I feel that too many lie about gender here!

Should it be ok to lie about your gender on this site? where would it end, i know very little about maintaining a site, but wouldn't this just encourage everybody to set up multiple profiles? i've seen it already here folks blaitint disrespect for others by spamming a thread simply cause they disagree. what about the sissy's here too? i can understand people who want and need sex changes but not those who live in fantasy worlds and want to step in and out... surely the folk who desire to be female agree??? it's not something you toy with and step in and out of willy nilly

I don't know any good reason why should that be allowed or why would someone do that. If you lie - in the end you are always revealed anyway.

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I have to agree with the whole be honest point, My info says male because at this time i am physically male, although i know in my heart and soul that i am female in spirit, and as such i have been looking into gender reassignment. and believe me if i do go all the way and get the paper work to take to the social security office to officially change my gender i will post on this board it is done and change my gender indicator. Basically i am saying if your paperwork says male you should list male if your paper work says female list female. You can add sayings to your page so when you post it can say Female trapped in male body but list your TRUE PHYSICAL gender in your main profile.

Fuzzybeans, you do have a interesting point there but what about those who are both sexes? No I am not trying to cover for anyone, just trying to see this from every prospective angle not just one.

Its really easy kids if you have a penis then your male, say so. if you have a vagina then your female and say so!!!! we understand you want to be a female if your male or male if your female we get that. all fuzzy is saying is just be honest about your sex that you are, not what you want to be. ill go first, i am male dont want to be a female. hence the name mamasboy!!! boy being the key word in that name!!! now if mommy decides i wear a dress then well that is her choice not mine to make LOL!!!!!!

If you want to lie, so be it. It's your prerogative, but if I find out that's what you're about, then to me you are then and there after a lair. From that time on I feel nothing you say can be taken for real. The boy who cried wolf is a good lesson.

We all lie about this or that, for a number of reasons, but not being true to who or what you are, to mislead others is not something that can be maintained for long, and it will put people off.

Glad to see the support and if your gender isn't listed perhaps taking it up with mr moderator here? although it's a seemingly impossible task to rid this or any forum for that matter of unwanted's, theres more harm done if folks just let these offenders slide - my request seems so noble now.... am gonna puke blah,... LoL

I wish people would be more honest about their gender. I mean I'm looking for a girl that's into diaper fetish like myself.

No lies for me! I am male and proud of it. I love my penis and love wearing diapers. Is wearing diapers a sexual thing? Yes, it probably is but it is part of me. I am gay and my partner is very supportive of my need to wear diapers. He probably more supportive because he is a female impersonator. At any rate I love diapers and always will. They are my kind of underwear. It has been very helpfull for me to have a site like this for all of us to share our feeling an thoughs with others. :😃 😉

I think you should have a profile with your real gender. Then have options that can be changed according to your changing veiws about what you are. Maybe a check list that can have multipult check marks. Say you are bi, or homosexual, or a sissy or a transexual, or are going to have a sex change. So a different box for all of those varrieties at a common with this particular fetish. Yes, it will be more work at first, but I think in the end it would end all of this questioning and get people to say what they are. However, I think the site should discourage people from lying and eliminate profiles that do not change their status correctly.

I know it should mean, but that way people can know who they are talking to, and it should have to take multipult hits that say you are lying about you gender in order to eliminate the profile from the system, and even then the profile should be given a chance to change it without getting it deleted. I know it sounds like big brother watching everyone, but this way it atleast makes everyone on the same playing field instead of some people thinking others are what they are not.

LAURA is my screen name and "M" is my gender. Any more questions?

May be I feel personally attack by this because a number of messages have been sent to me asking me to "Be there girl" when if they bothered to look at my profile they would know I am a want-a-be female. When I let them know I am physically male then it's like "Oh" , like I miss led then or lied. I didn't !

I also agree that choices other then M or F would be nice but rely not necessary. You are male or female then dam it , that's what your are, you don't have to like it , you can say you prefer to be the other like me, but there is no reason to lie.. Now may I ask , does it really matter ? I mean are you ever going to meet this person are you going to be happy having a love affair on line and never meeting are you going to feel cheated if you think your talking to a female and they are really male - hay can you see through you screen, I can't.

I say if your looking for some one to hook up with try a dating site or service and get back in to the real world. You can safely tell a prospective partner that you are into diapers just as well on those sites. As I understand , this site is geared more towards AB's and DL's just talking and having fun as opposed to a meeting place.This is ( or should be ) a place to relax and enjoy your fantasies. So a little gender bending is not the crime of the century is it ?

By the way Fuzzy very good post , lately there has been little here that sparked my interest . It's been like watching re-runs lately.

I think everybody should be free to choose his/her appearance here in the forum and anywhere in web. Obviously, for some people exactly THIS aspect of the anonymous web is interesting.. why bother? Where else can you be like you wish to be?

For me, my experience is better if I don't lie about things. Stuff is complicated enough already 😃

It is true that many people lie about their sex here. There is really no reason to do that, and it seems like a very dumb thing to do. I really don't care if someone is male or female, but I would like to know the truth. If someone will lie about their sex, what else are they telling you that is a lie?

What do people have to gain by lying about their gender anyway? It's not like you're going to get special treatment or more attention. Nobody cares about that stuff here... :😃

Well Lostamy, sometimes people like to, for a lack of a better term, fool people into thinking they are something else, or someone they are not.

For an example, sometime guys who want to be seen as female to see what responses they might get. They want other males to respond to them as if they are female. There would be nothing wrong in their wanting to be seen as female in itself. But, it's not right to try and fool someone into thinking you are what you are not. It would be better if people are just honest and up front about who they are. Like, for an example, you might say, I'm a male, but like to act like a female, or be treated as such. That way you can respect how they want to be treated, and they respect being honest with everyone else.

