects of a Fleet.

Warren

"sneaking" one while she's asleep sounds not only difficult but a really bad idea with a very small chance of success unless she's already into the scene. My wife will take one for gas or constipation but unfortunately has bad memories from forced enemas by the doc when she was a kid and just can't get into the sensual aspects. Darn doc!

I just kept talking to her about the subject of enemas.Then one day she was constipated and i talked her into leting me give her an enema to help her out.She let me and iwas very Gentle and loving towards her.That was the start of our enemas!

Lord knows I've tried. It's not going to happen, though. The good thing is that she still gives, once in a while. I just can't get too eager or too often.

I share your dilemma. I think just keep enjoying on your own and loving her. Don't push

Hello there,

I have a loving wife who accepts my enjoyment of enemas but has no interest in participating. She seems afraid of experimenting with anything new. She even has a fear of performing oral sex but loves it when I perform it on her. She has said that she can't believe how I am capable of doing that but absolutely loves it.

She has bad memories of having to give enemas to her dying husband. I understand it was a mess as he was bedridden. We've been married three years and a couple of times I thought she was going to relent but to no avail. She doesn't know what she is missing. I would love to share this with her. She doesn't realize that I need to share giving and receiving with someone. Going solo is okay but enemas would be so much better if shared. Any tips or suggestions? I'm afraid of pushing too hard so as to avoid a confrontation. I love her dearly but I don't want to fall on the old line; "If you love me you'd do this". I want her to enjoy participating. Please help if you can.

Thanks.

It's all about talking. But mostly it's about listening. And taking risks.

The risk is exposing yourself to possible rejection and/or criticism.

That's the worst part.

While everyone is different, the typical process of asking for something, be it an enema or a glass of water is to consider the other person's situation at the time.

For this more sensitive topic, I suggest setting down in a neutral place with the idea of talking for a short specified period of time, say 15 minutes maximum.

Explain to your significant other that this is a sensitive and serious request, and ask that she frequently give you feedback on what you are saying to make sure that she understands what you are saying.

Then tell her about your feelings. Why this is so important to you. The excitement it provides, the pleasure, whatever. Make sure she fully understands.

Then ask her to share her feelings about the subject. Gently ask her to explain her feelings.

Talk about how doing new things, things that may seem forbidden or strange can be either exciting or scary.

Discuss the taboos associated with enemas, with bowel movements, with toileting.

And then maybe introduce the fact that the anus and rectum share the same innervation as the genitals, that the anus and rectum muscles contract during orgasm, and that anal exploration can be very pleasurable.

But this talk comes wayyyyyy after you first discuss hesitations and concerns etc.

And of course, unlike the stories, which are all aimed at fantasy excitements, remind her that this course will be taken very slowly with her leading the way. And make sure that both she and you are very clear on the safe word that means everything comes to a complete stop.

Good luck!

Larry

This is a subject that has had me perplexed for quite some time. I have always had a great love of enemas, but my wife of 3 yrs has shown no interest at all when I have hinted. There are some good postings here regarding persuading her to try them. I like the idea of telling her that anal sex would be cleaner and more comfortable. I also like the idea of "making it worth her while". I'm going to try these very soon. I will keep you all posted.

Sneaking an enema into a girl when she is asleep? Please dont even think of going that route. After she kills you I imagine the skinning knife would come out...

Seriously though I found that telling girls that they will feel much better for a good clean out works wonders. And always so far has resulted in pretty bottys with a slippy finger deep in there lubing and exciting them.

Shen

I agree with Viper! Just because I like an enema every week or so, I should not expect my wife to do the same. She likes to watch Oprah on TV I in turn do not. She likes to read steamy romance novels I would rather read the news paper.

If you enjoy your enemas you should have fun doing them. Should your better half not, then don’t expect them to participate just because you want them to. Too much pressure to do something can give someone a very bad feeling.

If your wife (or other) doesn’t like receiving an enema ask them to help you with yours. If they say no then drop the subject and leave it be. If they should say they will help you then ask them to so something simple. Most of us here started off simple, not too many got up one day and said “think I will go shove a few quarts of water up my ass”.

We all are different in some way. Respect is something we all can agree on.

The problem is most of you guys just waited too long to tell your lady about the subject of enemas.I also noticed that those of you who married a second time had better luck.The reason you had better luck was because you waisted little time with your new wife or girlfriend to talk about enemas.

Sometimes you just can't tell weather your spouse will reject or except your love of enemas.

I was married ten years before I told my wife about my enemas.Are you ready for this, She said to me,''WHY DID YOU WAITE SO LONG TO TELL ME''.IT was all up hill from there,We could not get enough enemas while making love.

