MEN: has a woman ever made a sexual request that you were unwilling to grant?

A long time ago when I was quite strong in the sex dept, a girl ask me to suck her toes. I refused her. I also told her I would kiss, lick or do anything else to her, but not her toes.

This may stray a bit. Let's see. How shall I put this.

I'm not very literate here. Sex has never left my mind in my 62 years. 99% of what I'm asked to do I will do for the "hers" in my life. My drive is always ready to go, but with diabetes my dick won't cooperate. More than a couple of times I've been laughed at and called limpy,

but I always indulge their wants 99%. Take heart.

Ya ain't alone.

When we were young 17 & 18 my girlfriend (Wife Now Of Many Years) refused regular sex until after we were married. She loved and still loves oral sex and she desired it all the time and in a number of places. Back then we had drive in movies to go to. A hot spot for young lovers. The nick name was the "Passion Pit" One such night she asked me to pleasure her orally. She told me she was having her period and I balked at that. Being a good catholic boy we knew that was a horrible thing to even talk about. She made it clear to me that unless I loved her all the time that she would not consider me loving her at all. She told me she was clean and I had hurt her feelings. So I went ahead and gave this a try. I'll describe it as being something close to spiritual love and it was special. I loved this and it broke the ice about anything being secret between the both of us. In all our years oral sex during menstruation was exciting. It was not that horrible act religion and some people make it out to be. I think it was the base of our becoming best friends and soul mates.

My wife has had trouble with constipation from time to time. Twice I've had to manually remove hard stool from her rectum with my fingers in order for her to empty her bowels. She refused to go to her doctor. She will only see female doctors and I told her I was not sure about this manual thing. She insisted I try it because she did not want to tell the doctor she "Could Not Crap!" I got some information on the internet and I took care of her. It was a bit messy but to tell the truth it was also quite exciting. I knew it felt good to her in a way because my fingers in her bottom brought her to orgasm.

Other than these two things there has never been anything I've not been able to agree to do. We have fun but we never swing, swap or fool around with other people. It's just the two of us.

gynylon28

The request which was difficult was when my lover wanted to use a strap-on on me, but I trusted her and relented. It was a fun experience, but I was apprehensive.

The one I couldn't do was when she wanted me to inflict too much pain on her. I just could not bear to do it. I love pleasure, and know that a little pain can increase pleasure, but her request on this occasion went too far.

What about when you SO never ask you to do or try anything. In our 40+ years I can't think of her asking me to do anything sexual. If anything new is done or tried..it's me making the first move...most of the time it's rejected and we are back to just normal sex. I am not saying this is bad beacause others on this site are far worse off..but at times bored and frustrated is how I am left.

My most recent ex partner is the only real partner that I have actually been open with sexually. One could say that we are both freaks in the bedroom. There is only one thing I have ever refused and that was when she wanted me to cut her because of her blood fetish. She wasn't very surprised when I said no. The other thing she wanted was for me to pretend to choke her. I was hesitant at first but then when I realised that I wasn't actually hurting her and how much she got off I didn't mind. It still doesn't turn me on but yea. I will try just about anything with a partner. She also tried wearing diapers for me when I asked and now actually enjoys age play aswell. I still only realy like the dl part of it.

My now-wife liked to be taken forcefully and restrained which pushed my comfort zone. But I played along 😉

Dear egirlky,

you asked for actual denials: yes, there is one for an early girl-friend of mine. She wanted to do it on a raised blind. I was doubtful since the whole construction seemed to be a bit ancient and said "Nope, won't go up there!". She started climbing up calling me a coward when the 4th or 5th step broke and she (very inelegantly) fell to the ground. Fortunately nothing happened. I tried to console her right there in the grass afterwards lol !

Couldn't get the thread out of my mind. Seriously:

A man who turns down a sexual request of his female lover?

I wish I ever came in the vicinity of giving it a thought!

Having a vanilla partner I sometimes can't believe that she herself doesn't seem to have any interest in kinks.

We share a little anal play once in a while (she receiving) and a bit of oral sex and I often think: Well that's a heck of a lot better than no sex or kinky sex but every-day life with the kids going down the drain.

So I look for ways around it and reading all of your comments and writing about kinks gives me the impression to be kind of a normal person, even sexually.

(But then again, who - at the very sincere bottom of one's heart - really wants to be a "normal" person?)

There was a woman I was intimately involved with between 91-92 that I had become friends with in the prior 5 years. For two days during that period of time, she indicated that she wanted me to engage in rough sex play involving severe, bordering on injurious BD/SM. I politely, gently, yet absolutely refused. When we initially got together, she knew and accepted that I did not and would not go that way.

