Anal Fiend afraid of Enemas

My wife is a huge fan of anal eroticism, but is having a hard time getting interested in enemas. I've never administered an enema on another person either. She mentions rumors of problems with having enemas too frequently... which being somewhat new at this myself, have a hard time quelling her fears.

Any suggestions are welcome.

Just take it easy - try once a week and not more than two to start with. Let her know that you are concerned about her fears. Let her read some of the comments from others on this forum. Good luck.

My suggestion would be for you to have your wife give you enemas frist..She could see your recponse and how aroused you become..After a few enemas given by her, then you can suggest that she let you give her one..

Make it slow and gentle. Lots of touching and caressing...Be very verbal during the entrie proceedure and make it as erotic as you can...

Fetishes are a funny thing..Either the person loves the activity (enemas) or has absolutly no idea what pleasures we receive from just thinking about them, much less taking or giveing them..So be patient..Unfortunatly your wife may never understand what pleasures we receive..But at least she is willing to give it a try....

Has she expressed why she's having a hard time getting interested in enemas? Is she afraid of cramping or uncomfortable pressure in the colon? Is she afraid of leaking? Is she concerned about expelling? Is she shy about you seeing her with a swollen belly? Is she scared that you will want her to retain the enema? Is it the submissive nature of being given an enema that makes her reluctant?

If you can determine the reason, maybe you can address it so she becomes more comfortable with the idea. Then, perhaps you can start with a rectal douche (for clean anal play) instead of some big bulging bag and hose that could be intimidating. If she's anally erotic, you know what to do "back there" to get her excited. Then further stimulate her with a well-lubed nozzle. Slowly administer a small rectal douche while bringing her to climax.

Good luck!

A.

Thumper: You say that she is hugely into anal play. Does that include her playing with your rear? If so, I would try what Michael suggested and try to have her give to you first. Would be less threatening to her, and once she sees how it turns you on she might be more inclined to try, to get some of that feeling for herself.

That is how I got my wife giving to me. She has a lifelong dislike of enemas, due to the monthly ones her mom gave her. She did them very badly, way too much soap and really burned.

But I also knew from her reactions when I would sneak a finger up her ass during intercourse that she is anal erotic. We had never talked about it before, but a few months ago I came right out and asked her if she enjoyed that finger up her rear, and she somewhat shyly admitted that she did. I used that as an opening, my approach with her was that since she enjoyed something up her butt (we have also done anal intercourse once in awhile), what was wrong with me liking mine played with, or having an enema nozzle up there once in awhile?

The way I did it was something you might find useful as well. It is a trick we both have used at times when we have something important to discuss: We write notes to each other. Sounds silly, but has a couple of advantages: The person sending the note has time to organize their thoughts and get them across completely and clearly. The reader can get the whole idea that the writer is expressing, without interruptions or emotional confrontation. Works for us anyway!

Anyway, bottom line (pun intended) is that my approach worked, and she recently gave me a very erotic enema...

Hope some of these ideas help!

Warren

I would create a relaxed and erotic atmosphere, perhaps with wine and candles. Begin with a soft massage of her back, move slowly to her bottom, try soft anal play and then softly ask her if she let you try to give her an enema, showing her the already prepared equipment. Or let her give you one first.

Playing in bathtub could also be a good foreplay, as it is very relaxing.

Yes, slow and small would be the way to start her. Make the mood sexy and suggestive. Let her be the one that says when she has had enough. If she doesn't mind your being with her when she expells, hold her and whisper sweet nothings into her ear.

If she likes anal play it is far more safer if she is cleaned out. what if there is a mishap? you need to be clean. Let her give you one and do you with a toy she wanted to try.....

Yes, a small disposal enema before anal sex is easy and not intimidating...and it can be a "gateway enema" to other things