The point I am making is to tell your girlfriend or wife to be about your love of enemas before deciding to marry her.

I had a bag when we first got married but eventually got rid of it. She knew I liked taking them but she doesn't really know how much of a turn on they are since she isn't in to it at all; I did tell her how much of a turn on it would be to get one from her but that was never on the table. Got a butt plug this week and told her about it which she is fine with but not really into it. I told her I got an enema bulb with it to make myself clean before using the plug. It arrived last night and I used the bulb and it was cumbersome and didn't give a good fill. This morning I bought a four quart bag off Amazon which will be arriving on Monday. I will be telling my wife I ordered a bag so I will be having that conversation again. I know her response she doesn't care and won't be into it but I want to be upfront with her about having it. I look forward to many enema adventures ahead with my open top four quart bag!!!

I suppose that it will be difficult to introduce loving wife to enemas. Most women are constipated and all these ones have to live with this fact: one part will insert laxative suppositories in the anus, another part will swallow laxatives and all these women will be able to achieve a bowel movement at the right time. Why should they take enemas?

Most women are constipated and all these ones have to live with this fact: one part will insert laxative suppositories in the anus, another part will swallow laxatives and all these women will be able to achieve a bowel movement at the right time. Why should they take enemas?

Yes, why should women, or anyone, use enemas for constipation with other less invasive methods for relieving the problem. Enemas are not everyone's “thing”. They definitely do not hit the right sexual buttons for me.

Yes, why should women, or anyone, use enemas for constipation with other less invasive methods for relieving the problem. Enemas are not everyone's “thing”. They definitely do not hit the right sexual buttons for me.

So in India women will swallow regularly an adequate dosage castor oil:

(11.08.2017) Times of India (1)

https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/health-fitness/diet/health-benefits-of-castor-oil/articleshow/40063531.cms

(19.02.2019) Times of India (2)

https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/beauty/go-for-a-castor-oil-detox-flush/articleshow/68063661.cms

(19.08.2019) Times of India (3)

https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/health-fitness/home-remedies/castor-oil-a-common-cure/articleshow/49115326.cms

This is a reverse scenario. My wife had been taking regular enemas since before we were married. For the longest time I didn't want anything to do with it, but if she needed and enjoyed the process, so be it. We weren't married that long when I got sick and the meds that the doctor put me on made me unbelievably bound up. On my own I tried a couple of laxatives but nothing seemed to work in the slightest. In desperation I admitted my problem to my wife who insisted that only one thing would work. After some discussion and a lot of persuasion she gave me a warm soapy enema that in all honesty worked like magic. At that point I hadn't had an enema since my mom had given me one nearly 12 years before.

What’s wrong with being honest with her and saying ‘I really enjoy these sexually and want you to give me one’?

If she says no, you know where you stand.

What @Nurse_Phillips said. Grow a pair and talk with your wife. Stop beating around the bush and speak your mind. The worst that can happen is that she'll say, “No.” If that will destroy your ego, perhaps it is time to reevaluate the relationship and move on.

On the other hand, based on the original post, there has already been some discussion and her negative feelings are already known. To keep pressing for what you want and ignoring what she has already let you know she does not want is just selfish, and does not make for a good relationship.

It's been 15 years since the original post but I do love zombie threads. 😁

So I ordered a 4 quart bag from Amazon this morning and knew the package was coming on Monday so it gave me a good opportunity to have a conversation. I told my wife that I ordered a bag and explained that I was coming to terms that I really enjoy the pleasure of enemas. She asked how often I would be doing them and I told her not all the time but on occasions. I don’t need them for constipation or anything I just very much enjoy the feeling I said. I told her I was coming to terms with it and was letting go of embarrassment and shame. It wasn’t something I was going to talk to with everyone but I didn’t want to hide it from her and wanted to be open about it. We talked a little more about her disinterest in butt stuff which is a result from having hemorrhoids and just feeling like her butt hole isn’t very attractive. She said she felt if that wasn’t the case maybe it would be something she would be more open to. It actually led to quite a few good conversations that we had. Grateful I did it for sure and got a 4 quart bag on the way!

Appreciative also for all the support I feel from the people here.

Hi! I am in the same position. I want to give my wife enema but she refuses. She says it is ok that I am doing but she is not into them. I also tried one time to convince my wife into taking an enema during sex. I did it - with balloon nozzle in me, 1.5 l warm water and rubber sheet under us. It felt really good. But still, I hope one day she will say ‘’let''s try on me''.

I found a sex manual that included a paragraph on enemas. After the initial gross comment, I knew it would be an educational voyage. Next we're the "constipation " enemas, and then anal play and now enemas when I ask. We never get to the "time for an enema" phase or I need one phase but it will be fun trying.