G.N.

I could not have said it better. Just because someone wants something to happen, it doesn't mean they'll allow just any old person to do it. So many people assume that if a person has a particular fantasy that let anyone fulfill it but that just isn't true. It has to be with someone they trust and someone very special to make things happen and only when the time is right.

I have different lovers with different needs and as you say, different levels of kink. One of mine is strictly vanilla. The other a mix of vanilla and kink-light. And another a whole bunch of kink with a little vanilla. I adapt my activities for each situation and never push anyone toward something they're not comfortable with.

Ahh, who really defines what is an "abnormal kink"? And we all have known about psychologists/psychiatrists who were "out of the loop."

Hi all,

Reading these posts reminded me of a line from an old off Broadway Play,"The Fantastics" Luisa, the leading lady, says,"Please God Please, don't let me be 'Normal!!'"..... smiles everyone!

with a "click!!,"

highwater

Call me a push over but I have never denied a request from a female

I can honestly say that I have not yet denied a request from a lover. Not that I've had that many, but I've always been the kinkier of us. Maybe it comes from the old addage, "Never sleep with anyone crazier than yourself."

I can't imagine anything my wife could ask me that i wouldn't be eager to try.

Just the idea that she would ask me, makes me horny. I don't recall her ever making even the slightest request in 33 years - even when I ask her what she likes.

I would venture to say that men are more apt to comply with a request from their woman than women are from their man.

Don't think she ever made a request that I didn't at least try to deliver on.

Yes, sometimes there is reluctant agreement, especially when the request is "not tonight".

I'm sure Susie could come up with a few that would scare the shit out of me 😃

Well, Doug, with all her enema recipes, she certainly knows how to get the shit out of you.

I think I would do virtually anything my partner wanted me to do. I certainly have never been asked to do anything that I wouldn’t.

There are few sexual requests I would not accept. If she wanted to crap on me then no!

Nothing that I can think of. I am willing to try just about anything once.

No. My last two exes accepted and were enthusiastic about all of my 5-6 major kinks. In fact, my 2nd ex-wife, after we'd been married for a few months, revealed to me that her fondest sexual desire was for her husband to give her enemas to combine with sex. She had never been able to disclose or admit that to her first, late husband, as he was a minister. Perhaps needless to say, I was delighted, especially as she had been giving me erotic enemas for months by then. We really enjoyed trading enemas after that.

Eric

One gal I went with for a few years had a thing for having sex during her period. She like seeing my dick all bloody. I very reluctantly did it.... Thinking back, don't know how I could stay hard...

One gal I went with for a few years had a thing for having sex during her period. She like seeing my dick all bloody. I very reluctantly did it.... Thinking back, don't know how I could stay hard...

We had sex during my wife's period - no big deal! Can't say for sure - but I think she was more aroused/sensitive/.

One gal I went with for a few years had a thing for having sex during her period. She like seeing my dick all bloody. I very reluctantly did it.... Thinking back, don't know how I could stay hard...

I LOVE period sex. The only difference is that on days I am bleeding heavily, we use added lubricant because the blood clots tend to make the slip and slide a bit more grainy and less smooth.

Someone told me the reason for the graininess was the egg shells.

Someone told me the reason for the graininess was the egg shells.

😮 🙄 😁

I would say that in general, I have always been willing to grant any request a woman has made to me. If I declined it was either that I did not feel well enough to engage in that activity or I was not comfortable enough with that person. I think the not feeling well enough pretty much explains itself. Not being comfortable, for me, can mean a few things. If I am not as emotionally interested in the woman as I perceive or she has expressed she is in me, that could be why. I hate giving false hope besides the fact that it is just mean. On the other hand, the request could be outside of my interests enough that I would not even attempt it. Although, I will try almost anything twice. 😃

@SwitchableSusie: I LOVE period sex.

Some men have to pull strings in order to get this...

My GF wanted me to fuck her best friend I had an experience like this before didn't really work out that well. I think it would be okay if it was a 3 way but her friend had been dumped and she thought It make her get over it. I just think it was the wrong reason to do it. We had been drinking some the subject wasn't brought up again the next day. I just left it at that it was a number of years ago when we were in our 30's were in our mid 50's now. She also wanted to cross dress me in her cloths and makeup I never had any sexual want to dress like a woman. Not really sure why she wanted to do that I think she is little be bi-sexual. She is kind of a tomboy in some ways and gets hit on by girls sometimes when we are out they come up start talking to her which she hates. I always laugh when I see it and she tells me to shut up about it she claims only to be sexually attracted to men. I think she wants to be fucked by a cross dressed man which is odd but everyone likes something.