There's a bit more to it, but I think you can get the gist of it, and that's why it comes up as a topic.

We have the ability to dress ourselves in diapers and baby paraphernalia, which takes a lot of fortitude and daring. Why do we not have the moxie to give our gender. Seems sort of odd to me. We can't rule out the though that maybe their is a link to the same drive that brings people to cross dressing. I know cross dressers and have a few as Friends that love to do the baby girl AB/DL scenario. These gentlemen do not try to fool anyone about gender although they dress as baby girls. Why not be honest with us and tell the truth about gender. We are here for fun not judgement. ???

I like to dress a girl sometimes but i don't lie about my gender.I wouldn't want to be a girl on the internet anyways, it always seems like they get bothered alot.

I honestly can't think of any good reason to lie about my gender...

what use is it.

But as some people already stated... welcome to the internet

Gender is between the ears, but Sex is between the legs.

I'm female, and I'm going to stay female. One of my friends had an account here and was banned for false gender information. I like gender-neutral baby items, although I am a baby girl at heart. Yellow paci

I totally agree, you shouldn't lie about your gender, it will always come back and haunt you. I'm a male, I feel I should have been a female because I'm not happy as a male. It takes a lot of money that I don't have right now to get a sex change. I don't know if I can really call myself a cross dresser because in the end I'm still male. Yeah I do enjoy the female clothes but sometimes that just isn't good enough. So yes in the end I am just a male that is very unhappy with the body that I am in.......................

When the choices for gender are "male" or "female" some people can't be honest about there gender. The *most* honest I can be about my gender is "male to female transsexual living full time, but not on the waiting list for surgery due to fear about the surgery that is probably unfounded". Given the choice of "male" or "female" the most honest answer is "female". As 1) my ID says that 2) I'm medically female 3) most people identify me as female 4) while I don't identify as strictly female, I identify far more as female than male 5) what's between a person's legs should never matter unless a person is showing that to another person.

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If the gender question can't be answered by just "female" or "male" then please give a brief comment about your inner feelings in the introduction space on your profile. There you can be the true you.

I can see both sides of the controversy. I am male, heterosexual. The net is full of people finally able to "pretend" to be who they really want to be. I don't take it personally when someone is obviously pretending to be a different gender. That is their issue. Part of the problem is clinging to outdated and simplistic gender roles. Some native american tribes had four genders. Traditional male and female genders and feminine males and masculine females. Instead of being shamed, they were celebrated. I think gender and sexuality is on a gray scale, not black and white.

It is not that a man wants to be a female. It is that they are trying to trick someone. I was conversing with a female only for it to comeout she was a man. NOT COOL GUYS!

Uberman your one of only a few Modern World People that I have heard from in recent history, here at Zity.Biz. It was refreshing to read your post and it is very true. I honestly believe the entire World needs to get their heads out of the sand and realize male and female are no longer the black and white selections for gender. Now I do not want to get up on my soap box here and try to cure the World of it's woes. This discussion could go for days with no final decision being ever reached.

What I would like to say is that the people need not deceive the people they are posting with or like wise chatting with. This is Zity.Biz where we accept people such as myself in diapers to crossdressers and all Life Style Choices. We are all face value here and accepted for that. Please folks don't make the mistakes I made when I first came here and lose contacts and friendships over gender deception and false personalities, you will be the only loser. The loss of near and dear friends over a stupid deception hurt and never go away, and are rarely forgiven. You don't need those pains in your heart, believe me.

I kind of feel like both genders/sexes to be honest. Some days I want to be female, other days I'm happy to be male. I often times roleplay females in RPG's, but I also have male characters too. Generally speaking I don't pretend to be female around other people, and if they ask I just tell them the truth. I don't have a problem with others pretending, though, as I don't often look for serious relationships online.

Ideally, it would be great for me to be able to morph back and forth between male and female. I'm still fairly young, so maybe I'll live long enough for our technology to grant us that capability (like in Ghost in The Shell - my favorite anime). 😉

😎 Very cool Raymondtan63 look forward to chating some day in what ever you select to be.

Its all about what makes you comfortable I myself am an woman in her mid 30's and my gf is in her mid twenties. She is my baby and I love taking care of her and having a sensual relationship, breastfeeding will bond you despite anything else.

I myself don't like to lie, so if I was not 18 or old enough to be on here I wouldn't be. To lie about ones gender I have to ask why? Then in some cases I don't think I want to know. as long as matters of love do not get mixed in, I hate to be lied to when it comes to love. That is giving a person more trust then most anyone is worth; so as long as it does not get that bad I don't see much of a problem.

There are two threads running here - the original questioner was, I'm sure, referring to those who deliberately pretend to be of the opposite gender to their true gender - for what purpose, if there is a purpose, I can't determine.

The other thread is one in which people talk about genuinely feeling sometimes that they are 'in the wrong body' and it is with those people ! genuinely sympathise as to their confusion.

To those latter people I would say its perfectly fine to choose whatever gender to declare as theirs - but if it is different than their apparent bodily/birth gender to say so, to avoid confusion on the boards. You will find here on Zity people who will empathise with you and who will be willing to discuss your confusion with you, hopefully to help.

To those who deliberately state an opposite gender with intent to deceive I have nothing but disdain for you and for whatever reason you do this. There are a fairly large number of alleged 'females' who slip up eventually by referring to their 'cock and balls' or to their 'prostate', when of course they have neither. There are too, but fewer, those who are female but pretend to be male.

I've pretty well lost count of those who I chat to as female who go as far even as arranging or at least proposing a meeting and at the last moment almost will say 'actually, I'm male - does that make a difference?' well of course it does - I'm no liar and I won't tolerate for a moment those who are!