Reluctant spouse

I have indicated before that my wife is a little more reserved than me about enemas and/or anal play. Last night I convinced her that I really needed an enema and she agreed. After 2 bags, she decided she could use one to. This went well and one thing led to another. After a glass of wine, she douched and bathed and we had some great mutual oral sex followed by a great climax for both of us after changing to vaginal sex. She agreed that just maybe she could use another flushing this weekend!!

Sometimes,all it take is for your wife to help with an enema and when she sees how much you enjoy them,now she has to give it try.That how my first wife started,now if I can only get my second wife to do the same.

Let the good times flow.w/m73yrs/Western Ma

I hate to say this but sometimes you need to hammer a mosquito with a hammer instead of a fly swatter. Sometimes people need to be hit face on with what life really is.

Hi My name is Ron. I have loved enemas for years. I am also into anal sex. my girlfriend is very shy. How can I talk about enemas and anal sex with her? Any advice?

How about the "medical necessity" excuse? Ever fake constipation and ask for help with a suppository, which of course will NOT work, and then it's on to stronger measures?

That goes with the saying if I knew then what I know now. My wife too hates everything anal. I remember when she was pregnant the doctor perscribed some suppositories while she was sick.. She chose to not take the suppositories and ask for an oral medicine the next day.

There are a number of books available through Amazon.com on the subject of anal sex and enemas. These may make her more comfortable since the information is coming from a nuetral party and not a horny partner! It's always best to let her proceed at her on pace. Good luck.

I have finally convinced my wife to give me an enema from time to time, but after taking one herself, she would not have another. I subtly try to coax her to having one again but no dice

I guess she does not enjoy it

It is always a good idea never force anything on anybody if that person doesn't want it. If my wife hadn't asked for an enema for her first time I would have asked her if she wanted one. If she said no--that's fine. If she said yes--that's fine also. Do unto others as you would like them to do unto you.

I guess I would have to be satisfied with the fact that at least she gives me one

Isn't this like masturbation in a way?

Amazon carries Anal Sex for Couples which has a large section devoted to enemas. Worked for me in getting my wife past the you must be weird part. Now she is willing to give, and is very good at it.

My husband is so so lucky. I give him one once a week. He usually ejaculates midway--of course with some gentle help from me. Oh, he also gives them to me.

Yes, Gloria, your husband is very lucky, indeed! I a happy receiver only, can't even tell if I were very good at giving ...

Northern, Who gives you the enema? Wouldn't that person enjoy receiving one? I find giving just as enjoyable as receiving. I love to watch my husband's balls bob up and down while I massage his prostate with my fingers. By the time I put the nozzle in and start the flow his penis is erect. I like seeing him enjoy it so much.

Those of you who are reluctant to broach the subject just might find that this is exactly what you're partner is waiting for. If so, you'll find that the results are worth the risk!

There are several factors as to why a spouse will or will not participate in enemas I have noted after 50yrs with enemas.Age of the spouse is the first one.Younger woman are more willing to give new things a try while older spouses are more set in their ways.The attitude towards anal sex is another.My wife is dead against anything going in or touching her anus.Religion,some spouses believe is a sin to play with a the anus for sexual reasons.

If you have a spouse that gave an enema a try,but did not enjoy the experiance,I would say something was not done carefully enough.You need to be extremely patient with someone who is for the very first time is trying to experince what you take for granted.The comfort of the spouse during an enema should a priority.

My wife doesn't care for them at all. It takes her forever, and then some, to expel them. They go in fine, and she likes that feeling, but lordy, she will be running back to the head for hours. So rarely will she allow me to give her one. And she has pretty much said that no way will she give one to me. No idea why.

My wife and I have been into enemas since before marriage, now 45 years. She is somewhat reluctant, but always willing to play under the right circumstances, usually when traveling and away from the family. I think the interest is something that grows with nurturing and good experiences along the way. TLC buys a lot.

I have found different approaches to this conundrum with different women. One partner wanted anal play, and I obliged her by inserting one, two and eventually three fingers in he behind. Even before the first finger went in, I was searching for her G-spot in her vagina with fingers of my other hand. After I found it (I think!?), inserted a second finger into her anus. In each case, I played with her anus before a finger went in and told her what I was going to do so she wouldn't be so bothered by the penetration and/or additional stretching of her anus. In both cases, I also added extra lube to insure a pleasant entry for her. If this sounds confusing, think of it as vaginal stimulation, then anal stimulation, then more vaginal stimulation, then more anal stimulation.

When and if I encountered fecal material, then I would continue to stimulate both vagina and anus until she came. My purpose for leaving my fingers in her ass was to make sure that she saw this activity as erotic and would want it again. When I pulled my fingers out of her ass, I would remark that her rectum wasn't empty and that perhaps we should give her a small enema before we do this again so that she was absolutely clean inside. While some rejected the idea of an enema, I told them I would use a bulb rather that a full bag, and this tack usually brought down their resistance. Most of the women that I approached in this manner eventually became enamored with full enemas and would usually give as well as receive.

The other tactic that worked well for me was to ask her to give me an enema, usually for health / medical reasons. As I was receiving the enema (lying on my back), I would always develop an erection, and encourage further sexual anal play. Most companions figured that if I was getting turned on they might have the same reaction. Once they had expressed interest, I proceeded as about with small steps until they wanted more.

My wife, bless her soul, had to travel to upstate Ohio in between Columbus and Cleveland with a brother and sister for her older sister's funeral a couple of weeks ago. She really does not travel well and usually becomes very constipated as a result. Well, this was this trip was no different. She called me and said she felt absolutely awful. At that point, she was more than 400 miles from home. I knew she needed help and she did too!

But, I also knew, for a fact, that she would not take a bag enema. So, I went shopping, in a neighboring town, visiting numerous chain and mom and pop drug stores looking for a small bulb syringe. I just knew that if I found one I could warm some olive oil and get her to let me inject some slowly into her rectum. I just knew that if I did it just right, it would not only relieve her problem, but also be quite soothing in the process and possibly change her, open, dislike for enemas of any kind.

Well, as you might guess, I found none. As a result, I decided to go to the infant isle of Wal-Mart and see if that store had small "nose sucker" syringe that I could substitute for a small bulb enema. Well, I found one and put it into my shopping cart. I, then, went to the drug department and found a Wal Mart brand of "Fleet" enemas and put that into my cart as well. I, personally, totally dislike "Fleet" enemas of any kind. They burn and cause cramps, etc., which was something I did not want my wife to experience.

Meanwhile, her younger sister, who is a nurse got her some glycerin suppositories and some Dulcolax laxative tablets. I guess you know which of the four options she chose to use when she got home. The small nasal sucker type syringe and the Equate brand twin pack enemas still sit in the bathroom cabinet. A missed opportunity, I must say....Maybe another chance will come... I hope so.... But, maybe not..... Anyway, I'll just keep on taking and enjoying my enemas much to my wife's dismay.

I have been trying to get my wife into this scene for over 25 years. I am a great salesmen but I can crack her. I am doomed to have this as a side part of my life.