Physicals with siblings

I have three older sisters and we often had back to back appointments for the 4 of us to get school physicals, allergy appointments, etc. It would be us four girls plus my mom in the room as they went through each of us one at a time....height for each of us, followed by weight for each of us, then the eye test, etc.... we would all get a specific part of the exam before moving on to the next part. My oldest sister is 10 years older than I am, so by the time I was 4 or 5, she was getting to be more of a woman than a girl, but it still happened as above. I don't recall ever seeing a breast exam or pelvic exam or anything else like that on her - just the benign stuff like I already mentioned. The only untoward thing I recall was that we all got allergy shots regularly (I'm recalling it as weekly, but I'm not really 100% sure on that frequency). Anyway, my 2nd oldest sister who is 8 years older than me didn't like to get hers in her arm, so she always got them in her bum. We went to Catholic school and had to wear skirts, so I recall her lifting up her skirt and pulling her underwear to the side to allow for the injection right in the meat of her glute.

It sure does seem that many of us share a common experience, namely, that our parents didn't give much notice in advance and many of us wondered if shots were to be part of an exam. For some, it seems that sibs shared concerns while others may have avoided the conversation. Some remained in the exam room while others awaited his or her turn. In my view that was more anxiety provoking than going in together with my sister. I think these experiences certainly influence present day expectations or fantasies, and likely both. I wonder how many of us have similarly repeated the very matter of fact pronouncement of an exam with our own family members today. I tend to think we are very much the same but who knows........comments might help us understand it more.

Thanks.....have enjoyed reading all of this.

Interesting, if you search on vine.co there are a ton of siblings taking snipets of eachother's exams. Seems like 2 at once in the room for a basic checkup of sports physical is quite the thing.

@feelthebelly

What did you search for? I tried and didn't find anything.

It varied whether my brother and I got any notice about yearly physicals, but we always had them at the end of May or beginning of June, so you knew when it got to be close to then, that we were gonna be off to the doc's after school. The years I knew about it, I would drive myself crazy with anticipation of going to the doc's that afternoon after school, knowing what was going to happen and wondering if anything new that I hadn't ever had was going to happen. It made for a hard school day, if you can imagine. (Pun intended.)

It is so interesting to learn how these experiences continue to influence our feelings today! The anticipation of going for my exam has only enriched over time but the basic feeling of vulnerability remains the same. For me, it's knowing that for the time spent in the exam room, I will be more submissive, if that's the proper term, while the doctor and/or nurse goes about their business. The feeling of my skin exposed to the air or touching the exam table paper is so unique and triggers all sorts of associations from childhood til now. That crinkling sound is one of a kind! Even now when talking to my sister about her life and the pace of dealing with family and work, the mention of an exam coming up brings me back to when mom would tell us last minute that we had a doctor's visit.

Thanks for listening and sharing.

I honestly don't remember ever having an exam at the office with a sibling If I did, it would have been my little sister, because there was a huge age gap between me and my older siblings. (6 years between me and my next oldest brother, where I was only a year older than my little sister.) Perhaps when I was very young. I remember waiting in the waiting room when she was in the office with Mom and vice versa.

Our exams were usually school related, and took place about half passed August. We never discussed anything before or afterwards.. Mom said we were going, reminded us to do exactly as the doctor and/or nurse said, and don't make a fuss.

The only time I can remember being examined with any of the family, other than Mom, may have been around was once when my pediatrician made a house call. (They did that in the '60s still, and he was an old fashioned doc)

I think it was when I had the chicken pox, or maybe the mumps, so we are talking age 6 to 8 or so.

In our kitchen, we had a counter (or bar) that separated the cooking area from the "breakfast nook." (It actually was classified as a half room back then) I remember sitting on the bar in my underwear and him examining me. I know I was feverish, so I don't really know if any of my siblings were there or not. I remember him examining me, and seem to remember getting a shot in the butt. I know I spent the next week or so in bed. I also know I didn't complain. If Mom said "Do this" you just did. There was no discussion, debate, or backtalk.

