Now what... ?

So about three or four months ago I told my b/f about liking to wear diapers. He seemed okay about it, but then kinda nothing. I tried bringing it up a few times and he even put one on me once, but he always seems to grow distant when it comes up. The odd thing is, he even brought it up once when he read about that diaper fashion show in Tokyo a few weeks back...

Part of me what to press the issue, but part of me is worried that it will push him away. Part of the problem though is that I can only really get "worked up" with diaper play, which is something I really don't like. I want to get "worked up" other times but that gets me thinking about the diaper thing, which then makes me think about how it makes him uncomfortable which ruins the mood. The result is that we aren't "romantic" often, which upsets him because he thinks I'm not interested. (wow, run on sentence much?).

Please don't say "Just do it" or "Just push the diapers" because I can't really do that. I need to think of a way to do it that's ... gentle. Any practical advice?

Thanks all.

c.

My heart goes out to you... there are so many guys who would love to be in your b/f situation having a girl into diapers!

Practical advice? At least you have been open with him, and there has to be a compromise somewhere. He's not phased by it, OK. He has gone along with you and diapers sometimes, good. What is he taken by, if anything? Ask what he particularly likes and push that with him even if you are not taken with it. Then you both can easily 'give and take'. If diapers are really important to you and he truly will not play along, then you need to look deeper into things and your life with him. If everything else in the relationship is A1 then you have to live with a life of 'diapers alone'. Many do. Otherwise look around for someone who will share it. You're young enough (3^3 or thereabouts 😉 )...

Good luck whatever you do - hope it works out.

Thats a bummer kiddo!!! but hey this is not for everyone . if he has tried diaper play with you already hes only thinkng n the form of pleasing you becasue its your thing. But it sounds as if hes undecided or not intrested in it. so i say lay off a while and see what his kink is and do some of thta with him, he may turn the favor over to you with a good old diapering . but who knows he may just not like the diaper play or feel uncomfrotable with it. some people may feel its incest type thing and get turned off by that . but like i said he sounds like he wants to please you by trying things that turn you on , maybe you cna return the favor with his kink no matter what it is. maybe when he sees its not all about you he may think, ahhh she is kinda cute with that diaper on and her butt sounds cute when she walks crinkle crinkle, come here baby girl and daddy will change you. you never know unless you try, love and kink are a two way street that takes both parties to play .good luck baby girl if not move south the usa all kinds of guys who will take a diapered girl for a day out to the mall with baby LOL!!!

Ouch! That is some problem.

Like you probably already know from my other posts, discovering DL play worked very easily for us - none of the challenging psychology that you describe.

I'd try wearing and wetting under your normal clothes once in awhile - not to be "in his face", or in the expectation that it will immediately turn him on, but because it turns you on he may catch on that this is a good thing. Let him know that you have a puffy butt, but drop it there - it is your interest, does not have to be his too. Can't think of any other "gentle" way.

My honest, but unhelpful, viewpoint is: kink is only long term fun when it works for both parties. My wife and I are into a wide range of alternative activities. They are fun because we both enjoy them and find them very erotic. My online DL couple friends report the same thing - the reason it is so much fun is that both people are turned on by it. It would not be sexy if one party was "acting".

And yes, look for something that turns you both on. Find out what menu items turn him on, if you're lucky, some will work for you too, big time. But if he is as un-enthused about DL games as it sounds, I'd not expect him to suddenly "convert".

Thank you all three for answering. I got a PM here and I nearly left the site again because it was so callous (and sexual). You three help remind that they're something of a minority. 😃

Anyway, as for trying to find a kink of his, I have but without luck. He's pretty straight-laced. He said a while back that he didn't mind if I wore them "during the day", but whenever I think about wearing them I think about the unsaid bit "but not at night". That just reminds me that he's not comfortable with it and I have a really hard time enjoying it when I think it's making him uncomfortable. I really need his positive feedback for it to be worth it.

Sometimes I think "well, if I wear them for a while, he might come around" but again, I can't seem to bring myself to do it. I get all self-conscious and think that he thinks I'm weird or not right in the head. Heck, *I* think that sometimes, when you step back and think about it.

*sigh*... I feel lost. 😢

c.

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Thank you all three for answering. I got a PM here and I nearly left the site again because it was so callous (and sexual). You three help remind that they're something of a minority. 😃

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I hope you reported that PM sender. That unpleasant sort makes life very difficult for girls to be open - and you are very much treasured by the majority of blokes here.

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*sigh*... I feel lost. 😢

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Awwww ((((((((huge hug)))))))) Stick with it, and know you have some friends on here with whom you can chat and get ideas. My heart goes out to you. If it really is making things uncomfortable and diapers mean a lot to you (as they do to me) you have a lot of deeper soul searching to do about life and the future. We'll always chat and try to help. (((((hug)))))

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Uhoh poppie has the belt that guy better beware LOL> no problem canucistanian were alwasy lad to help. and the moderator is right if you get bad pm's or feel a post is inapropiate send the message to him and it will be taken care of. as for your bf well paitnece is a must but it sounds like you have some choices to make in life . what do need more him or the diapers ? if him then its easy if diapers then its easy. but it seems to me like it needs to be one or the other , all im gona sya is our fetish never goes away for some reason all the way to death. its in our blood and diapers LOL!!!! sorry we cant be of mmore help to ya but its a thing of personnel choice not ours so good luck and like sandy said were always here to lend a ear to ya.

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I get all self-conscious and think that he thinks I'm weird or not right in the head. Heck, *I* think that sometimes, when you step back and think about it.

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Nope, you are just fine.

First Rule of Kink: If it injures no one and does not involve minors, it is OK.

Don't overanalyze - it it turns you on, it turns you on. Full stop. We (as in my wife and I) cannot begin to "justify" the things that turn us on, but, thank heaven's, we do not try. We just enjoy ourselves. Sure, some things look darn silly in post-orgasm retrospect, but who cares, they "made sense at the time"!

All the best!

Lol, see, that is exactly the kind of thing I needed to hear. 😃 Doesn't help solve the problem itself, but it lifts my spirits, so thank you.

c.

AWWW BIG HUGG FOR YOU KIDDO 😁 😁 😁 😁 no problem glad we couldbrighten your day!!!! now go get tha man of yours a diaper and tellhim hey boy put this on me or im gonna out it on you and make ya use it!!! that might help....... or not LMAO!!!