Broaching the subject

Today at work a long time friend and I were discussing drinking and such. I brought up the subject of injesting alcohol the back way by mentioning the guy that died as a result of a sherry enema administered by his wife. You'd have thought I just tried to stick his feet in a fire. No way I would ever stick anything up my ass. That's only one way, out! I'd never let my wife do anything like that to me. Why, that's gay! Needless to say, I didn't have anything else to say to that. Made me feel depressed the whole rest of the day. Are "we" that enjoy the anal pleasures of enema, that strange? I have read other members here describe their use of enemas as a curse. Sure felt that way to me today.

My co-workers are the same way so I just don't say anything or if someone brings a subject up about a joke or something they heard,I just laugh and play along.I live in a rural community that would make me the butt of the gossip pages!I don't need that!

Diamond;Were you depressed because your friend did not approve of enemas?You have to realize some people will and some do not enjoy them ,but the main thing is YOU enjoy.

Let the good times FLOW.w/m73yrs/Western Ma

Twobagger,

Hi, I guess I was depressed because I allow what others, (especially my wife) to color what I think about myself. If I didn't already have a love/hate relationship with the bag I guess I wouldn't have this problem. This makes me feel like I have to live with this in a "closet". Just the other night I gave myself 5 two qt soapy water enemas and a clear water rinse for number 6. Felt great and wish I could climb up on the roof and tell the world. But I don't think the world wants to know. This site is a good place to talk. Thanks for your input.

Diamond,

Only you have control of your feelings. If you felt bad, it was because you allowed yourself to feel that way. The important thing is you shouldn't feel bad. It is my humble opinion that the majority of men fear anal stimulation. Not because they like it (which most do), but because they have some how connected anal fun with being gay. Don't get me wrong, I would imagine most gay men enjoy anal play, but it isn't what makes them gay. The male G-spot (the prostate gland), is stimulated in anal play. The enema is just one way to do that. And if another guy has such a violent reaction to anal stimulation, my money says he's tried it, enjoyed it, and ducked into the "if I like anal, I must be gay" hole (no pun intended...really!) 😃 Anyway, I look at us fellow enema lovers (male and female) as enlightened. If others think it is negative, it is their loss.

GB

Goldbug714,

Thank you for your well thought out response. I think you're right. You've made an interesting observation that I missed entirely. Could explain his forceful response. I guess I've always figured that it's not what you do but who you do it with that defines your orientation. Whatever. Anyway, most times I try to think that it's my body and mine to enjoy however many differnt ways that I want. I guess I need to think more in terms of being grateful for not being limited to a vanilla kind of life. Thanks again.

Diamond: Many of us felt lonesome when we discovered our intimate feelings and delight, especially when we tied it to the joy of orgasms; it's wonderful. Certainly, it might be viewed as an "odd" passion. And maybe it is. There's an old tale that "we can't change the spots on a leopard". How that fits here, I'm not sure. But others who don't understand or are critical of our playstuff is their loss. Along the way we find others who might try our play, and like it. Others won't -- and we shouldn't demean them. It's their loss. It seems that the saddest part of it all is that it's not too easy to find mates to play. But when we do it's a joy. But we must make a subtle attempt. They won't come knocking at our door unless we give them a clue. Enjoy and don't regret!

As a heterosexual male I have to confess that I have mixed experiences with anal play. My initial arousals were self-administered; not only do I find this be pleasurable, but it provides good source material for fantasies. With a partner the pleasure has been less successful; some discomfort generally detracts from arousal. It doesn't help that, so far at least, partners have not been comfortable with anal arousal themselves. So partner play remains almost entirely in the fantasy realm. But I don't think this is due to fear of being gay - if so it is buried very deep.

Completely agree with goldbug, most men are homophobic when it comes to anal anything. Fact is that prostate and anal stimulation is very enjoyable and most men are so fearful of the gay thing, they are not open to even trying it with masterbation. Personally ,I am hetero and have used enemas and anal stimulation since the teen years, now in my 50's, and feel sorry for guys who are too uptight to have experienced these things. They don't know what they've been missing! I don't feel the need to discuss it with closed minded folks, though, and don't care what others think on the subject!

Part of what makes the world go around is not everyone enjoys the same things - Just because someone does not enjoy enemas as you do that should not cloud your opinion of the other person or make you feel bad and "dirty" - Who knows what the persons enjoys that you might think is disgusting

The intimacy that draws us to play together (inside our pants, front or rear), is probably one of the most thought about pursuasions among us. Since we are warned about the transfer of potential disease, most of us are cautious, and hopefully take precautions to avoid troubles. When we generate or respond to opportunities to share -- some of us become quite passionate about the subject that result in fantasies, dreams, and the subject matter of our masturbation activities. And what's so negative about that? Sometimes the thought of direct connections with others seems paramount, and likely contains a lot of baggage. How nice that we have this forum to share!!

If you want to broach the subject rather openly, Fleet has plenty of items to help. For example, they not only have the enema man stuffed toy and Christmas tree ornament, but even an attractive Fleet Enema Man necktie, currently selling on eBay for about $20! That should bring comments.

(I don't have time now to repeat my usual reply on this subject - condensed, it is to start with the pretty interesting enteric nervous system in the intestines. I'm leaving town for my temporary assignment at noon, so this will be my last posting for a while. Nice to be back briefly.)

- jillie

Diamond,

Your friend gave an exaggerated response. That's a clear sign he has closet issues he can't deal with. Shakespeare said it best,

"Sir, me thinks thou protesteth too much."

People get jealous that/when you/we have a deeper understanding of life and the guts to explore the Taboos that will haunt and limit them their entire life! Many people thrive on being told what to do, how to believe, and what to think, they get very uncomfortable when people such as us know how to think, chose what to do, and think what we wish! The puritan sheeple are jealous of our freedom!