As I think back on it, it must have been the chicken pox because he also examined my sister, and we both convalesced in Mom's bed. I don't remember watching her exam, or if she watched mine.

Not a sibling but a slightly younger female cousin who had a crush on me. As she was more overtly afraid of injections than I appeared (albeit falsely) to be, it was decided that I should take her with me at "shot time". I hopefully looked forward to seeing her getting one or more shots in the bottom the way I normally got mine but was horrified to learn that the object of the exercise was for her to see me "bravely" get one back there and I had to suffer the humiliation of bending over the receptionist's lap to be injected in my vulnerable bare bottom with my cousin present.

My kids are both boys, and have often been examined together. They don't mind at all.

As an only child my mom and dad were the only ones in the room with me.

Made up for that with the group physicals at school being examined with some of my friends.

There was no discussion. My younger brother and I went to the doctor for our annual exams together until I moved up to my parents' internist. We both got into our briefs and were examined one at a time from start to finish.

My brother, two years older than I, were examined together until I was 15.

I don't remember watching him get examined, but we were both in there.

My brother and I were always examined up until age 11 or so. Don't remember "watching"...but we were always in the room together.

We are nearly 30 but when I am back home I still go with my step sister for our annual checkups

Mellow,

What emotions do you experience as both voyeur and exhibitionist during your shared exams? Are you compelled by a sense of curiousity? Do you ever feel embarrassed or aroused? Have you ever discussed the exam with your step sister?

Hi sensei1980

To be honest we do not feel anything other than a mutual bond when we go. She has been a naturist all her life like her family, I have been one since I was 15. We walk around the house naked and saw going to the exam as an extension.

Pauline is my step mother

Over here apart from hearing the results of tests I have had, when I have visited and been examined in our "high street" physicians I have always had to undress from the start so nudity in an exam was quite normal and not voyeuristic.

It wasn't my sibling but my cousin came to live with us when his parents were having troubles. When it came time for my regular physical, mom scheduled him at the same time. He was 9 and I was 12. I was used the drill when the nurse told us to get undressed but he was not. So he was very nervous about sitting there in just his underwear. My mom helped him along getting undressed. I noticed his big grin when the nurse told me to pull down my boxers and bend over to get my temperature. The grin disappeared when I pulled my undies and the nurse said, "all right, your next son, underwear down and bend over just like your cousin." We shared a room and had seen each other changing so the difference here was the context, especially seeing the doctor examine my maturing genitals. He was a bit indignant that he had to get a shot that I had already had. I myself found it a bit exciting to see him laying naked on the exam table as the doctor examined him. I liked boys and tried to be discrete about looking but it was fun.

That sucks man. Unfortanitally, there is a double standard in a lot of doctor’s offices. Its not even that your mom was there for your exam but that your sis was there too and then you had to leave. I said this in another topic but its like they think that boys don’t care about getting examined infront of people but girls do. No one wants to have their genitals examined. They should have made your sis leave for your exam or let you stay for her exam. The only thing I can think of is if you were not as developed as she was. Did you ever have this happen again?

My older sister was present at my physicals until I was 13 or 14. Like every exam, I strIpped to my “tighty whities” and then waited for the doctor on the exam table. Both my mom and sister sat in the chairs at the end of the table. I guess puberty made me really anxious an dreading the moment when my doctor would expose my genitals in view of mom and sister.

I”ll never forget what came next, (first time) as I walked across the room he stopped me and then pulled my underwear down to the floor. It seemed like it took forever standing naked as my doctor looked/moved my penis, retracting my foreskin a few times, scrotum and palpated my balls. Then the old phrase “ok, turn and cough” for the hernia exam. So, as I got dressed my my doctor and mom discussed my health in general plus how my genitals were developing with my sister present. Before he started my sister’s exam, like every year I was asked to leave an wait in the other room.

Note: My doctor didn’t believe In protecting a boy’s modesty. I had friends that had physicals in front both older & younger sister. Then and now, I wish he had turned in a direction that my sister didn’t get a “full-frontal” view of me.

Note: My doctor didn’t believe In protecting a boy’s modesty. . Then and now, I wish he had turned in a direction that my sister didn’t get a “full-frontal” view of me.

I've read so many accounts of this, that you'd be forgiven in thinking that some doctors did it on purpose. To what specific purpose I couldn't really say of course. Was it from a sense of mischief, thinking it fun to embarrass their young male patients, was it to 'toughen them up' into getting used to nudity, was it even a way to 'prepare' young girls for the sight of male genitals?

Somehow I just can't chalk all the accounts up to not caring or callousness. Surely those docs must have known about the embarrassment they were inflicting. They couldn't have all been that stupid.

Now mind you, I don't think it that much of a problem having to be naked in front of others. But then there should be reciprocity. Boy naked in front of sister, then sister should be examined naked in front of brother.

In fact, now that I think about it, just the fact of that double standard shows doctors were very well aware of embarrassment on the part of their patients. So there must have been a reason they more or less deliberately examined the boys naked with family present.

Not a sibling but I once took my female cousin for a booster shot. I hoped to see her injected in her bottom but the shot was for me and she stayed in the room to watch me pull everything down and bend over to get it. Very embarrassing!

Not a sibling but I once took my female cousin for a booster shot.

Hello jabbotuk,

How old were you ? How old was your cousin ? Did she see your front part ?

A additional comment: I didn’t believe my doctor deliberately tried to embarrass me in front of my sister. His conduct probably was a combination of his military background and training as a doctor. But at the same time, I believe there was a “tough him up attitude” by being naked in front of others either in locker rooms, showers, college, military and females. He knew my family conservative values and repeated each other’s privacy conflicted with some of his views.

To me there must have been another way to conduct the exam instead of embarrassing me. Example: If he noticed a genital issue or it’s time for the stand up for the genital/ hernia exam. Due to the nature of the exam, not really knowing what the doctor going to do getting embarrassed or nervous when your underwear is pulled down and exposed. I would think having face in another direction with my back to my family. Another option: curtain or movable privacy screen.

My older sister was present at my physicals until I was 13 or 14. I guess puberty made me really anxious an dreading the moment when my doctor would expose my genitals in view of mom and sister

Having your mother and sister witness your genital and hernia exam with ability to see your genitalia was terrible but even having them in the room to know what you went through would have been bad

I must be one of the very few where I would say there was no double standard; my sister saw me examined I also saw her exam but when entered toward teen years was separate for both.

Hello jabbotuk,

How old were you ? How old was your cousin ? Did she see your front part ?

I was about 13 and she a year or so younger. She looked away when I pulled down my trousers and pants, so didn't see my frontal nude. After bending over, I couldn't see her but presumed she watched my bare bottom get the shot.

I went with my sister (so no cross-gender stuff) until I was about 12-13 years old. She was younger, so I always went first for a checkup or whatever... wasn’t a huge deal, given the point at which my parents started having us go in separately.

We didn't have regular exams when I was a kid, but I remember going with my mum and sister to the Dr's when my sister had some issue once. I would have been about 10 years old and she would have been about 8. I stayed in the room while the Dr got my sister to take her underwear off and lie in the frog leg position. He didn't touch her as far as I can remember, but he stared at her for a long time. I remember my mum commenting on it when we got home and she told my dad about the visit. She insinuated that the Dr was looking for longer than he needed too, like he enjoyed it or something.

I had to attend a series of exams aged between 14 and 16. At the first of them my mother collected my brother ( 2 years younger than me ) and I from school and took me to the appointment. We all went in together and my brother sat quietly at the back of the room reading a comic until he heard the doctor say to me " Slip off your underpants, Andrew, and come and stand over here" at which point I saw him look up and start to pay attention.

After that first time my mother took me on my own, unless she was unavailable in which case my sister ( 4 years older than me ) would take me.